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Youngest Dom you'll ever love - 7/17/2011 11:41:27 PM

Doom127

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I've been doing this since I turned 18 so about a year now and even know my "techniques" may not be like others they still enjoy it, I have done my fair share but since being on this site I feel looked over because of my age. I'm just looking for a female sub, or slave, I can enjoy and hope they can enjoy also, I just recently departed with my last sub because of location issues. Please send me a message, I love getting to know new people

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RE: Youngest Dom you'll ever love - 7/17/2011 11:46:44 PM

myotherself

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Welcome Doom!

Just a word of friendly advice - young Doms tend to find it difficult to find submissive partners. It's a 'numbers game' double-whammy. You're young, and there are more Doms than femsubs. Two strikes against you before you even start.

So your profile is your tool. Make it speak to the person you're hoping to attract. You may not have huge amounts of experience, but that may not matter much. What DOES matter is that you appear as the kind of guy a gal would like to trust and (hopefully) submit to. At the moment yours looks like a gauche pick-up line.

Do yourself a favour, do a rewrite and tell us all about the man behind the Dom. And hopefully you will attract the sub of your dreams

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RE: Youngest Dom you'll ever love - 7/17/2011 11:59:56 PM

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good advice so far and get rid of the pic of a girl kissing you. No girl wants to talk to someone while staring at you with someone else.

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RE: Youngest Dom you'll ever love - 7/18/2011 12:11:45 AM

Doom127

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Thank you guys :) I hope it helps

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RE: Youngest Dom you'll ever love - 7/18/2011 12:13:12 AM

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I've seen this a lot, but I've honestly never felt held back by my age. There are those who are initially worried that I might have no idea what I'm doing, but if I demonstrate ability and (perhaps more importantly) stability that seems to fall away. In the end it's all about letting people get to know you and working from there. If who you are is worth submitting to, your age will cease to matter.

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RE: Youngest Dom you'll ever love - 7/18/2011 3:23:39 AM

DarthVaderOfLove

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Grow a beard and tell people you're 25. Worked for me.

Also, maybe try and hook up with younger girls. Be sane and safe and kind. Help new subs discover themselves and their limits. That kind of thing. A lot of older Doms are impatient, maybe even jaded and women up into their 30s+ are probably going to want experienced guys. You original note seems like you are inexperienced, which isn't a bad thing for girls that are still checking out the whole thing. You've got looks and youth on older Doms. A lot of women my age don't care if I'm hairy old slouch. Younger girls, though...different story. Shoot for newer women like 18 to 24 or so. One thing I can tell about you from this post...you are a "real" person. That counts for lot. Don't try to be something you aren't. A lot of people do and it's a real downer.

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RE: Youngest Dom you'll ever love - 7/18/2011 5:47:19 AM

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Look at Palliata's posts and profile. He's barely older than you, but carries himself well. Hint - he spends time on his writing, including his spelling, and hat helps a lot online.

And see if your local area has a TNG grooup.

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RE: Youngest Dom you'll ever love - 7/18/2011 6:50:20 AM

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Welcome To CM

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RE: Youngest Dom you'll ever love - 7/18/2011 11:24:15 AM

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Welcome to CM and the boards. Good luck in your search.

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RE: Youngest Dom you'll ever love - 7/18/2011 3:04:20 PM

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Word of advice from one young Dom to another. Search through vanilla relationships, you would be surprised how carrying yourself as a Dom may attract female sub. That's how I did it. Any who, welcome to the CM.

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RE: Youngest Dom you'll ever love - 7/18/2011 4:15:45 PM

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Giermo's right. One thing I have found is that a lot of women have D/s, or other kinky, fantasies. The key is to be trustworthy and honest. If a "vanilla" woman knows that you honestly care about her, aren't going to run around telling your friends, aren't going to use the experience against her later, that you hear "no" loud and clear, you would be amazed what many women are curious about.

I've been with women before, often recently single, who've I've gotten close to, who have expressed/followed through with desires every bit as kinky and intense as mine, telling me they never told any man these things, not even their former husbands. It is a liberating experience for many. BE THAT GUY...the one they can trust "for real". To submit like that is a huge vulnerability trip. Be sensitive to that.

"Vanilla" women are probably your best bet. I personally have had a lot of fun and meaningful experiences like that, Not one of them from a site like this. I'm here mostly to investigate the possibilities/realities of a 24/7 D/s relationship

Learn about female sexuality. Look up books about it. Watch and read porn for women by women, it's a growing niche. A couple good non-fiction books are My Secret Garden and Forbidden Flowers by Nancy Friday. Available at any vanilla bookstore. They are nothing but the sexual fantasies of real, every day women. If you are good at the "basics", they often get curious about the more experimental stuff. You have to take into consideration that many women your age are inexperienced at sex and many of them have had less than pleasant/fulfilling experiences. Sex is totally different with women. Learn it from their angle, then move on to the "advanced" stuff.

One more thing...you wrote "Youngest Dom you'll ever LOVE", not "Youngest Dom you'll ever SERVE". That speaks volumes to your character and there are plenty of women who appreciate that attitude.

Sorry for the damn novel, I'm huge fan of caffeine.

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RE: Youngest Dom you'll ever love - 7/19/2011 2:39:40 AM

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Welcome Doom, i'm quite sure you're not wide-eyed and the rest of it, what's wrong with these girls, given a little time, any sub female worth her salt could get you trained up!

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