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Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 10:43:49 AM   
bottomme


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Status: offline 		I’ve been a member here for some time but have not met anyone who satisfies my needs or really understands what I’m looking for. I know most woman are looking for younger guys but I can still look, I’m not dead yet.

When I was younger I just loved straight sex, as to say I loved getting my rocks off (just a little humor) When I was married to my 2nd wife it all changed! She was a little 5’1” Mexican woman that showed me a new world of pleasure for herself an me. To start off with she was a heavy squirter and multi– orgasmic which was new to me since I never had been with one or experienced anyone like her. Well she was a lady but had a dominate side to her. She liked to try new things in the bedroom and out and I was willing also. It started out with her wearing a sexy outfit and telling me to do things she wanted done, like clean the house and do the cooking. Then progressed to combing her hair, doing her nails, waiting on her and other things of her personal pleasures. Then her dominance moved to the bedroom. One day she said she wanted to try something she always had a fantasy about she wanted to tie me to the bed and did I trust her, I said sure since I trusted and cared for her.

She tied my hands and feet and blindfolded me. (What I didn’t know was she bought some bedroom toys from the adult book store downtown for her pleasures). As I lay there I could hear her opening something and I asked her what she was doing, she told me to shut up and be quiet. The next thing I could feel was her sucking on my nipples which felt great but then she started biting them and I was starting to feel some pain which was new since she never bit them before. Then I felt more pain and she attached something to them, now the pain was starting to feel good an I was enjoying it. (never had this feeling before) Then I could feel her mounting my face with her pussy, she was facing the headboard with her knees next to my head, she started riding my face and I could feel her pulling on my nipples at the same time. I could hear her moaning with pleasure and my nipples were in pain, I could hardly breath and could tell she was Cumming she yelled out eat it, eat it Bitch, Your my Bitch and you will eat it all! She tightened her legs on my head so I couldn’t move and forced it all down my throat and was choking me with it. She never made me drink it before, I usually just stopped and let her cum but this time I had no choice but between the pain on my nipples and all that juice going down my throat it was a new feeling and I was in pleasure also. When she was done she kept me blindfolded me and told me she wanted more.

Since I hadn’t cum yet and I was really having new feelings about her I said OK. She told me in a loud voice she wanted to fuck, she wanted to fuck me. I said sure, since we had fucked normally before, but I didn’t know what she had in mind. She told me to roll over on my stomach, my hands were tied to the headboard and she spread my legs an tied them. I asked what she was doing she said just shut up and relax. I could feel her putting something on my ass, it was lube. I yelled NO way, She yelled YES it was her turn and she wanted my ass. She said she was not going to listen to me and put a gag over my mouth so I couldn’t yell at her. Then I could feel pain slowly increase in my ass as she was putting something up there, It hurt so bad at first since I had never been fucked before. She kept saying to relax and enjoy it. As she slowly put whatever it was deeper in me the pain started to subside and was feeling good. I could then feel her laying on top of me and moving up and down slowly, this was a new feeling and side I never saw in her. I never knew her in this way but was liking this new side. Then she started fucking me harder and harder I was feeling some pain but didn’t care, she was really liking this and so was I, then I felt myself starting to cum, I couldn’t believe it, I never came this way before I could tell she was cumming also, I was moaning, she was moaning and we both were cumming. I don’t think I ever came so hard and so much before. When she was done she removed the object from my ass and got up. She removed the restraints on my legs and hands and the gag and told me to keep the blindfold on. I said OK. She told me she had one more surprise for me and led me to the bathroom. I could hardly walk my ass hurt form the pounding I got from her. When we got to the bathroom she helped me lay down in the tub. Since I am tall she told me to scoot down and put my legs up against the wall so my head was near the center of the tub. She told me to get ready to take off the blindfold but not until she told me to I said OK. I could hear her doing something then I could her her moaning, she was cumming but I was still blindfolded, then she yelled take off the blindfold, I untied it as she was standing over me wearing a big dildo and her sexy outfit and she was squirting her juice all over my face she yelled drink it, drink it, then she started pissing all over my face and body drenching me in her wetness.

When it was all over and she was done she asked me if I liked her new side or was upset with her. I said yes I loved it! We talked about it and I told her I never knew she was this way, she said she always had the desire but was afraid to tell me about it and just decided to go for it and see what happened. She said since she knew I liked pleasing her and waiting on her needs she wanted to do it. As for me I never knew there was so much pleasure from serving her needs. By serving her needs I was getting all my needs as well and loving it. We later did lots of other things that she wanted as well as things I wanted to try. We later had a few couples join us, because she told me this was her wish. I always obeyed her desires after the joy she showed me. Since then I am willing to try anything, since everything can be pleasurable if your wiling to try. Our conventional sex life went out the door. Now she is gone and I’m older but do miss the life we had. I would love to find a dom or couple that knows what I need. Don’t know if I will find anyone like this again. This is why I joined this group. Maybe it will happen, maybe not. What do you think? I have never been with a couple in this situation since then but I’m game. Is there a Dom or couple outh there for me?

If your asking why don't I post my pic? It's because I have a professional job and deal with the public and they would never understand. Like most don't!
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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 11:00:39 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		bottomme, with your former wife, you were in love with her before you went to these deep and wonderful places. Now you seek to replace that relationship with a dominant woman. One question for you. Are you seeking someone or a couple to give you what love brought before love can happen? The action before anything else?

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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 11:25:20 AM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		Interesting story, but I have to ask the same thing Lockit did. Are you looking for a personaly long term realationship ,or just kink. Not that there is anything wrong with kink mind you but if you aren't making it clear to people what you are really looking for it might be why you are having some problems finding it.

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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 11:26:53 AM   
bottomme


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Status: offline 		To honestly ancer your question, I don't know! Since it has been so long since then and it's been so long since I have done any of the things we did it's hard to answer. Since I haven't found any one woman I thought I would include couples. I've noticed that there are some sub woman are also looking to have a sub to dominate. I guess it's since I'm getting older that i would like to get some sexual satisfaction out of my life. I' satisfied with the rest of my life, just something missing.

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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 11:32:51 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Okay, next question. (Simply because I think the answer is within you and not from us because you ask an impossible question to answer.) You cannot compare what could start out and what was at it's deepest moments. No one can compare something like that and yet many of us have tried to or do.

Is sexual release going to be enough when your mind and body are filled with the desires of the past and their fulfillment?


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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 11:37:53 AM   
bottomme


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Status: offline 		A long term relationship is not out of the question. Just not sure yet and would have to really be someone special. I haven't given up on the idea of spending the rest of my life with another dom but since I'm older and gone through many changes, just figure the chances are slim to find a real soulmate, I guess a kinky as I am. To truly find one she would have to understand all my needs and wants as well as being able to provide her needs and other things in life. The woman would have to have other traits. We all have problems and needs as we get older and more understanding is needed.

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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 11:38:21 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		If you're looking for just the kink, hire a pro.  You'll have to look for one specifically that includes sex in the service, which not all pros do.

If you're looking for a relationship, I'd suggest that you specifically seek out those who are compatible with the kinks that you have.  What you're describing (although really, really long for a message board) isn't all that unusual for folks who want that as a part of their life.

As to will you find it, there's no answer for that.  You might.  Then again, you might not.  There are no guarantees and while some folks do find what they are looking for on the net, not everybody does.


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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 11:47:47 AM   
bottomme


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Status: offline 		Well the kink is always more satisfying when the one your doing it with has feelings for you. Not sure it would be the same with a Pro because I've never been with one. As far as the long post I usually don't post anything at all in the years I've been on here. Just thought I'd get it off my chest since all i've heard from seems to be flakes or one night stands wanting just to get off and the few I've written to either say no thanks or don't answer.

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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 11:52:37 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Okay bottomme, go read your posts, all three of them. Are you setting someone up to fail in your need to replace something and limiting what could come? It isn't that something is or isn't real... it is that you are stuck on memorex. We all compare things, people, relationships in some way, to something else. We do well not to do that too much or so much that we limit what can happen. Nothing new can compare to something grown over an amount of time. Oh one can feel a high... but I don't personally believe depth can be reached. Part of what you shared with your wife was the depth and that brought things to a different place.

You can get off, you can have fun... but if that depth is important... you are going to have to set aside the memorex, be open and willing to give the high that comes with depth time to grow. The instant mix doesn't seem to work when you want it all. Many men come here thinking that they can jump in and have some fun. Would you have looked at your wife in that manner and expected that it would be okay to treat her as a handy dandy dominant tool to use for your satisfaction?

Some of us dominant's will look at that memorex and think... oh hell no... I am not a replacement to a memory. I am not a replacement for the kinky things someone shared with someone, when I don't get the benefit that the person in that memory had.

If you want a top, you may find one. If you want more, it will take more and you will need to apply yourself and set that memory aside because I don't know one dominant that would be willing to enter a situation where she wasn't taken for all of who she is and all she wants, when the memorex thing is a strong comparison. Not that we don't feel we could replace the memory with some extra good stuff... we just don't care to be in that position.


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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 11:53:43 AM   
bottomme


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Status: offline 		No, I don't think just sexual release is going to be enough but since out there in the straight world I know I'll never find what I want, I figure I might find it here. I'm not still in love with my ex, I'm looking for that feeling of need as well as desire from both parties.

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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 11:59:06 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Then go seeking for that. You found it once. Many of us have had it or do have it. It is real... you experienced it. Age seems to be a big factor to you. I have dealt with it too. I have asked... will I know the high I had with my ex the hard body, movie star looking husband? You bet somebodies sweet ass I will! It wasn't just his looks or my own. It wasn't the hard body or anything but.... who he was to me and who I was to him.

You have had it once... don't let a low action time persuade you to think you can't find it or age has something to do with it. And for heaven's sake, don't compromise! Stop looking at those things that discourage you... stop over thinking it and get on out there and talk to some women.

Good luck!


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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 12:04:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit
Some of us dominant's will look at that memorex and think... oh hell no... I am not a replacement to a memory. I am not a replacement for the kinky things someone shared with someone, when I don't get the benefit that the person in that memory had.

Very good post, Lockit and I agree with the magnitude of the extension.  It's like that saying of you can't compete with a ghost.  They are perfect and make so few mistakes. 

Unfortunately, what happens to a number of men who have had that one relationship that opened their eyes to the world of kink, taken them places they have never been before, it really is like a new universe.  It's something that they feel they have reached a new height with and so different than their prior experiences.  Almost like their first sexual experience blowing their mind.  Everybody remembers their first.  Their first experience with kink is no different.

Some are trying to recapture that first high.  At the same time, we all know what it is like to be that first high for someone.


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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 12:19:43 PM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		If I can add just a note here....op...don't limit your thinking. You seem to believe that you have to look in a kinky world to find kink. But that isn't how you found it the first time is it. You didn't know about that side of her the first time. Don't assume just because you see women that seem (forgive me for useing this word) "normal" that they don't have a kinky side too. Besides if you first start with finding someone you are attracted to who knows maybe you will be the one to share with that person a whole new world the way it was shared with you.

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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 12:21:54 PM   
bottomme


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Status: offline 		I've carefully read you lady's posts. I do feel your correct. Your right yes i do think about age. I've been met a few women out there, younger and older. The ones I've met and we actually started dateing and expressing what I wanted or have done, (not bringing up the ex) all seemed to think I was crazy, nuts or a filthy guy. They ended, mostly badly. In Joplin, MO. there is not a big choice and I work a lot of hours. I've had sex with a few but there was nothing there. I'm a real gentleman, open doors, pull out the chair, and everything that goes with it, But in the bedroom I feel nothing is off limits. Believe me after a while of being told those things a person begins to wonder. I know nothing will be the same as before but I know I'm not crazy, just picky i guess. thats why I posted this. just a combination of horny, lonely, and no one to be honest with about my feelings.

Thanks ladys,

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RE: Is what I'm looking for Real or Memorex?? - 7/23/2011 12:48:21 PM   
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.... coming late to the party ....

I'd just like to add that the OP might be well served to be open to non-conventional relationships. By this I mean that just because he may meet a woman where there is no great spark, that woman may turn into a wonderful kinky friend. She could be someone that may know someone that would be perfect for him. Or, she may offer play that is friendly and fun and even though it may lack the intensity of his previous relationship, turns out to be a wonderful way to spend a Sat. with a great person that he cares for and admires.

Not all kink comes in the pre-defined box of 'significant other' or 'love match'. Sometimes the best experiences are between friends.

Best of luck to the OP,
Wickad

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