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LadyConstanze -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 2:39:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Uhh and they won't figure out by your story? Sorry, Lady C, but I don't think the OP's is an uncommon story. I've heard of femdoms vying for 'overall ownership' many times. Even felt shades of it, at times. For a sub male - or this one, anyway - it's a deeply baffling and screwy feeling. It's very difficult to relate to. I understand that a lot of femdoms feel this sense of ownership of their sub, but I can't grasp how that feels to the femdom. What, 2 dommes wanting to play with the same guy and they talk to each other about it? Because all of a sudden there is a shortage of submissive men? When did that happen and why was I not informed?

Hisprettybaby -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 2:40:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BogusProfile i'm just starting out and things are moving very quickly. i find myself involved with two dommes, one local and one online. they are aware of eachother and even communicate, and they seem to be ok with it. but they each claim to me to be the one ultimately in charge. i don't see this ending well. what do others think, is this headed for a cliff, or can this sort of thing work? the profile name should make it clear that i don't want to take the chance that either of them will know for certain that it's me asking this question. thanks. I guess I just don't understand how TWO Dominants can each be the ONE ultimately in charge. If I were one of them, I would say choose or lose, meaning choose or I'm outta here! I just don't get it, but that's just me. Even if I was the submissive in that situation, I couldn't do it, it would just be too confusing. ~Hisprettybaby~

PeonForHer -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 2:58:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanzex What, 2 dommes wanting to play with the same guy and they talk to each other about it? Because all of a sudden there is a shortage of submissive men? When did that happen and why was I not informed? You didn't need to be informed, Lady C, because you already knew it. I hope that helps. ;-)

PeonForHer -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 3:01:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyRedRose seriously, which do you want to be in charge? the one you could be with in the real world or the fantasy woman online, because really that's all online is. she can be the perfect dominant, doesn't burp, have a lousy sense of fashion, a cat that hates you, none of that challenging real life situation thing going on. doesn't complain about the toilet seat, moving her car seat so you can drive, all that annoying messy relationship stuff. make up your mind what you want and stick with that one. Well, the one with whom I have the most real, human connection, LRR. But that's just me. A lot of people don't seem all that bothered with real, human connections in this D/s world.

LadyConstanze -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 3:06:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanzex What, 2 dommes wanting to play with the same guy and they talk to each other about it? Because all of a sudden there is a shortage of submissive men? When did that happen and why was I not informed? You didn't need to be informed, Lady C, because you already knew it. I hope that helps. ;-) OK, I will be grateful for all the requests in my inbox and every guy who asks at a fetish party, must have slipped my mind or I just couldn't face the bitter reality...

LanceHughes -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 3:20:15 PM)
I'll just copy in my signature line and NOT sign this one, 'K? "Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer, but wish we didn't." Erica Jong

PeonForHer -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 3:20:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanzex OK, I will be grateful for all the requests in my inbox and every guy who asks at a fetish party, must have slipped my mind or I just couldn't face the bitter reality... Yeah, but they're not 'subs', as far as you're concerned. They're just nutters. I don't see the point in femdoms going on about there being a million submales to each femdom if, in reality, only one malesub in 38 trillion of them is even remotely sane, balanced, and intelligent, let alone suited to you. And of that one in 38 trillion who is sane, balanced and intelligent, you've got to hope that he comes to the conclusion that you, the femdom, is sane, balanced and intelligent, and suited to him. Nope, you femdoms have to work very hard. Very hard indeed. Sorry, but there it is.

mnottertail -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 3:21:40 PM)
Your trillion and even your billion is much larger than ours, mate. Keep that in mind.

LadyConstanze -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 3:25:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanzex OK, I will be grateful for all the requests in my inbox and every guy who asks at a fetish party, must have slipped my mind or I just couldn't face the bitter reality... Yeah, but they're not 'subs', as far as you're concerned. They're just nutters. I don't see the point in femdoms going on about there being a million submales to each femdom if, in reality, only one malesub in 38 trillion of them is even remotely sane, balanced, and intelligent, let alone suited to you. And of that one in 38 trillion who is sane, balanced and intelligent, you've got to hope that he comes to the conclusion that you, the femdom, is sane, balanced and intelligent. Nope, you femdoms have to work very hard. Very hard indeed. Sorry, but there it is. Jolly good then that I'm not looking, otherwise I might just give up then, like a lot of the femdoms who read this, but thankfully there are too many of us anyway and not enough good subs to go round, so this will make it a bit easier, especially on the subbies who must be so terribly tired and confused with all of them dommes fighting over them...

PeonForHer -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 3:34:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Jolly good then that I'm not looking, otherwise I might just give up then, like a lot of the femdoms who read this, but thankfully there are too many of us anyway and not enough good subs to go round, so this will make it a bit easier, especially on the subbies who must be so terribly tired and confused with all of them dommes fighting over them... See, your saying that shows that your one of the kinder and more thoughtful femdoms, Lady C. I'm happy to say say that this earns you more points - big points, as well - in my book as a viable femdom. I do think you should stop talking about your big, smelly dogs quite so much, but that's only a small point. ETA: this - [;)] I've suddenly remembered I'm being read by people who aren't Brits.

LadyConstanze -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 3:41:07 PM)
They are not smelly, and Kia is the perfect dominant bitch, ahhh she's mommy's girl!

LadyPact -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 3:44:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer Well, the one with whom I have the most real, human connection, LRR. But that's just me. A lot of people don't seem all that bothered with real, human connections in this D/s world. Being cheeky again, are we? You had soooooo better hope that I never land in England. I'll show you just how real it can get.

PeonForHer -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 3:48:22 PM)
What does she look like in bright red lipstick and wet-look leather thigh-boots?

LadyConstanze -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 3:51:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer What does she look like in bright red lipstick and wet-look leather thigh-boots? I think you should ask her that yourself when she's performing a bit of CBT on you, terribly accurate paws and a long pointy nose (oh dear, you are afraid of long pointy noses...) that brought taller guys than you to their knees...

PeonForHer -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 4:09:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Being cheeky again, are we? You had soooooo better hope that I never land in England. I'll show you just how real it can get. [/color] Actually no, not that time, LP. Though I had malesubs in mind rather than femdoms.

LadyPact -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 4:34:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer Actually no, not that time, LP. Though I had malesubs in mind rather than femdoms. I suppose I can save My ideas for torturing you for a time that you are actually misbehaving. There will be another day.

BogusProfile -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 5:58:35 PM)
i'm female not male. i know they are different people because i have been present when the local one emailed and chatted with the online one. i tried to chose one of them, but she told me i still had to obey the other as well. they still each say they are in charge. i'm thinking i should dump them both and start over before it explodes and i start getting forced to disobey one of them and get punished all the time. that's what i think they are aiming for, excuses to beat me all the time. thanks.

Lockit -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 6:13:24 PM)
It is said that there is a time and place for all things and I tend to believe it is true, so I guess there is a time and place for drama, but I prefer to get mine on the movie screen. I am not so afraid of drama that I would recoil as if it were a rattle snake... and I really don't fear it, but I avoid it like the plague. I find no reason to go there and simply don't have time in my life for it. If it happens, I try to make quick order of it. I do believe and this is my personal stand on this... that there are few secrets that I would allow between my guy and myself. They better include some fantastic mind fuck or ribbons and a card. I believe we better be on the same page or working to get to it. Making my submissive question what might be happening or left confused isn't my idea of d/s or a healthy relationship. I also believe that too many heads make for some head banging. If things haven't been discussed between all people involved... I will project here and say... drama will at some point, be the outcome. You start out not communicating and everyone isn't on the same page and you almost assuredly will find some drama. There are three people in this dynamic and one of them seems pretty confused to me. Time to talk. Dump them... hummm, on the screen those words seemed to come out so easily. I wonder why. If my guy could say that... I think he would be dumped if he didn't dump me first. That sounded so glib... so lacking in emotion... so easy. Instead of seeking wise counsel... maybe you ought to go off alone and have a little time to think.

BogusProfile -> RE: is this a dumb idea? (7/21/2011 6:33:36 PM)
i will

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