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leadership527 -> RE: Expectations/Requests for a First Meeting? (8/2/2011 7:52:44 AM)

What, if any, are your 'common/standard/often used' expectations/requests for this first meeting?
Uh... "dress nicely, the restaurant is upscale?"

Is there any expectation of explicitly submissive behavior
That depends on what you mean by that. I would say that there is the expectation that the other person behave naturally. I am definitely looking to see if they submit, but it wouldn't be overt/explicit. I'm looking at the stuff that flies under the radar.

and do you expect to make a decision on whether you would be interested in pursuing an D/s relationship at this point?
The only decision I can see myself coming to on a first date is whether or not there will be a second date.

Do you expect the sub to make a solid indication that you are the 'Dom/me for them' at that point?
I expect the woman I'm with to be a mature, competent adult able to make her own decisions according to her own time frame and then notify interested parties accordingly.



sunshinemiss -> RE: Expectations/Requests for a First Meeting? (8/2/2011 8:08:54 AM)

I have standards rather than expectations.  I apply the standards to me.  If the other person's standards aren't in the ballpark of my standards, I will still maintain my own (politeness, for the most part including the "while I respect your way, I've not forgotten my own" variety, candor - including "you're / I"m kind of an asshole," or "you're / I"m a pretty interesting person!"depending on the situation, and I'll not take advantage of someone).


And coffee - I always go to a place with decent java.

*grammar edit



KenRath -> RE: Expectations/Requests for a First Meeting? (8/3/2011 5:44:28 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I expect mutual respect at that point.  I may request certain clothing - a blouse and skirt, for example.  I will not request something silly like slutty clothing.  To me, it's simply me suggesting something and her complying - the act rather than the image she will convey.

I will try to lead the conversation.  I will tell her about me and try to find out about her, in a vanilla sense, and also note whether the "chemistry" seems to be working.  My goal is to see if she's intelligent and mature, and comfortable in a me-led conversation.

If things go well, I may try to kiss her at the end of the date.  If she is comfortable with that, I will then continue with phone calls and texts/emails and set up another meeting.

I wouldn't expect her to commit to me being her Dom on the first date.  I do expect her to indicate whether she'd be interested in going further.



Something like this is how I would personally go about it.



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