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Asherscorp1 -> I run the show ... according to His parents (7/29/2011 7:25:01 AM)
Master isn't very close to his parents but from time to time His dad will arrange to meet and have coffee and "chat". Meaning His dad takes the opportunity to let Him know what He's doing wrong and how to fix it. Last week was one such meeting and one of His dad's biggest gripes was, "You let Ashley run the show. You need to take the position of leadership if you want her to respect you in your marriage." I almost died laughing when Master came home and told me this and He found it amusing as well. Not sure how anyone could so grossly misinterpret our relationship but it made me want to share the irony and ask... What have you experienced that is similar? A family member assuming something WAAAAY off base or maybe a friend who is totally clueless making an outrageous remark that made you laugh?

leadership527 -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/29/2011 7:31:52 AM)
quote: or maybe a friend who is totally clueless making an outrageous remark that made you laugh? Oh god yes, all the time. I do not "lord it over Carol" as some recent poster said. To the outside observer it may look like damned near anything and yes it makes us both laugh when it happens.

littlewonder -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/29/2011 7:44:47 AM)
My family used to do this all the time and I'd defend my husband or partner at the time, telling them how wrong they are. Here's the kicker...they weren't wrong. They just could see what I was denying to myself, what I was choosing to ignore. I had blinders on because of the relationship...until the relationships ended for the very reasons they stated.

LaTigresse -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/29/2011 8:02:01 AM)
Over the years there have been a great many things about my relationships, and myself, that people have not either been aware of, or mistaken. 99% of the time it has no bearing on either the relationship or my life.

KeriB -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/29/2011 10:15:24 AM)
I had someone in my life who seemed to think I had no self esteem and that I could not stand on my own. Turns out I had a fairly good sense of self worth when I wasn't around them and after getting rid of them I was able to accomplish many of the things I wanted in life.

LadyConstanze -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/29/2011 10:28:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Asherscorp1 What have you experienced that is similar? A family member assuming something WAAAAY off base or maybe a friend who is totally clueless making an outrageous remark that made you laugh? My mother told me that she's very happy that my other half has me firmly under control as other guys I dated just never seemed to stand up for themselves. I told him, he cracked up and said "Your mom must think I'm suicidal!"

SomethingCatchy -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/29/2011 11:44:04 AM)
My mother has told me that women shouldn't be in charge, men should. I always think it's hilarious when people try to tell others that their lives are only supposed to go one way based on their sex organs.

Arpig -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/29/2011 11:50:29 AM)
My ex-mother-in-law thought I was a good catch.

DesFIP -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/29/2011 4:36:38 PM)
I can easily understand why he doesn't want to spend time with his parents. His father is disrespectful of his mother, they must be great fun to be around (not). I do have a problem that he doesn't tell his father not to talk about his mother or his wife in that manner. Avoidance isn't the solution. Establishing healthy boundaries is.

Marisol -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/29/2011 4:49:24 PM)
My family is pretty much completely full of shit on a regular basis. They seem to feel the need to unload that shit on my daily. They are very religious, more conservative than I am, sexual prudes. I remember when I was 14, my mother looked at me and said "Are you pregnant?" I looked at her oddly and said no. "Are you a lesbian?" I have never laughed so hard. "Yes, momma, I am a pregnant lesbian, how did you guess." My older sister and her friends took bets when I was younger for when I would come out of the closet. My mother see's my relationships with men and assume they are taking advantage of "lil' ol' me." I don't think she wants to consider than her daughter may be the one taking advantage of others. I'm rambling, sorry. It's not quite the same as what you went through, but even so I do know what it is like to have family assuming.

kalikshama -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/29/2011 5:19:20 PM)
You have mini dragons on your breast! [image]http://www.collarchat.com/upfiles/503686/11314A7FF6C9477BB1853B759B0E4203.jpg[/image]

KeriB -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/29/2011 11:33:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama You have mini dragons on your breast! That I do, they provide just the right amount of poke and pull. OT: I do in my work atmosphere get mistaken for being a Domme, it's entertaining to watch people trying to figure me out.

MaamJay -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/30/2011 2:39:00 AM)
Had to laugh Asher, as i am sure His parents probably read us in the same way. What they DON'T see is His having given permission for me to be the organiser, the doer, the mover and shaker! He recognises my skills and says "Just do it" ... as He says, it's like the old adage, why keep a dog and bark myself? He lets me do what i am good at doing. He's a classic example of the leader not always having to be the One out front barking orders or dragging others along. However, He is still the ONLY person i know who, when i get really overstressed (angry, frustrated etc) can snap me back into place with a look or a stern word or two. Even my mother couldn't do that so well when i was a kid! And i am so grateful that He can do that. violet[A] more usually known here as Ma'am Jay!

Epytropos -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/30/2011 4:24:02 AM)
My mother told me that my first slave was "emasculating" and that I really needed to "teach her respect." It was mostly because the girl had a really cutting sense of humor, which I found entertaining to a point and accepted/encouraged to some degree. My parents apparently found it less entertaining.

Kana -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/30/2011 6:35:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Asherscorp1 Master isn't very close to his parents but from time to time His dad will arrange to meet and have coffee and "chat". Meaning His dad takes the opportunity to let Him know what He's doing wrong and how to fix it. Last week was one such meeting and one of His dad's biggest gripes was, "You let Ashley run the show. You need to take the position of leadership if you want her to respect you in your marriage." I almost died laughing when Master came home and told me this and He found it amusing as well. Not sure how anyone could so grossly misinterpret our relationship but it made me want to share the irony and ask... What have you experienced that is similar? A family member assuming something WAAAAY off base or maybe a friend who is totally clueless making an outrageous remark that made you laugh? Laughs. I have a church type friend, female, who says "I'm the safest guy she's ever met." Sucker. Grins. I know a few gals who would vehemently disagree.

sunshinemiss -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (7/30/2011 10:46:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Avoidance isn't the solution. Establishing healthy boundaries is. Sometimes avoidance is the healthy boundary.

kuppykake -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (8/1/2011 9:57:30 AM)
My Master and I started out vanilla years ago. Those who know us often assume that I am the more dominant one in the relationship. When we were vanilla that was true, because I do have a more domineering personality than he does, so I can see why people would assume that. We like it though, it's kind of a cover, since we don't intend on letting the world know what our real kinks are.

RaspberryLemon -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (8/1/2011 3:06:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Epytropos My mother told me that my first slave was "emasculating" and that I really needed to "teach her respect." It was mostly because the girl had a really cutting sense of humor, which I found entertaining to a point and accepted/encouraged to some degree. My parents apparently found it less entertaining. This is sort of how I am. I am always messing with my Master, it's just my way of playing around and we both have a laugh with it. I'm sure that, to the outside eye, there are occasions where that masks that there is any sort of power dynamic in play or even makes it seem that I'm the one in charge or something. But. My very close friends and family (particularly the ones I live with) though, have a pretty clear idea of how things work around here regardless; I wear the collar, he holds the leash. :)

SexyThoughts -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (8/4/2011 2:43:48 AM)
Perverts are not vanilla's. Perverts have clearer boundaries, plus safeword's for what happens "when they get home" afterwards. So they can revel in the moment safely. Subbies grind on boundaries, like strippers grind on poles, because they know exactly what will happen and they like it. But non SSC Vanilla's, have no idea of the consequences of saying the wrong thing. So they live in a more nervous , more repressed world, with no loving man willing to put a foot up their arse if they get indecisive. Poor things.

CertifiedNerdist -> RE: I run the show ... according to His parents (8/4/2011 10:47:58 AM)
People sometimes think that because I'm polite and respectful that I'm a submissive.

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