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Internet Chats - 5/18/2006 4:13:39 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Hi there,

Does anyone here use live internet chat. I used to use it with Master when we were chatting of course etc. Just recently I have popped onto a few chat rooms and I wondered what people really get out of them, unless they are particularly involved with someone and want to have a conversation with them. Like a few of the rooms I have joined, all the people are friendly enough..but mostly its like sitting there staring at a blank screen...what do people get out of them? For topics etc...I think its much easier to use a forum..that way you can pop on and off and still keep track of things.

I'm sitting in an internet chat room at the moment with approximately 15 people there but hardly anyone says anything.

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/18/2006 4:23:58 PM   
meatcleaver


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Joined: 3/13/2006
Status: offline 		I tried chatrooms once and it left me bewildered as to its attraction. I've use IM for passing quick messages but find it an abomination for chatting, I'd rather pay for a phone call if I am that desperate to talk to someone.

I did have an online relationship once before I knew there were such a thing as online relationships and learnt to hate the internet as a medium for communicating. Never, ever again.

I use forums because I am working on the computer while I post. It's a distraction as much as an entertainment. Sometimes I really do think I ought to get out more.

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/18/2006 4:27:37 PM   
juliaoceania


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Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline 		When I got my first PC I started going to political chat with voice. Now a lot of the rooms were chaotic, but I learned a lot too. I met my first dom in political chat...lol. I met my best friend in political chat. I have several other friends I met this way. I became politically active in the real world due to it also.

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/18/2006 5:18:22 PM   
Phoenixandnika


Posts: 748
Joined: 4/22/2005
From: Aberdeen Maryland
Status: offline 		jali,
 
Both of us go to chat rooms from time to time. Typically a D/s chat in lit.chat or various support group chat rooms we are members of. I have found a large group of parents and family of autistic children online. We have moderators or group leaders that open the room at certain times every day. It has allowed me to build a large support network where otherwise at times I would feel alone with my sons disability.
 
I don't understant what alot of people get from chat. I see many people even some that I know personally hidding from the world in chat. I think it is like anything else in life it can be benificial or detrimental depending on how and why we use them.



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RE: Internet Chats - 5/18/2006 5:33:46 PM   
SpankMuhButt


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Joined: 1/4/2006
Status: offline 		When I first got my computer 9 years ago I was addicted to chat rooms, never used a computer...i was so pathetic i went into a bondage room and some guy started talking to me the name was something like Dom____ something or another and i said "oh my son's name is Dominic too" needless to say he didnt talk to me anymore. wow how things have changed lol. anyway I havent been in a chatroom now in years, I have the forums on all kinds of topics i use and its more then enough for me

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/18/2006 5:40:16 PM   
Phoenixandnika


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The first chat room I ever went into was in AOL and it was my luck I pedifile clinged onto me and sent me a bunch of kiddie porn.
 
Kind of ruined my chances of getting addicted to chat.
 
*laughs*
 


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RE: Internet Chats - 5/18/2006 6:15:55 PM   
ScooterTrash


Posts: 1407
Joined: 1/24/2005
From: Indiana
Status: offline 		Before MSN went pay, I not only went into chat rooms, I used to be a manager of one (it was BDSM oriented). We had some fairly serious discussions off and on, but it did seem just before it went pay, that it was becoming more of just a social hall where folks popped in and out to say hello. After the pay thing, most of the chatrooms on MSN died a rather abrupt death, although a few die hard ones hung on. After a period of time I did pay for a while and popped in to a few of the surviver rooms now and then, but it was more of a hello and good-by sequence for most people, than a real place to have discussions or debates, didn't see it worth the money and finally just let it lapse. After joining CollarMe quite some time ago, I did frequent the main room here, but again, it seemed more of just a gathering place to say hi & bye than a venue to get into any real serious discussions. I guess the attraction wore off or maybe I just lost interest, but any more it's rare that I will even go in to see who's still around. I still think it would be a great way to have live discussions without the time lag from the forums, but it takes a lot of work to keep one up and running smooth, without it becoming just another place for your conversations to get disrupted. There was a time when it was fun however..maybe that time has just passed.

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/19/2006 12:49:29 AM   
Vendaval


Posts: 10297
Joined: 1/15/2005
Status: offline 		Ah, slavejali, most chat rooms are the Net equivalent of wandering
into the middle of a schoolyard and playing tackle football on the cement
with no helmet or padding.   Don't go there!
 
YMMV,
 
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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejali
what do people get out of them? For topics etc...I think its much easier to use a forum..that way you can pop on and off and still keep track of things.

I'm sitting in an internet chat room at the moment with approximately 15 people there but hardly anyone says anything.


< Message edited by Vendaval -- 5/19/2006 12:56:49 AM >

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/20/2006 5:53:21 AM   
iliv2servher


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejali

Hi there,

Does anyone here use live internet chat. I used to use it with Master when we were chatting of course etc. Just recently I have popped onto a few chat rooms and I wondered what people really get out of them, unless they are particularly involved with someone and want to have a conversation with them. Like a few of the rooms I have joined, all the people are friendly enough..but mostly its like sitting there staring at a blank screen...what do people get out of them? For topics etc...I think its much easier to use a forum..that way you can pop on and off and still keep track of things.

I'm sitting in an internet chat room at the moment with approximately 15 people there but hardly anyone says anything.


slavejali,
 
I pretty much grew up in Internet chat rooms (IRC, Usenet) since the mid-1990s.  It was/is a great resource for learning and meeting people.  Some of my fondest memories came from that period in my life.  We had an online community then.  I met and interacted with people from all over the world.  However, it does have it's pitfalls.  First and foremost, it is time-consuming.  Secondly, there is a lack of physical, face-to-face contact.  I think we as humans require the physical presence of other human beings.  Thirdly, you rarely stay in touch with those people, since most are not local to you.  And fourth, and probably most important, long-distance relationships (even though you are not necessarily looking for one) are not easy.  They can be both painful and disappointing. 
 
I've tried to go back to those days on IRC, but the people have changed.  Mostly it's idle chit-chat with no substance.  It has become a whole, new generation, and you have to spend time getting to know each person individually (and they you) before you can become part of the community. 
 
But, having said all of this, do you really have the time to devote to establish online friendship?  Would your time be better-spent going to local munches and other events?
 
I hope this helps.
 
-iliv2servHer

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/20/2006 6:02:45 AM   
cuddleheart50


Posts: 9718
Joined: 2/20/2006
From: Kentucky
Status: offline 		I don't use chatrooms, they bore me. IM's are better for me.  I like one on one conversations.

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/20/2006 8:50:35 AM   
krikket


Posts: 1183
Joined: 11/17/2004
From: Washington, DC Metro Area
Status: offline 		While i occasionally go into the chat portion of CM, the lobby is usually pretty crowded and i find it difficult to get to really know anyone there.  Back in the days when both the net and i were new, i'd go to Dalnet, helped "op" one (which made me feel cared for (and yeah, i know that sounds weird, but it was what i needed at  the time), and then started (and managed) my own room, mainly to play with "pop-ups" and waves and ascii art, but in both rooms i made some livetime friends, for which i'll be forever grateful.  i found my way to bondage.net chatserver, but never felt as comfortable there -- not sure what the difference was.  Some people in chatrooms use a room to "meet up" and then go into private chat, which is kinda frustrating when you go there and no-one notices, but i guess that's part of how things go today.

cheers,

jimini

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/20/2006 2:51:20 PM   
JazzDaddy


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Joined: 12/8/2005
Status: offline 		I enjoy IM chat more than chat rooms. If I talk with someone, I like it to be one-on-one.

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/20/2006 3:17:10 PM   
MistressWolfen


Posts: 578
Joined: 6/20/2005
Status: offline 		Hi jali, I use two of the internet chat rooms on a regular basis. Both of them are chat rooms that a group of friends seperated by distance use as a means of keeping up and for random silliness for the most part. I agree with what others say and find that for the most part chat rooms can get very boring very quickly, great place to pop in with morning coffee for a few minutes though.

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/20/2006 3:28:56 PM   
slavejali


Posts: 2918
Status: offline 		I ended up finding a talkative chat, it ended up being a lesbian domme room, everyone there was really friendly and chatty, which was excellent....and they didnt even mind I have a Master and am pretty straight *grin*

I dunno, I just had a kinda emotional week, it was great to be able to speak to people live ( well as live as the internet gets hey). It musta been PMS cuz I'm feeling pretty fantastic today, even, balanced, peaceful ...although Master did finally beat me last night *grin* might have something to do with it..hehe

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/20/2006 10:49:43 PM   
MistressWolfen


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Joined: 6/20/2005
Status: offline 		huggggssss the bejaysus outta jali..just cause ya are a total sweetie.

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/20/2006 11:33:02 PM   
SirKenin


Posts: 2994
Joined: 10/31/2004
From: Barrie, ON Canada
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejali

Hi there,

Does anyone here use live internet chat. I used to use it with Master when we were chatting of course etc. Just recently I have popped onto a few chat rooms and I wondered what people really get out of them, unless they are particularly involved with someone and want to have a conversation with them. Like a few of the rooms I have joined, all the people are friendly enough..but mostly its like sitting there staring at a blank screen...what do people get out of them? For topics etc...I think its much easier to use a forum..that way you can pop on and off and still keep track of things.

I'm sitting in an internet chat room at the moment with approximately 15 people there but hardly anyone says anything.


I ran a chatroom and internet community for two and a half years, complete with forums, coffee meets and chat parties, the whole nine yards.

I found that people that hang out in them have mental issues or baggage.  All of them.  Some of them are lonely.  Most are looking to pick up for the night or for a relationship because they either have no lives in the real world or they can not find anyone in real time.  Some have partners, but their partners are never home, the love is lost, or their partner lives on the other side of the world and they use the chatroom to communicate with each other.

They will sit in the chatroom for HOURS babbling about absolutely nothing but nonsensical drivel.  They are like a bunch of drunks sitting at the bar, nodding off, mumbling and drooling all over the place until someone mentions the word "sex" and all of a sudden the screen comes alive and it starts scrolling faster than you can read it.

I finally gave it up because I got sick of it and could not stand sitting in there watching over their crap and dealing with all the drama, mind fucks and bickering.  It was absolutely retarded.  It was fun to be revered, and to this day I can not go very far without being greeted by one or more former members as "Doc".  I truly created a legacy in this city, but good riddance as far as I am concerned.

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/21/2006 9:10:42 PM   
Kedikat


Posts: 680
Joined: 4/20/2006
Status: offline 		I drop in on chat rooms now and then, to see if anything interesting is being discussed.
Very seldom is there anything. A lot of Hi's Bye's, weather reports, and other nothingness.
Occasionally I try and startup some actual topic. Seldom works. If it does, it often turns into just flaming.
sigh......
But every now and then, an actual interesting exchange of ideas and knowledge occurs.

Guess it's about the same as any instance of idle chit chat. Mostly nothing.

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/21/2006 11:45:20 PM   
proudsub


Posts: 6142
Joined: 1/31/2004
From: Washington
Status: offline 		The only chat room i go to anymore is for the South Beach diet, and we schedule the chats and i find them very useful and motivating. I used to chat in the bdsm rooms at jmeeting, it was fun to discuss the live cams, especially when a dom was directing his sub on cam.


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RE: Internet Chats - 5/23/2006 12:36:59 PM   
subtill


Posts: 47
Joined: 10/18/2005
From: Germany
Status: offline 		Hm its terrible to say that i use chatrooms, Iwould'nt be here ,when i wouldn't find my first chatroom,about bdsm,since about 2000.In Germany there use much people of the bdsm Group chatroms. On /or in this/ (or )at(my english is worse/bad)  this way i got my first invitation to the first sm-party. First I talked a lot in this Chatroom it calls Peitsche. and then i learned-> that there are in Germany in about every bigger towns meetingsplaces,mostly Vanilla pups/bars,where we can meet other bdsm people, it happened mostly about two times in the month. so you can meet real people,real dom/mes on the privat base and other subs, men and women, in your town or in the near of the place where you live. Then i use forums too since three years,but i like it to speak real in the moment. No i found another way to communicated by phone over my Pc,with headset. So I load myself the software sipgate down of my computer. Every one ,who has this software on his PC can (i beleave) phone togeather with out money(i hope that this will be true,itss very new on my Computer)
sincerely sub_Till

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RE: Internet Chats - 5/23/2006 1:03:11 PM   
akisha


Posts: 2071
Joined: 6/25/2005
Status: offline 		I used to OP a chat room on bondage.com and still am co-owner of one actually. Not that I go onto IRC that much anymore.

I use it mostly to catch up with friends etc. And it can be fun to see some of the HNG trying to "play" hehe

Some channels are extremely boring and no one talks. the ones i used to frequent were always very busy and alot of fun most of the time.

Plus it was one of the guys i met in a chat room that told me about collarme.

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