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ORIGINAL: heartcream
<<snip>> i dredged this thread up cuz i want to know more about this dynamic. <<snip>>

I must admit I have been curious about the Daddy/lil' girl dynamic as well.  I find myself reading these threads first when I find them in the forums.   I am most curious about the nurturing, caring, guidance and control aspect of the Daddy/lil' girl relationship within the context of D/s. 

I am sure that there are other terms/forms of "daddy" address that are  used - so maybe it is just a matter of finding one that fits and works for both involved.

(As a side note: I have a terrific relationship with my Father, he is a wonderful person and man, so I don't have any negative or unresolved "daddy issues". )

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: darq

I wouldn't enter any sort of relationship based on the idea that it might be a cathartic experience. If you need a cathartic experience, see a therapist ...

Now, with that in mind, I will say that I became more emotionally balanced and healthy when I found myself in relationships with good dominants, especially daddy doms. I don't believe that a dominant is a therapist, however, being with the right dominant can be theraputic.

Hmmmm, its just me but I have cathartic experiences all the time and they never had anything to do with therapy, I found therapy to be a huge waste of time when I was having panic attacks that were organically based and not at all related to my mom or dad (my therapist was freudian... sighs.. and he was wrong... and I fired him and got better with diet/exercise...but thats me and others may have a different experience).

I am reading a lot on this thread about age play and the Daddy Dom phenomena, I did not know the two were synomomous. I thought it could be a mindset more than age play. I call the dom I am seeing Daddy, and I enjoy it VERY much. I am also still getting used to this term instead of Sir or Lord or Master, but I am already liking it better because of the intimacy that it inspires.

As far as what it means for my past relationship with my father, well he passed away when I was 14, is there a connection to my enjoyment of calling someone else Daddy? Perhaps, and if that is the case I am ok with that....lol. There is nothing psycho in my mind of wanting to feel nurtured and protected and cared for. There is definitely nothing wrong with the man that desires to feel this for the lady in his life.... Daddy/daughter is to me a lovely expression of something deep.

I am going to respectfully disagree with those who think that relationships with others do not heal us. We need to be well enough emotionally to consensually submit, this is true, but there is nothing wrong with healing ourselves through our interactions with others. I am not just speaking of D/s, but of being a parent, a sibbling, a friend.... All these relationships have healing qualities of we learn the lessons that come with them. If my relationships were not cathartic then I WOULD need a therapist.... since they have been so healing I find I do not need one after all...