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TPE - 7/24/2011 2:04:01 AM

draude

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Hi dear all,
as i´m since my age of 18 in BDSM i know my place as a SUB (today i´m 47). In my profile you can read that for the right FemDom i´m open for a TPE.

i´m surprised that i had contact with some FemDOM´s and some of them asked my "what do you want" and some of them asked for tribut.

If i´m looking for a TPE thats a lifestyle with a 24/7 realtionship within a trustful partner ship - is that so hard to understand? Thats clear (least for me) that can me onyl within the limits of the law - means no kids, animals or permanent demages).

Is my understanding correct or nor?
Best greetings
eduard (Austria)

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RE: TPE - 7/24/2011 2:38:55 AM

DarkSteven

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Guten tag, eduard.

I read your profile and I'd like to make a couple of suggestions. One is that you change it from "I'm looking for TPE" to "I'm looking for a female led relationship that could work towards TPE". The male subs who desire TPE usually are inexperienced and are trying to live a fantasy.

The second is that you better define the relationship you want in terms of concrete acts. You only describe the bedroom acts you want and are experienced with.

As an example, my submissive has done carpentry work for me, gardening, housekeeping, etc. She has given me legal advice, since she's trained as a lawyer. She also accompanies me to social events, kink as well as vanilla (non-kinky). Her activities are based on her capabilities and my needs.

If you were to serve a woman, what skills and activities would you bring to the table? What kinds of vanilla social activities would you do? Based on skimming your profile, I glean that you could assume control over her household finances and investments, and perhaps do some automotive maintenance. You obviously love music as well and I suspect would love to accompany her to musical events like concerts.

The Dommes that asked you what you want were a hint that your profile didn't describe the relationship in terms they could understand. The tribute Dommes - well, all male subs get them. Ignore them and move on.

Welcome to collarme.

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RE: TPE - 7/24/2011 4:20:35 AM

LadyConstanze

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Actually I would suggest also trying a German page, Slavenzentrale.de, while being open for relocation is fine, a page that is mainly American might be a bit of a far cry for relocation from Austria

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RE: TPE - 7/29/2011 10:16:11 PM

AcademyForSlaves

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Hi.

I agree that's what TPE means but I guess it depends on each person what it means to them. I like to have a relationship with a sub that wants to commit in all ways to me. I accept any limits he has because everyone has limits, even I do.

Hope this helps.

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RE: TPE - 7/30/2011 7:03:45 PM

leadership527

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quote:

ORIGINAL: draude
If i´m looking for a TPE thats a lifestyle with a 24/7 realtionship within a trustful partner ship - is that so hard to understand?

Oh jesus shit on a shingle you have GOT to be kidding me. You think THAT is clear? Seriously?

Here, let me help you out.

What do you mean by "TPE"? Unless it includes killing yourself on command (and no, I am not joking) then it isn't what I mean. Now, are we "clear"??

What do you mean by "lifestyle"? Carol and I do whatever we do 24/7. But there's no dog food bowls... No chaining her at the foot of the bed.... no whips & chains... none of that stuff. What there is is a service oriented D/s arrangement.

What do you mean by 24/7? Are we talking "You feel like a slave in your heart all the time" or are we talking "cohabitation"?

The good news is that I think most of us can rough in what a "trustful partnership" would more or less be.

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RE: TPE - 7/30/2011 7:43:37 PM

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Leadership is on the money. It's rarely a good idea to assume that what I think a given term means is the same as what other people think it means. Much safer and less troublesome to ask for clarification early on. I've met some who legitimately thought TPE was me performing a scene precisely to their specifications but their not being able to worm out of it in the middle. My brain was full of fuck, but that's why you ask.

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