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Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 9:58:30 AM   
extacyforyou


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Status: offline 		My Master and I have been involved with each other for a little over a year. He is married and his wife doesn't know. I am single.
He lives about 100 miles away from me and comes to visit me once a week.

I found out this week that I am pregnant with child. I do not beleive in abortion.
I told Him about it earlier this week and He said its probably best that we don't see each other any more. It has been five days and I can't get a hold of Him and He won't return my messages. It's like He disappeared off the face of the earth.

I am beyond hurt and am beside myself with anxiety.

I'm thinking about telling His wife.
What should I do?
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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:03:47 AM   
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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:09:33 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		First, I hope you are in the position of being able to obtain child support.  Since you have the ability to tell his wife, I'm sure you have enough of his information to be able to file legally when the child is born.  You might want to expect a small delay for the period when the court has to run DNA testing and so on to prove paternity.  I won't say anything about whether or not the man will want have visitation or be a part of the child's life.  Obviously, he's not all that big on caring about commitments or he wouldn't have been fucking around behind his wife's back with you in the first place.

I do think you should probably keep something in mind.  If you are the one who tells the wife, don't be surprised if some of the anger that she has is directed at you.  If you have his information, then he probably has yours and don't be shocked if somebody comes knocking at your door.

I hope you have a very strong support system.  Raising a child alone isn't always easy.



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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:11:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		There is always adoption, too. I couldnt give up a child for adoption, but I have much respect for those that do.

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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:11:51 AM   
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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:12:10 AM   
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Please go back to your bridge.

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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:12:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		Why would you tell his wife? Either he will tell her now (doubtful), or he'll have to explain the paternity test request and subsequent results. It's not like telling her is going to make him talk to you/see you again.

Your play relationship with him is over. Now you've created a child together, and for that reason you will be forever linked, even if he is not involved in your child's life.

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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:14:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		What you should do is decide what happens now with you and the child. He's out of the picture, I'm sorry, it happens. Think long and hard about having a child and raising it on your own. Having the child will be extremely difficult and it will change your life forever. You say you don't believe in abortion, I understand that, however if you don't have children you really have no idea of what it means to go through the process of having one and raising one to adulthood. It's somewhat easy to have an ideal in your mind (not believing in abortion) and not so easy to follow through on what upholding that will entail.

If you still want to have the baby you can go through the system to prove paternity and get him for child support. You won't have to tell the wife, she'll find out. I'm not sure what you want to accomplish by talking to her unless its revenge for running out on you.

Best of luck to you and my sympathies on your situation.

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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:14:18 AM   
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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:16:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		wow, when I tried to hit the "quote" box I got a different quote than what I aee as post #9! Interesting!

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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:16:14 AM   
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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:16:25 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: extacyforyou
tell her! tell her! tell her! tell her..!! call that wife UP!!! LMFAO. This is one of the best threads Ive ever seen.



Ooops. Did you forget what sock profile you were signed into.


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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:17:26 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

quote:

ORIGINAL: extacyforyou
tell her! tell her! tell her! tell her..!! call that wife UP!!! LMFAO. This is one of the best threads Ive ever seen.



Ooops. Did you forget what sock profile you were signed into.




Oh snap!

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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:17:26 AM   
Aileen1968


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

wow, when I tried to hit the "quote" box I got a different quote than what I aee as post #9! Interesting!


I snagged it...

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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:17:29 AM   
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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:18:21 AM   
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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:22:21 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

quote:

ORIGINAL: extacyforyou
tell her! tell her! tell her! tell her..!! call that wife UP!!! LMFAO. This is one of the best threads Ive ever seen.



Ooops. Did you forget what sock profile you were signed into.



Oh FFS, really? Honestly, if my entertainment was making up fictional situations on a kink site and then cheering myself on I'd much rather shoot myself.

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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:23:30 AM   
YSG


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Status: offline 		Lawyer up. And if you cant find him, have the lawyer hire a private investigator to. There are alot of lawyers out there who will do pro bono work, and to my understanding, in some states, they can tack on attorney fees to any lawsuit.

On the personal side, Im sorry you got burned by this asshole. You have a long, hard road ahead, but these forums are a good place to come and let your anger out, and find emotional support.

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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:24:40 AM   
hlen5


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Status: offline 		I feel for your situation. The fact that your "master" has broken off contact with you should tell you exactly what to expect from him.

Don't tell his wife. Just go straight to a lawyer, to get support.

I would even go so far as to NOT meet with him except in public. Change the locks on your door.

I'm very much hoping that your contraceptive method just failed. If you weren't using any, I would ask myself why.

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RE: Pregnant with Master's child - 7/29/2011 10:24:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Why would you tell his wife? Either he will tell her now (doubtful), or he'll have to explain the paternity test request and subsequent results. It's not like telling her is going to make him talk to you/see you again.

Your play relationship with him is over. Now you've created a child together, and for that reason you will be forever linked, even if he is not involved in your child's life.

Cali



This and what LadyP said, harping on about moral issues doesn't help, especially not since it's happened now, a bit too late. None of it is the baby's fault, the baby does deserve the best you both can give, if you feel that the child would be better off being raised in a family, by all means consider adoption, you're not giving the child away, you are trying to do what is best and since there is a shortage of babies, parents who want to adopt are very thoroughly screened, so you do not need to worry about the future of your baby. In case you want to raise it yourself, by all means make sure you got all the info you need on him, because he does owe the child support, no need that you tell his wife, he can do that and face her anger, something he should have thought about before he decided to play behind her back.

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