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fastlane -> Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 5:47:37 PM)
Why a Master would continue to wait for the perfect slave/submissive and not play with anyone in the mean time? growing older by the second, Kevin

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 5:48:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fastlane Why a Master would continue to wait for the perfect slave/submissive and not play with anyone in the mean time? growing older by the second, Kevin They might not find casual play to be good or interesting for them.

Wulfchyld -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 5:51:51 PM)
Perhaps casual play is not his/her kink.

fastlane -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 6:05:39 PM)
I'm not the one into casual play and I have never been. No stable here LA...LOL But, I am stable...the 4 partners I have been with in two years...I sure as hell hope, would agree with that? In the mean time...I am waiting for the one to call....just mine!

sickbastd -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 6:52:15 PM)
The thought that comes to my mind in answer to the question is that in my case is that playing with just anyone doesn't do it for rme any more. If I can't reach somone on a level deeper then that which manifests itself following "hello, how are you?" and "please beat me master" I just don't have time. The good old fun days of walking into the closest S&M bar and snatching somone off a bar stool and dragging them home for a quick ass beating and a fast fuck are history; been there, done that. If I met every wannabe slave that contacted me it would be a full time occupation and frankly not many can afford the tarriff. Don't even get me started on the cyber wankers, game players, clueless twinks who want to dictate what the scene will be and pretend massochists who want safe words and other safety nets..

CERCKL -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 7:00:31 PM)
I have never really been into 'just play' ever...vanilla, D/s, friendships, what have you...personally, I value my time enough that I choose who I desire to spend it with (obviously, look at how much time I've spent on these forums <g>)...but personally, I'ld rather be with myself than with someone who didn't intrigue me, interest me, captivate me to a large degree...be it intellectually, sexually, whatever. Explains why I have such a busy damned social life. C

slavejali -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 7:43:46 PM)
Off topic..but I sure had a giggle over sickbastards screen-name grin

BitaTruble -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 7:45:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fastlane Why a Master would continue to wait for the perfect slave/submissive and not play with anyone in the mean time? growing older by the second, Kevin Interesting question. I'm waiting to see if anyone will admit it's because they can't find partners. ;) Personally, for me, I didn't wait. I played with people who attracted me, intrigued me, who had energy, who were just plain fun or any combination of the above and it allowed to me to expand myself, my techniques and my experience so that by the time I met Himself ::and he also played a lot:: we were each ready for one another. Worked well for us, but can understand wanting to wait for someone special. I didn't do the sex thing, just the S/m pain thing, so perhaps that's why I have the mind set that I do. I'm not much for waiting around for life to begin.. I want to live it while I have it to live. Celeste

LadyMorgynn -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 7:47:01 PM)
Or even a Mistress <grin> How's this: Because we're not willing to settle for less than what We want? :) quote: ORIGINAL: fastlane Why a Master would continue to wait for the perfect slave/submissive and not play with anyone in the mean time? growing older by the second, Kevin

piscess -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 8:02:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fastlane I'm not the one into casual play and I have never been. No stable here LA...LOL But, I am stable...the 4 partners I have been with in two years...I sure as hell hope, would agree with that? In the mean time...I am waiting for the one to call....just mine! Maybe casual play just bores you. I know it bores me. There is something about that connection to a person that is just missing in the casual play. piscess

Evanesce -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 8:24:25 PM)
quote: Or even a Mistress <grin> How's this: Because we're not willing to settle for less than what We want? :) Precisely. And that's why I've always gone several months (and as much as several years) between relationships. Because I'm not willing to settle. That, and I didn't want to have to deal with breaking things off with the one I didn't want when the right one did come along. It's like buying a couch you hate just to have something to sit on until you can afford the couch you really want. Why waste the money?

shyfem -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 8:48:14 PM)
And I can find none so far who want more than casual play sigh

talibahh -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 9:44:25 PM)
now i know You addressed this to the Masters, but i'm gonna answer anyhow. i have had lots of offers to "play", but have graciously declined. Why? Because for me, it's not about the "play". Not entirely anyway. For me the thing of paramount importance is the connection. The dynamic. The bond formed between two who do connect. For me, the Ownership comes first. To be collared. And then comes the pleasures of "play". To be HIS toy, HIS girl...whatever the case maybe. And not merely be someone's slut, for the sake of "play". Now i know some may jump on this and say "how do you know you will be compatible in play, if you don't try first?"... well.. if the bond is there, the connection... then W/we play and see, perhaps under a "trial collar", (for example), then if all goes well... OVER TIME, as relationships worthwhile, take time to build, then comes the permanent collar of total Ownership and belonging. Not everyone's gonna agree, i know... but this is just me... humbly... tali

LaMalinche -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/17/2006 11:49:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fastlane Why a Master would continue to wait for the perfect slave/submissive and not play with anyone in the mean time? growing older by the second, Kevin Because they have all or nothing thinking? And this goes for Masters, Mistresses, Subs, Slaves. . . they get so caught up in looking for "THE ONE" that they overlook making friends and other aquantainces. The goal becomes finding a life partner and things such as hanging out togeather, having coffee, or just seeing a movie togeather gets forgotten. Just my two cents. . . Best, LaMalinche Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.

RavenMuse -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/18/2006 2:14:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fastlane Why a Master would continue to wait for the perfect slave/submissive and not play with anyone in the mean time? The only one I can think of Kev is that they may choose not to. I'm looking for the girl I want to collar LTR wise.... I don't particularly look for play, but do I turn it down if some bonny young bunny offers me a bit of fun along the way? Like hell I do [:D]

Dustyn -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/18/2006 3:06:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fastlane Why a Master would continue to wait for the perfect slave/submissive and not play with anyone in the mean time? growing older by the second, Kevin Would you run around boffing someome just to pass the time til you found someone? - Dustyn

VandalHeart -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/18/2006 3:34:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dustyn Would you run around boffing someome just to pass the time til you found someone? - Dustyn Hells yeah!!! And while we're on the subject, if that so called special someone doesn't have the capability of dealing with it, then they can go outside and play a nice game of hide and go fuck themselves. I recently had a discussion with someone I thought would be a romantic interest over the phone, and upon mentioning something I read that she didn't agree with, she refused to talk to me ever again. If there isn't even enough room for casual discussion on a subject, then there is certainly no room for a real relationship. Fuck 'er. It wasn't even one of those things I hold near and dear to my philosiphies.

CanadianGuy -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/18/2006 3:59:11 AM)
I've never played casually. For many years (before I was married) it was because I was brought up religiously. Then I was married through my 20s, and was faithful. Now, separating (divorcing in the future) I have my girl and she doesn't ask me to be faithful to her but I choose to be. There are girls (vanilla and otherwise) who are in varying states of love, lust, and submission to me, both in real life and online. Rarely will I play online to any degree, and never in real life. I only want my little girl and can't wait to have her in my arms again. If she wasn't in my life, I'm not sure. I don't have an overwhelming urge to fuck random females. I love sex, absolutely love it... but having a connection with the person is very important to me. It doesn't have to be love, but SOMETHING needs to be there. Intense attraction, a control aspect, or both hopefully.

LaMalinche -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/18/2006 4:09:37 AM)
“I have maintained an extreme level of anger and solitude over peroids of my life...And in doing so I've developed into a devil...So in order to know me is to accept an angelic demon.” One of VandalHeart's mottos Best, LaMalinche

heartfeltsub -> RE: Is there ever a good reason? (5/18/2006 4:54:02 AM)
Not wanting to hijack this thread, but what is the definition of casual play. To me casual play means i am not looking for a long term relationship with the other person, but that doesn't mean that i don't have a relationship with them. The Doms that i play with regularly, i have spend time talking with all of them and i would consider all of them to be my friends, so there is a connection. So by your definition of casual, would that still be casual? heartfelt

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