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wild2mild3050 -> i am a sissy and proud of it (7/27/2011 2:11:17 PM)
as the forum says, i know where i have been and i know where i want to go, but how do i know what i am looking for. should i believe in love at first sight or should i just turn, run, hide, and turn out the lights. i am looking to be owned by a Dominant Female and live togther in a FemDom Lifestyle. race, religion, and looks do not matter to me, i prefer white but the clue word is prefer. age, i prefer that You be between the minimum age of 26 but no more than 85. i prefer Dominant Ladies that are slightly older than me or older, to me its a turn on and i do not know why. if a Woman was older and going after young males they are labeled as cougars. if a male was young and chasing a Woman who is slightly older i have no terminology. but i do call it tiger. is it wrong for these feelings, no as far as i am concerned they are normal whatever that means, i know that may be outragous, disturbing, out of the norm and all of that jazz but i do not care. times have changed more than once over the past decade. gays in military, now gays being married, cougars are now on popular programs like CSI: Miami, Dominant Women also can be seen on CSI (original) and Her name is Domina Heather. did that in the 80's and the public would probably go insane. but in lamest term welcome to the new world, new future, new life and beginings. if any Female Dominant wants to own me take a look at my profile, You'll see that i am not stranger. curtsy and a bow to You my Lady. zoe slut (that's me)

LadyConstanze -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/27/2011 2:33:24 PM)
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057130/tm.htm As an idea [;)]

MistressDarkArt -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/27/2011 4:14:35 PM)
Was there a question in there somewhere? I suggest moving your post to introductions. Flashing your personal banner ad in this forum is considered inappropriate.

SUBMALEUK11 -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/27/2011 4:27:31 PM)
Are you really proud deep down or have you just been conditioned that way? Would you be proud to tell your dad your a sissy? Your work colleagues? Your old school friends? Your son if you ever have one? If the answer to all them are yes then your right you are proud to be a sissy but I would say it would be unusual if that was the case.?

LillyBoPeep -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/27/2011 5:16:26 PM)
i am neither a female dominant nor a male submissive, but i don't understand why he would even want to tell people who don't need to know about what he's into, no matter how proud he may be. =p i'm pretty happy with being a submissive, but i'm not going to tell my relatives or non-kinky friends, and i wouldn't parade it in front of kids if i ever have them. if they were older and had questions because they were interested, that would be one thing, but i don't really see it as a flag i need to wave at everyone i meet.

BonesFromAsh -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/27/2011 5:48:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wild2mild3050 if a male was young and chasing a Woman who is slightly older i have no terminology. but i do call it tiger. A young man who seeks out older women is usually called a cub. Get it...cougar/cub? As for the rest of your post...it belongs on your profile not a discussion board.

LadyPact -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/27/2011 6:27:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep i am neither a female dominant nor a male submissive, but i don't understand why he would even want to tell people who don't need to know about what he's into, no matter how proud he may be. =p i'm pretty happy with being a submissive, but i'm not going to tell my relatives or non-kinky friends, and i wouldn't parade it in front of kids if i ever have them. if they were older and had questions because they were interested, that would be one thing, but i don't really see it as a flag i need to wave at everyone i meet. Thank you, Lilly, for an actual topic. I agree with the others that the original really is just an ad. (If this does get moved to Intros, welcome to the forums, OP.) I don't know so much about the parading bit. I didn't 'hide' clip from My kids. They've seen Me dressed to go to events and such. They've seen floggers and such in My house. It wasn't like it was a big secret. Kids, especially teenagers, really are more observant that I think we often give them credit for.

ElanSubdued -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/27/2011 7:50:59 PM)
The OP is a personals ad. That's against the rules of this group. I vote for alt-control-delete. Edited to add: Just noticed LilyBo's post. Okay. This thread has some value now. Mods, please toast the OP and keep Bo. :-)

IsaNova -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/28/2011 4:42:03 AM)
Well... I like Curry, and I'm proud of it! Settle down Natasha Kerensky. Not sure what response you hoped to engender, but being proud of your kink or not doesn't make shouting it out to the world or this forum an attractive move in my book. As for the rest, a good friend of mine put it thus: Whether I am "out" or not, the general public has never given their consent to be a part of my kink. Whether it's John Q. Public in the park, the hotel clerk, or the family eating at the table next to mine... none of them volunteered to be voyeurs to my exhibitionism, and anytime I do display overt sexuality and/or dominance in public, that is a form of exhibitionism. Now, if it's a munch in a private room, an erotic convention, or Burning Man... that's different. I am "Out" in the sense that I am open and honest with who and what I am. I don't go screaming it to the rooftops but I won't actively hide or lie about it should someone ask. That's my choice. The people I am with, I cannot speak for them, so I do nothing that would "out" them either. It isn't an issue of pride or shame... it's one of respect. For myself, for my friends in the lifestyle, and for John Q. Public and his little kiddo over there. Hope that makes some sense?

wild2mild3050 -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/28/2011 8:33:39 AM)
i did not mean to break any rules, how do i delete this post. i was not trying to advertise myself and i do apologize for the waste of time that i have created.

Arpig -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/28/2011 9:17:41 AM)
quote: Well... I like Curry, and I'm proud of it! Madras or vindaloo?

LillyBoPeep -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/28/2011 10:06:54 AM)
i admit, i'm mostly imagining young children in my post. if they come in your room and see a flogger that's different than having them hanging on the walls, you know? =p submaleUK's post seemed to be about parading -- telling school friends, telling kids, telling co-workers -- why?? i just don't think any of those people need to know.

LadyPact -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/28/2011 10:24:21 AM)
I didn't really have to go through the little kids stage until the Grands came along. I'm an old chick, remember? [;)] Seriously though, I get what you're saying. It's the same reasoning of why we had the agreements of not playing at the house and so on if it was just casual play. I've had a lot of co-workers in the past who knew that I was kinky and have asked various questions on topping. I didn't necessarily talk about My sex life with them, but the general questions like how did you get into it or where do you go to find groups like that I never thought were all that intrusive. These days, there are a lot of non kinky people out there that realize kinky people exist. Thanks to movies, tv, and music most of them just think it's interesting.

wild2mild3050 -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/28/2011 1:04:44 PM)
the only true people that know are my 3 closest friends. my parents know that i am kinky but i don't tell them that i am a sissy. i have no kids and will never tell my kids either. if a child of mine walks in (depending on age) i may tell the truth or i may send my child back to bed. but as i said, if You want me to remove the post, i will but i do not know how to do that.

ElanSubdued -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/28/2011 7:02:21 PM)
wild2mild3050, quote: if You want me to remove the post, i will but i do not know how to do that. Perhaps we're being a tad unfair, but you're really not helping yourself. You come on here screaming your fetishes at full volume Geesh mate. Hello? Social etiquette? Do we really have to explain this makes you come across as a wanker? You may be a fine, interesting chap (sissy or not, it's irrelevant), however, you've given us no opportunity to get to know you or to want to converse with you. I hope you stick round and join in conversations in a more two-way fashion. Drop the full-on kink stuff and get to know us. We're nice folk. I'm sure you're nice folk too. Your approach will make a wold of difference in how you are received. I sincerely hope you do continue posting and I extend a warm welcome to you. Please disregard my previous, rather curt post vis-a-vis "mods" and "alt-control-delete". Elan.

ElanSubdued -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/28/2011 7:05:15 PM)
LillyBoPeep, Oops. I spelled the shortened version of your handle incorrectly. Sorry about that. I'd have corrected it, but the CM system did its timeout, no more editing thing.

ElanSubdued -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/28/2011 7:19:04 PM)
LP, quote: These days, there are a lot of non kinky people out there that realize kinky people exist. Thanks to movies, tv, and music most of them just think it's interesting. Things must be different where you live. Around here, the 'nillas and the kinksters are still very much in different camps. There isn't general acceptance yet in the vanilla community and I think we're a long way from this. In the vanilla mainstream, kink and kinky people still seem to be largely discussed in a negative light (such as when a criminal is caught and is found to have bondage gear in his home).

OttersSwim -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/30/2011 8:12:58 AM)
Hello Zoe. Okay, so everyone else has given you the riot over how your post came across. Now let's talk a bit about what you want and how best you might be able to get it. Being a sissy is fine - they are not rare in the lifestyle, but owned sissies are. Why? Because being a sissy and being a submissive or slave are two very different things. Being a sissy has a focal point of YOU. Being submissive has a focal point of HER. Do you see the huge difference? Do you see how most Ladies would perceive sissies thereby? You see, what we wear is about as important as the napkins or the table cloth. They play in to the overall plan for dinner, but they are not the focal point. Further, there is s sort of expected routine (the only word I could come up with) around owning a sissy - the expectation is from the sissy. That expectation says that there will be a large quantity of time and attention given to what the sissy wears, how the sissy behaves, etc. It is a lot of work and again the vast majority of the Ladies out there look at all that and go "HUH!?" Thereby...if you are a proud sissy, that is great. But if you lead with that then you perpetrate the stereotype of the sissy in BDSM circles. That stereotype is what I have typed above - self focused, kink focused, not focused on the Lady, nor being a submissive or a slave. The Dominant/Submissive dynamic is very important. If your being a sissy upsets the balance of where the focus in in a D/s context, then most Ladies are going to have a problem with that. There are a few Ladies out there who enjoy sissies, but even they tend to look for a balanced D/s relationship where the focus is primarily on the D/s and you being a sissy is merely a "spice". And so, my advice to you is this - be a proud submissive/slave first. In most D/s relationships, each party inspires the other and provides a safe space for the other to be completely who they are. And so it is completely possible to get all that you desire as a sissy...but you are not likely to get it as part of the entry fee. Your fulfilling Her desires, meeting Her needs will hopefully inspire Her to want to meet your needs. Good luck to you. :)

Epytropos -> RE: i am a sissy and proud of it (7/30/2011 1:47:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep i am neither a female dominant nor a male submissive, but i don't understand why he would even want to tell people who don't need to know about what he's into, no matter how proud he may be. =p i'm pretty happy with being a submissive, but i'm not going to tell my relatives or non-kinky friends, and i wouldn't parade it in front of kids if i ever have them. if they were older and had questions because they were interested, that would be one thing, but i don't really see it as a flag i need to wave at everyone i meet. It's not something I put on my business cards, but I do tend to tell those close to me about my proclivities. It's a big part of my identity so if I'm trying to let someone get to know me and I don't share that they're missing a big piece of the puzzle. Pretty much everyone I consider a close friend knows, as do my parents (Though, I never told them. They just kind of picked up on it.). None of my casual 'hey lets get a beer after work' kind of friends know, though.

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