BitaTruble
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ORIGINAL: Marisol
How do you get rid of these insecurities?
Every rope expert on the planet started their craft in the exact same way. They learned how to tie their shoes. I'll bet you know a lot more than you think you do.
Set yourself up for success by identifying your skill set. You've already done a good job with some of that just by filling out your profile. There are very few things under the sun that you can't apply to BDSM in some way.
You like to draw. Great place to start if you like humiliation (and I see that you do!) or objectification or even when you don't know or are unsure if you like things, it can be a fun and harmless way of finding out. You can draw pictures or write words that make you laugh (evil laughs preferred of course!) and turn a submissive bright red. You can draw targets on a submissive and if you don't feel comfortable throwing darts at the target just yet, soak up some rubbing alcohol with a couple of those big, fluffy cotton balls and throw those instead. They are cold and you get to practice your aim! Win-win!
You can bend a pipe-cleaner. Twist a few together, bend into the shape of a horseshoe, have your bottom recline then pick a body part, protect the eyes and play ring around the body part. Tits, cock, toes.. doesn't matter. Have fun with it and realize that it's a skill you already have so it's sure to be a success.
You have a voice. That means you can play fetch with your submissive, torture them by reading them Klingon poetry or do a great interrogation scene.
You can hold a toothpick. Very hard to break the skin with a toothpick and when that submissive is wearing a blindfold, they'll be hard pressed to tell the differene between that and some deadlier object of torment. Fun for both of you.. or, you know, at least for you. 
The point is, there are tons of stuff you can already do and there is tons of stuff you already know. There is stuff that you know that no one else on the planet knows simply because they haven't lived in your skin. You have 18 years of experience being you and not a single person on the planet can match that. On being 'you', you are the foremost expert on Earth!
You have nothing to be insecure about. In fact, you have a whole lot to be very secure about.
The safety stuff, the tweaking with weapons of ass destruction stuff.. pretty much all the 'stuff' we do.. it's all learnable so just pick a subject and start learning!
One of the best books on BDSM you will ever, ever read is Gray's Anatomy. Learn what a pressure point is and where they are. Very little pressure needs to be applied to one of those key points to bring on a great deal of pain (if you are into that sort of thing). Learn where the main veins and artery's are, how the spine curves under the skin, where the kidney's are so you can avoid those areas of the body until you feel comfortable enough with your skills to take them on without having to worry about harming someone. If you are into pain.. hurt is good.. harm, not so good. Keep an open mind and use the skill set of reading that you already possess to educate yourself, perhaps attend some munches, meet some folks and in no time at all people will be going to you for advice and you'll be confident and secure enough in what you know and what you do that you'll be able to talk your walk with the best of them.
Hope that helps give you a start! Good luck to you.
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"Oh, so it's just like Rock, paper, scissors." He laughed. "You are the wisest woman I know."
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