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putmetowork -> Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/26/2011 9:40:13 AM)


Hello all,

For as long as my memory serves me (forgive me it's a little faulty as I get older) :)

I have been thrilled by the notion of being able to offer myself into the servitude of a dominant woman... Cleaning, chores, errands. Whatever I can do, to serve her (while enjoying being bossed around).

So, now as I continue to look for a chance to serve dominant women (I have a question).

I realize my the answers might vary, and in fact I hope the do... What would you think might set service apart from appreicated to outstanding...

For instance when I clean a house for a Dominant woman (I always leave mints on the pillow, a personal note of thanks, I bring flowers and usually like to leave some tea or coffee if that is something I know the Domme will appreciate)

If I were to do some yardwork, I usually try to sneak in a small new flower of plant as a treat...


What more / what else can I do? I have had great feedback from the women who have enjoyed my service and now I want to do even more!

Thanks,
robby.




Madame4a -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/26/2011 9:54:28 AM)

Nice thoughts... but I'd be really careful with things you think a dominant woman might like...put a new flower in my garden and you would never be asked back...

and don't put mints on my pillow.. I've been without sugar and candy for a long time and I'd be upset that you were complicit in undoing that.. unless you did sugar free ones...

point is.. be careful how much you assume...




putmetowork -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/26/2011 10:01:17 AM)

Thank You...

I appreciate that sentiment, I hadn't thought of it that way...

But you don't have to eat the candy, oh and I could leave the flower in the pot (really I hope it is just a thoughtful gesture) :)

Also, I am interested in simply enhancing my services in hopes that might be benifical (maybe taking cooking classes, or manicure/pedicure/ or well) I guess it depends, again on the domme.

Thanks kindly,
robby.




littlewonder -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/26/2011 10:07:32 AM)

your best bet is to get to know the domme you are serving....spend time with her, get to know her little quirks, likes, dislikes, habits, etc...





LadyPact -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/26/2011 10:12:29 AM)

I think you are missing her point.

What she's telling you is that service is a very individual thing.  It's tailor made to the person that you are serving.  Those nice things that other people enjoyed might not necessarily been seen favorably by somebody else.  The idea isn't to conjure up a 'one size fits all' method of service.  The idea is to serve in the way that makes that particular person happy.

Just as an example, I'm allergic to onions.  It really doesn't matter to Me that every Dominant that you ever cooked for went ga-ga over some Mexican dish that you have made for them over the years.  Chances are, it's going to make Me sick.  Is it really outstanding service if you make Me a dinner that sends Me to the hospital?

Good service is the personal stuff.  The stuff that you know *she* wants.  Not what the masses tell you are great ideas.




LaTigresse -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/26/2011 12:06:30 PM)

Asssssssssssss usual, I agree with LadyP.

I would also suggest you (the OP) reflect on exactly what your motivation for doing this is and what your expectations of the lady/ies in question are. What is your reaction if your 'extra' is not noticed and/or appreciated?




GreedyTop -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/26/2011 12:39:25 PM)

*what LadyP and LaT said*

(wonders if I should adjust my Cm label to femdom, given how often I agree with the two of ya)

while I personally would love having a person that knows about the regional planting guidelines (and yes, region IS important) (extra points for homegrown tulips), I would squick at the mints or chocolates on my pillow. if I wanted those, I'd stay at a 5 star hotel, or soemthing.

what WOULD make me smile? well, get to know ME, and that woiuld be revealed.. as would the reason I do not want choccies or mints on my pillow....




LadyHibiscus -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/26/2011 5:49:13 PM)

Bedtime choccie yes!! But do you know what kind I like?




SuzeCheri -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/26/2011 6:44:44 PM)

All of that sounds really good to me. But I'm not a domme, I'm just a lazy teenager.

My mum left a big pile of laundry to be folded, when can you make it over?




MistrixMsE -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/29/2011 12:45:12 PM)

I love thoughtful service... but thoughtful service to me is:
Learning my needs, wants, likes & academic interests.. and enhancing your service in ways that I will appreciate & enjoy.

For instance... I am a voracious reader.. a new book rarely lasts me more than a couple days.. I devour them. Noticing that I have re-shelved my latest tome (they stay bedside til I finish) and then picking up a book I have on my wishlist.. quietly placing it on my night stand after making my bed on your next visit, and leaving it for me to discover when I retire for the night would be perfect, non-assumptive, and genuinely enjoyed. Leaving a harlequin novel however, would show that you aren't in tune with ME.. and are not being attentive to my interests.

Likewise with food... I am on a semi-strict diet (more for my physical health than anything).. however there are indeed certain areas where i allow myself leeway. Particular foods, from particular bakeries/shops, some from well outside my area, that remind me of my childhood like nut only Potica bread. Leaving chocolates (unless it is something I particularly covet.. like Cadbury flake bars from the UK) would not be such a good thing, as despite my chocolate addiction, I have committed to cut back drastically, and chocolate temptation and I have a long history... I usually lose. A loaf of good potica in my fridge with a little bow or something would be a wonderful surprise.

Its really about being attentive to the one you serve, as an individual. Knowing her/him well, and tailoring your service to them is the best choice.








MaamJay -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/30/2011 3:58:20 AM)

I agree with the other ladies here ... outstanding service is what suits ME. To assume makes an ass out of u and me ... so do the research, find out what I like (AND what I dislike/am allergic to etc) and then do the little extras you KNOW I will appreciate. For example, I have a strange foible re matching pegs on laundry ... all the choccies on the pillow won't count for a thing (except a deleterious effect on My waistline and blood sugar levels!) if you put random pegs on the clothes! Bless His heart ... even MASTER puts matching pegs on them when He helps with the laundry ... and the ex tells Me he still does it after all these years LOL! In other words, be responsive to ME and to My training ... that's outstanding service.

Ma'am Jay aka violet[A]




HoneyedMistress -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/31/2011 12:24:29 PM)

I agree with the other ladies that personalized service is the only way to go. The D-types here have been very blunt in this and other posts about the type of behaviour that the s-types should adhere to, it would be just spectacular if their advice was followed. Also, if what JWriter posts is true...that's very disappointing.




LadyPact -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (7/31/2011 5:27:17 PM)

Gee, I'm trying to remember just who it was that I told earlier in the last week or so that people write up all kinds of things on the internet, but until it happens in real life, it's just crap.  [sm=modxiiswatching.gif]




cloudboy -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (8/1/2011 8:01:53 PM)

Men offering service for service's sake -- is a red flag.




hausboy -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (8/7/2011 9:44:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: cloudboy

Men offering service for service's sake -- is a red flag.


Have to disagree with you cloudboy. There are men out there who offer service for the sake of service. 
There are other red flags to look for when checking out a service sub.....like if they are more interested in what outfits they should wear, what "reward" they will get at the end, and what the Domme/Dom will be doing......instead of the work itself.







hausboy -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (8/7/2011 10:05:10 AM)

robby

given the responses you've seen here, esp. from Dommes who have quite clearly stated that they would prefer their servant to NOT surprise them with the gestures you've mentioned, you did ask what else you could do to add those special touches.

Here are a few I can suggest from my experience--

1. Point tip the tp. 
I know, it sounds silly, but making the little point on the toilet paper like you see in the hotels, gives it that little extra touch, and is a good reminder to you (esp. if the house has a lot of bathrooms/powder rooms) that you've completed that room, and it makes the bath seem fresh and new.  If you use a commode while in their service, always replace the point.

2. Detailing
It's my personal belief, but I've always felt that the two rooms that must always be spotless are the kitchen and the bath.  The kitchen--obviously--it's where food is prepared, and it's a health issue if nothing else.  I consider the bath to be one of those places where the Dom/Domme spends a considerable amount of time in private, and having a spotless bathroom is ideal for relaxation.

So for that, I go the "extra mile" as you called it, when I clean the bath.  I wipe down all of the bottles--shampoo, lotion, etc. which often get soapy/crusty/dusty. Use an old toothbrush from your kit to get the dirt/crust around the fixtures and in the corners, esp. around the drain and faucets.  Clean everything--the soap dish, the toothbrush holder, every surface. 

3. Bring your own supplies in a caddy if you aren't live in (or a regular).
Most Households I know don't rely exclusively on me for cleaning (except for one) and so it can be really annoying when they go to clean something, and you've used up all the supplies. (or vice versa)  Just be sure to query them ahead of time to find out exactly what cleaning products they prefer (ie. green only, no bleach etc.), and any cleaning methods that they require.

4. Courtesy
Be sure to give your Households your availability schedule well in advance, and give them ample notice if you need to cancel.  Punctuality is a must--find out how they prefer you notify them if you are to be late.

5. Floors
When I was trained professionally as a housecleaner many years ago, I was taught by my agency that the best way to clean floors was by hand, not by mop.  This is completely true.  If you have the luxury of time, do every hard surface floor by hand, with a fresh hot water pail for each room.

good luck--happy cleaning!




VaguelyCurious -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (8/7/2011 10:27:08 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: cloudboy

Men offering service for service's sake -- is a red flag.

Just because you wouldn't do it (which you've explained previously at great length, so let's not go back to that again) doesn't make it a red flag.

My personal experience directly counteracts your statements about how nobody would engage in service for service's sake. There are good men who do, there absolutely are.




PeonForHer -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (8/7/2011 11:58:27 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious
My personal experience directly counteracts your statements about how nobody would engage in service for service's sake. There are good men who do, there absolutely are.


I partly agree with CB. I offer it a) because I'm nice, b) because women are frigging hopeless at a lot of things and c) because it gives me a trouser-truncheon.




MissToYouRedux -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (8/7/2011 12:29:48 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

My personal experience directly counteracts your statements about how nobody would engage in service for service's sake. There are good men who do, there absolutely are.



Yes, there certainly are guys who get off on being useful, who don't require being dressed a certain way, or not dressed a certain way, or *me* dressed a certain way or not dressed a certain way, or addressing them a certain way, or whatever. Bless them! How they process the experience really doesn't matter to me.

I'm not Mother Teresa, and I don't expect submissives to be either. [:D]




LadyConstanze -> RE: Not just service (Outstanding Service) (8/7/2011 12:49:16 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: hausboy

robby

given the responses you've seen here, esp. from Dommes who have quite clearly stated that they would prefer their servant to NOT surprise them with the gestures you've mentioned, you did ask what else you could do to add those special touches.

Here are a few I can suggest from my experience--


2. Detailing
It's my personal belief, but I've always felt that the two rooms that must always be spotless are the kitchen and the bath.  The kitchen--obviously--it's where food is prepared, and it's a health issue if nothing else.  I consider the bath to be one of those places where the Dom/Domme spends a considerable amount of time in private, and having a spotless bathroom is ideal for relaxation.

So for that, I go the "extra mile" as you called it, when I clean the bath.  I wipe down all of the bottles--shampoo, lotion, etc. which often get soapy/crusty/dusty. Use an old toothbrush from your kit to get the dirt/crust around the fixtures and in the corners, esp. around the drain and faucets.  Clean everything--the soap dish, the toothbrush holder, every surface. 



Steam cleaners... No need to go all out for the Karcher (though this is an amazing tool), you can buy a rather cheap one who just needs refilling more often for something like $10 or $15, won't last forever but will give you a few years of service and you don't need the tooth brush much to get dirt and crust around the fixtures out, the steam cleaner will just do that in much less time and with less stress. Additionally the hot steam disinfects, you need less cleaners and steam gets into places even the finest brush doesn't get.

I live in an area where the water has a lot of chalk in it, and unfortunately the person we bought the house from had a thing for black marble in the bathrooms, so they are tiled in black marble with white floors, bloody fabulous, the floor shows every footprint and the limescale makes the tiles look horrid, what took ages with tons of vinegar is a matter of minutes with a steam cleaner...

If somebody is serious about doing service, it's a little investment and a lot cheaper than tons of cleaning supplies and it basically would scream "I am serious about it" for less investment than a full caddy, and on top of it it's eco friendly.




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