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RqrCompanionS -> RE: Seeking (7/22/2011 2:06:14 AM)
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The same way one finds a Spouse/Spouse, or boyfriend/girlfriend, or, just go out on a date, without hiring someone.
1) Don't hire anyone
2) Don't be hired by anyone.
3) Get to know the person
4) Choose the person who you like, who likes you.
... and, now that I've seen your profile, I edit my response to say "Ick!", "Yaggh!", and, "Uhm, if you want to be taken seriously, by non-pros, that needs to change, babsy!"
This, below, is a call to the well-equipped professional. You make it clear what you care about is the clothing and equipage, then, the activity, not the woman:
"Love both dominant & sub women, who like dressing sexy, high heels, leather, latex, gags, hoods, and know how to have fun by making their man beg for more."
If you want a woman, appeal to the woman. What you are appealing to, in your profile, is yourself, your own flesh, your own brain. It all sounds very selfish, and, very, very oriented on nothing but sex and kink. That's a very vanilla attitude, and, people who are mostly vanilla but want to experience bdsm stuffies are better off just going to see a pro, anyway. At least, it's better for those of us who want something real.
BDSM is not about outfits, titles, sex, or, fetishes. I know it's hard to tell, considering, but, it really is not. It's about knowing yourself, knowing the people who surround you, and, acting toward your true nature, rather than hiding it away and denying it, but, in a manner that is safe, sane, and, consensual. It is about strategically seeking what you need out of life, without harming others.And, it is about connecting to people in a deep and meaningful manner, without it, necessarily, having to be about being blood related or about a romantic passion.
Most people forget ALL of that, if they've ever even learned it, and, just focus on fleshly shenanigans. In which case, as I said before, it is better if they just seek a pro, anyway, so they can get exactly what they want, and, leave bdsm to the people who are willing to put in the effort to know and show themselves.
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