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Asherscorp1 -> Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 8:09:38 AM)
In the time I have been Master's slave I have found many sources of fulfillment and happiness but one of the most surprising to me has been that I no longer need to orgasm to feel content with sex. I am Master's toy and pet and I have no say in when/how I will be used; most of the time this means that my pleasure is not thought of at all, I am only to please Master. The funny thing is, in past vanilla relationships I would throw fits over not orgasming, I would get pouty or sullen or grouchy for hours and now I go weeks without one and feel completely happy. I find it amazing that this is true and it gives me a sense of complete freedom since I don't have to concern myself with my own pleasure or with "faking for his ego" which I've always found adds stress to the whole process. Have other slaves found this to be a fulfilling experience and were you surprised when you realized that you were content with it? If this isn't your experience what have you been surprised to find rewarding in your own lifestyle?

tj444 -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 8:20:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Asherscorp1 If this isn't your experience what have you been surprised to find rewarding in your own lifestyle? well, i am not a slave at present for anyone in real life but in the past, yes, an O was not important to me, unfortunately my having an O can be an issue for some guys.... they dont seem to get that about me.. they tie my having an O with their being a man.. [&o] But that is why i love to suck (the right guy), pleasing and being the best at it is very rewarding, imo... [:)]

littlewonder -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 8:23:20 AM)
they were never that important to me to begin with ever in my life so if he doesn't allow me to for a certain amount of time then I'm ok with that. Then again I've gone years without one in the past and never missed them. I've always been more concerned with my partner's orgasms and pleasures than my own.

LaTigresse -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 9:36:51 AM)
Hell, I am on the other side of the slash and they've never been that important to me either. The last year or two, I don't even think about it unless someone else brings it up.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 9:42:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse Hell, I am on the other side of the slash and they've never been that important to me either. The last year or two, I don't even think about it unless someone else brings it up. Me, neither. Should we blame the menopause?

LaTigresse -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 9:43:40 AM)
I do.........and I also blame it for my lack of give a damn about the lack of give a damn.[:D]

myotherself -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 9:49:24 AM)
I'm with the "it doesn't matter" crowd. I get to orgasm occasionally, but I get a huge amount of pleasure seeing/hearing/feeling him cum...more than I get from my own orgasm. I don't know if that's me being selfless or some kind of super-slave, but it's always been that way with me, right from my teens.

tj444 -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 10:01:20 AM)
for me, i dont consider it selflessness, i am selfish. I enjoy sex a lot but i enjoy "the ride" most of all. I am very selfish tho when sucking cuz i love to torture the lucky guy and stretch it out, deep throat and bring him to the brink but back off and not let him cum until i want him too.. now some guys consider that a great bj but i consider it selfish on my part in various ways, it is me in control after all. And it is me he will aways forever think of and remember as the best bj he ever had in his life. [:D]

myotherself -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 10:03:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tj444 I enjoy sex a lot but i enjoy "the ride" most of all. QFT!

DesFIP -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 11:21:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Me, neither. Should we blame the menopause? Definitely. But I miss them, I used to be able to cum at the drop of a hat and have multiples. These days I'm lucky if he can get me to cum once. He misses them also. He had a lot of fun making me plead no more.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 11:30:05 AM)
I have no problems w/ orgasming myself, but it's funny that a vanilla friend and I were just having a conversation about this last night. She said she often doesn't orgasm from sex but that it's still fulfilling to her. She went on to say that her boyfriend has a conniption fit over it. I told her if she is truly content w/o orgasming, maybe he's having a conniption fit because he can't control that part of her and that pisses him off. She'd never considered that viewpoint before, but thought "Hmmmm....." ~Hisprettybaby~

SuzeCheri -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 12:42:05 PM)
quote: I don't even think about it unless someone else brings it up. quote: Me, neither. Hmmmm.....[sm=meh.gif] What do you think Suze? Almost too easy actually. True, but would it be worth it? Oh yes! Go for it! Okely dokely, here goes..... ORGASM! Muahahahaha

littlekitten1 -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 4:15:21 PM)
Im 22... but... I don't think i really have the ability to really orgasm... like.. on occasion i may be 'lucky' enough to achieve clitoral orgasm. But that's if Ive been working at it a lot, or if Im really really horny and stimulated. Vanilla sex never ever did anything for me. So for me...I guess its just a case of orgasms being insignificant enough that they never meant something. I've never had a mindblowing orgasm, and the fact that I have such a hard time being physically stimulated means that I base almost my entire sexuality on the kinky aspect. Pain, mind games, humiliation. I don't really know if there's anything wrong with me. I know that just fucking is painful as fuck. Im a mess x_x

kalikshama -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 4:18:45 PM)
One word: Eroscillator! Dr Ruth and I are convinced. Ok - more words - I have a tilted uterus so overly endowed men hurt cuz they bang my cervix. There was a thread on this I will dig up if you think this might be an issue for you.

kalikshama -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 4:25:32 PM)
Well, I've clearly been working too hard as I interpreted the title as the noun, as in "porn content without orgasms" rather than the adjective as in "are you content without orgasms?" Or - my Scene content does not have to contain orgasms as I am content to have them separately with my Eroscillator.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 4:33:58 PM)
quote: If this isn't your experience what have you been surprised to find rewarding in your own lifestyle? Well it's definitely not my experience <orgasms are frequent around here>, so I'll answer this question. My answer is simply everything. The whole shebang. A year ago this lifestyle was something consisting of caricatures of whip-wielding leather-clad dominatrixes and grovelling politicians that my friends and I would giggle about. If anybody had told me I would not only be involved in it, but thriving like never before in my life, well I'd have dismissed them as out of their minds. If I had to pick one single thing that most astounded me, it would be water sports. I LOVE piss games, and for the life of me I can't even begin to understand why. There is just something so wonderfully erotically perverse about kneeling down, opening my mouth, and waiting for it, almost begging, or lapping it up off the floor. Just wow! LOL. Probably TMI, but oh well.

tj444 -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 4:35:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama I have a tilted uterus so overly endowed men hurt cuz they bang my cervix. There was a thread on this I will dig up if you think this might be an issue for you. hmmm, i had one doc tell me mine was tilted too but i never knew what that meant, caused, did.... [8\|]

kalikshama -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 5:28:02 PM)
Pain with sex thread, including tips for tilted uterus: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3464022/mpage_1/tm.htm

RaspberryLemon -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 8:04:24 PM)
Well, it's not important to me that I get off. I'm not saying I don't enjoy the feeling, because obviously I do. But I enjoy sex in and of itself regardless of whether or not I get to orgasm because I enjoy the act--I enjoy pleasing my Master, being close to him, becoming one rhythm... It's just perfect. I don't feel as if I've missed out on something if I don't get to orgasm, and given the lack thereof I'm just as satisfied as I would be if I were to orgasm. The important part to me is that Master feels good. I immensely enjoy pleasing him in all senses of the word, so HIS orgasm is important, yes. But not mine. Now, that isn't to say that I don't frequently get to orgasm. I do have to have permission to do so, as he likes having control over that--however he enjoys watching me orgasm so much that it is a rarity that he would chose to deny me permission to orgasm. And of course, if there are occasions when I do have permission and I don't end up having an orgasm, it's not a big deal (it takes quite a bit for me to get off, always been that way, so it's not uncommon if I just don't get there, and I certainly don't mind or care.) It used to be, early on in our relationship, that he had the classic male attitude of "if she doesn't get off, I fail as a man" but that was before I explained to him my feelings on the matter, that it really doesn't matter to me and that the experience of sexual intimacy is fulfilling in itself. Nowadays, it matters not. Some days I orgasm, some days I don't, but what really matters is that Master has been sufficiently pleased.

tj444 -> RE: Content without orgasms (7/29/2011 9:10:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama Pain with sex thread, including tips for tilted uterus: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3464022/mpage_1/tm.htm Thanks, I will read thru that thread. I know at times i did feel it hitting but it was very mild pain, and not a big problem.. but then i am not into porn star sized guys and ask about size well before I even meet them. Too big for me is an automatic "no thanks we are not compatible" from me...

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