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BalletBob -> Self Bondage ? (8/5/2011 2:59:12 PM)

Ok, I put this post up a few years ago, and was curious again. I know there are TONS of Male (and Female) subs out there, that don't have Mistresses or Masters.

How many use Self Bondage?

How many make (like me) their own Toys?

I do some myself, along with wearing or doing some things, to make me happy. This doesn't have anything to do with YANKER Material. I have a very vivid imagination, for myself.

Are there a lot of subs that fend for themselves too?

I admit it isn't as much fun as having a Female telling me what to do or wear, but it is better than nothing.

Just Nosy, (I mean curious), sub BalletBob



littlewonder -> RE: Self Bondage ? (8/5/2011 5:14:01 PM)

Can't say I do. I find self bondage to be rather boring. We tried it at the beginning when we were long distance but it just really didn't do anything for me at least. Some people seem to get off on the self bondage of the risk of being caught or not being able to get loose.

For me bondage is something I use to relax and to reach subspace but it only works when I have someone else who can actually put me in the bondage because I like rather tight and restrictive so that my body can't move at all and I can just float because I know I won't get caught or loose or anything like that. He's there to watch over me and to allow me the freedom to just go where my mind goes during that time.




LadyConstanze -> RE: Self Bondage ? (8/5/2011 5:34:16 PM)

Actually, for me it's not so much about the D/s aspect, but more how it feels, I'm not a huge bondage fan, I prefer leather cuffs, but it's just that I want to know how a knot feels when it's tied like this and placed like this, compared to being tied differently and being put in a different place, how much wiggle room it gives, how long it takes until my feet get numb, how comfy, uncomfy it is, it's not kinky, it's just knowing what it feels like when I do it to somebody else, oddly enough if somebody else would do it to me, I'd go all freaked out and claustrophobic...



phoenixmoonn13 -> RE: Self Bondage ? (8/6/2011 10:37:06 AM)

when i was married and before i knew all this existed i was never satisfied with sex with my then husband and i used to feel irritated and never satisfied the only way i could get anything was to do a bit of self practice but it was never hard core stuff like some do freezing keys in ice etc but it gave a slight edge to what i missed with my ex. there are a lot of websites with things to do hints and tips. now i know all this exits i dont need this anymroe and i dont think i am a freek for needing it.



BalletBob -> RE: Self Bondage ? (8/6/2011 2:13:44 PM)

There is noting like having a Mistress Tying me up, the way that SHE WANTS, but since that's not possible, I do a little bit of self Bondage. With Leather Wrist and Ankle Straps, connected to Double Ended Clips, I can still pull and squirm all I want, and still be able to get out.

The key in the ice thing is also too involved for me too. I did find a way to tie a Nylon Rope, to make Cuffs. I can pull all I want, but just twist the wrists in a certain way, and get out. And also being tied up, I can play with my Little Boy, Cookies (Balls) or Puppies (Nipples). So it is like Self Inflicted Chastity. LMCLAO

Thanks so much for all your comments.

Wish I was Tied (and Gagged) En Pointe, sub BalletBob



Focus50 -> RE: Self Bondage ? (8/6/2011 2:45:58 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: BalletBob

Ok, I put this post up a few years ago, and was curious again. I know there are TONS of Male (and Female) subs out there, that don't have Mistresses or Masters.

How many use Self Bondage?

How many make (like me) their own Toys?

I do some myself, along with wearing or doing some things, to make me happy. This doesn't have anything to do with YANKER Material. I have a very vivid imagination, for myself.

Are there a lot of subs that fend for themselves too?

I admit it isn't as much fun as having a Female telling me what to do or wear, but it is better than nothing.

Just Nosy, (I mean curious), sub BalletBob


Maybe it's because I'm a Dom but I've found the opposite works best for me.

That is that when I'm between relationships, the sight of all the ropes and toys etc become a focal point of exasperation, whose only purpose is to remind me what it is (fem/sub) that I don't have. So my "better than nothing" is the principle of "out of sight, out of mind" - that everything is consigned to the spare room or locked in the big cupboards out in the shed.

And btw, I do make my own toys - some quite large - and the time, patience and esp craftsmanship (I'm fussy) expended furthers the exasperation when they're reduced to dust collecting status.

I can understand when a sub is new and curious but doesn't "self bondage" generate the same kind of frustrations?

Focus.



0ldhen -> RE: Self Bondage ? (8/6/2011 4:19:54 PM)



Bob....I vividly remember one post you made about toys....the content or reason escapes me...but the line "a a hollow butt plug would be great for gassy days" still makes me smile.......



phoenixmoonn13 -> RE: Self Bondage ? (8/8/2011 12:13:04 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Focus50


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ORIGINAL: BalletBob


I can understand when a sub is new and curious but doesn't "self bondage" generate the same kind of frustrations?

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when i had to resort to self entertainment so to speak yes it does but without it i never got any tiny satisfaction either. its a bit like scratching an itch it makes it better for a shrot time but you want more so you give yoru self more and seek the real thing more. wo would locking it away a hve worked for me then not srue as to do so would ahve ment to ahve to hide or lock away what i felt




notsomuch -> RE: Self Bondage ? (8/8/2011 8:28:14 PM)

i'll be the positive response to the question. Yes, i practice self-bondage and i like it, obviously. Its not the same quality of experience as with another person but it approaches the experience that we desire but can't always get. i find it relaxing (and arousing) and do it with a suspended bag of ice holding the keys out of reach. A funny side-effect of the recent heat wave was that a bag of 42 icecubes that would typically last more than 14 hours melted in 7. Alas.



BalletBob -> RE: Self Bondage ? (8/9/2011 12:23:41 PM)

Hi Focus. There are no frustations for me, because I know it is a substitute, and an aid while between Mistresses. It won't get me in "Sub Space", but I like to write, and have a very VIVID IMAGINATION ! ha ha ha

Thank so much Oldhen. As a matter of fact, I did find some Butt Plugs with a hole, for "GASEOUS RELEASE". ha ha ha I just have one Medium one, that does let out if it is pushed to one side. And if I am not tied, then I can hold my nose too !

Notsomuch, I agree with you, with the fun. Just make sure you go Potty before. Unless your into Depends. Have you tried the "Rope Handcuffs"? It is really neat to use.

Fun in the bedroom, sub BalletBob



javabeansCBT -> RE: Self Bondage ? (11/1/2011 5:22:32 PM)

I have placed myself into self bondage before and enjoyed it.



SoulAlloy -> RE: Self Bondage ? (11/1/2011 11:46:17 PM)

I do self bondage from time to time, it can be fun and relaxing in the sensations. Of course it's not as satisfying knowing that you could easily escape, but in many ways it's like a big hug.

The closest I've ever been to making my own toys is when a cheap corset top frayed so much the plastic bones were coming out. We pulled them out, bunched them together and taped up one end in electrical tape - made one evil little flogger!



myotherself -> RE: Self Bondage ? (11/2/2011 12:52:47 AM)

I find bondage extremely boring. Even with a Master I find it gets in the way of my headspace. I prefer him to tell me to stay still (or whatever) and for me the excitement is in the mental discipline of doing what I'm told, despite what he's doing.

When I was single I did nothing bdsm to myself. I'm a masochist, but the pain I give myself is deeply unsatisfying.

I'm a very self-reliant person anyway, and that doesn't change whether I'm in or out of a relationship. I have a home, family and career to look after and I do it very well.

Basically, my 'sub' or 'slave' self doesn't switch on until there's someone there to inspire it.



kyira -> RE: Self Bondage ? (11/7/2011 4:57:39 PM)

When I was teen-aged to early 20's I played around with self-bondage, when I wasn't in a relationship... I never tried the "freezing the key" thing, I mostly used either locks and left one hand free, or hand-cuffs that took a little fumbling to get open with the key.

Remember to have someone trusted with access to your living space to come and check on you after you expect to be done. "Hey, come on over at 9 and we'll go out for coffee, I may be in the shower, so just let yourself in." If you are out before they get there, great! If you aren't... It's probably good they are there.

I once did a wonderful job of tieing myself spread-eagle and one of the knots I expected to be able to tug a release and get out, but I tied it wrong and it only got tighter. Oops. I ended up being able to work out of it somehow, I forget exactly how, but could have yelled for help. Would have been embarassing, tied spread eagle wearing red lingerie and very tight panties, with clothes-pins on my nipples and pre-cum everywhere. :-) But better than the alternative...



kalikshama -> RE: Self Bondage ? (11/8/2011 9:04:41 AM)

quote:

I find bondage extremely boring. Even with a Master I find it gets in the way of my headspace. I prefer him to tell me to stay still (or whatever) and for me the excitement is in the mental discipline of doing what I'm told, despite what he's doing.


Hmm, I'm the exact opposite. Bondage helps my headspace and pain tolerance.



LillyBoPeep -> RE: Self Bondage ? (11/8/2011 9:08:15 AM)

i love bondage, particularly rope (when rope touches my skin, it's over =p). i've tied rope harnesses on myself before, just for the feel of them. it's not quite the same feeling as being tied up/restrained by someone else for whatever his nefarious purposes are, but i like the feel of it.
and being pretty flexible, i like to test the limits of that with really complicated or really tight bondage.

sometimes it helps my pain tolerance because i'm immobilized so i can send a lot of energy outward without it really doing anything. =p kinda like how being gagged lets you scream louder. hahaha

but other times, the inability to run away heightens whatever's happening BECAUSE i'm unable to run away.




SoulAlloy -> RE: Self Bondage ? (11/8/2011 12:07:33 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: kyira
I once did a wonderful job of tieing myself spread-eagle and one of the knots I expected to be able to tug a release and get out, but I tied it wrong and it only got tighter. Oops. I ended up being able to work out of it somehow, I forget exactly how, but could have yelled for help. Would have been embarassing, tied spread eagle wearing red lingerie and very tight panties, with clothes-pins on my nipples and pre-cum everywhere. :-) But better than the alternative...


Yeah I did similar in one of my first forays, used slip knots but found I couldn't get the leverage to loosen it - ended up chewing through a dressing gown cord to escape lol



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