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sub/slave first physical experience - 8/5/2011 5:37:53 PM   
airesee


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Status: offline 		I am brand new to this site and the lifestyle so I'm going to try real hard not to make an a$$ of myself! My Master has been training and teaching me about the nature of a D/s relationship for about 4 months online. Its complicated W/we've known each other for a long time & have had vanilla dates when I guess he was trying to feel me out & see if W/we were right for each other and now live a few hours apart so thats why the online training. Sunday & Monday will be our 1st time together as Dom & sub (& my 1st ever)! Of course I'm a huge ball of emotions nervous, excited, curious etc etc. Just wondering if any other sub/slaves want to share any advice or stories about their 1st experience!!!
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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/5/2011 5:46:45 PM   
LanceHughes


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Status: offline 		If anyone posts an experience for you to read, that experience will tell you one thing and one thing only and that is "YMWV."

YMWV = Your Milage Will Vary

Sounds like you two are going about it the right way.  What he might have "planned" for you, none of us can say.

I sincerly hope this is not his first experience being a Master.

The best advice for BOTH of you: It's okay if you don't have a "perfect" session (whatever that means.)  If you both want "more of the same," but haven't gone too far, why, that's the outcome to shoot for.

Good luck and please come back and tell us what happened!

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And, I have to say it before someone else does......

Such a first-ever post is considered "wank material."  That is, your post might be read (nah, WILL be read by some) as the equivalent of "Tell me a dirty story so that I can get my rocks off."

< Message edited by LanceHughes -- 8/5/2011 6:23:08 PM >

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/5/2011 5:50:15 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		not sure what you mean by first experience? With physical bdsm? With d/s? With going out on a date?




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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/5/2011 6:08:28 PM   
airesee


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Status: offline 		So sorry!! No "wank Material" wanted at all!!! I'm horrible at expressing myself thru writing. Was looking more for different emotions/feelings/expectations other subs/slaves may have felt prior to/during their 1st experience I dont need the hard core details. I guess I am hoping for that "perfect session" but truly dont know what exactly that would be. No this is not His 1st.

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/5/2011 6:10:42 PM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		You might browse through the "Positive Experiences" section......and post one after you have yours!

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/5/2011 6:25:04 PM   
LanceHughes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: windchymes
You might browse through the "Positive Experiences" section......and post one after you have yours!


QFT = "Quoted for Truth."

I almost suggested that, but got off on the YMWV idea.

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/5/2011 6:43:31 PM   
airesee


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Status: offline 		Thanks I'm going to check it out now!! And I will definitly share my experience!

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/5/2011 7:11:17 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I guess I can't help you out then. I've never done "sessions". I just always had relationships and just let happen whatever happened. There was nothing that was planned. 

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/7/2011 10:39:11 AM   
g2011


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Status: offline 		My first physical experience was of me as a submissive male to a long time GF .I had quite a mental struggle with myself as I had lots of thoughts of what are you doing?You are letting Her do what and then I assumed something must be wrong with me as a man!Followed by peaceful bliss.
I turned in my alpha male card the next day!

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/7/2011 11:03:43 AM   
Buzzzz


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Status: offline 		my best guess would be, public. public meeting and public play.

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/7/2011 11:10:14 AM   
UniqueRaven


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Status: offline 		Honestly, I can't really even remember my first experience - I've kinda been doing this "slave thing" my whole life...

My only advice is simply to not create any expectations in your mind of what's going to happen, as that can set up disappointment. Just be open and ready for whatever he wants.

I do not allow someone to tie me up until I absolutely KNOW that I can trust him with my safety. Same goes for caging. And I always have an "escape plan" if things go wrong. Basically I don't get myself into any situations I can't get out of until I know that I'm safe with him.

It sounds like you've known him for a while, and that things are good. So just relax and have fun! There's no one "perfect" experience out there, if you enjoy each other that's the best possible outcome.

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/8/2011 3:16:09 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I'm not actually big on long, involved, planned out scripted sessions. Your expectations get so high and then if something goes wrong, you're both very upset.

So what happens if you have to safeword half an hour in? How will you respond? How will he? If he gets angry because you need to stop, how will that change your feelings about him?

Personally I prefer lower pressure scenarios. We do what seems good, we communicate if there's a problem, and if it doesn't work that time - no big deal. We can always try it again tomorrow. Or say to hell with it and try something different instead.


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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/24/2011 12:20:46 PM   
bbwslave4you


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Status: offline 		airesee, did you had that 1st meeting yet?

Few days ago i had my 1st with new Master meeting
As yourself, i was huge ball of emotions not knowing what to expect....i was scared, curious, anxious, excited....you name it.
Before meeting him i was in year long relationship with Dom/switch couple so we had our routine and everything was sort of familiar. They moved away so we had to end.
Anyhow, that 1st meeting with new Master went great. Will not go in details but when i felt his hands on me for 1st time all fears went away. Somehow all just felt right.
So hope you will have amazing 1st meeting as i did....and many more after that.

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/24/2011 9:42:41 PM   
HannahLynHeather


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Status: offline 		it hurt, it felt good, i loved it, i was hooked. what the fuck more do you need to know?

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/25/2011 10:18:36 AM   
hangemhigh1953


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Status: offline 		My first time I was really nervous - nervous that I wouldn't know what to do or that I'd be a disappointment by having to use a safeword or something. One thing to keep in mind is that if He's acting really strict or demanding it is more than likely an act and that in reality (though you wouldn't notice it) He's being rather lenient and forgiving with you.

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/25/2011 10:46:07 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		My first ever time was with a guy who is now, a decade on, still a good friend. I was absolutely terrified...but also totally excited.

It felt very natural when it did happen, and when it was over I had no idea that we'd spent 4 hours together - it felt like 20 minutes

First time with Master - still very nervous. With a bit(!) more experience, plus a month or two of plain old dating him under my belt, it was different from my first ever time. But just as wonderful. I did have to safeword simply because we both got carried away (oops!), but we had a 5 minute cuddle break and then it started alllll over again.

And over time, it's become better and better.

*sighs*...happy memories

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/25/2011 1:23:30 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		i was much like you when i first went to play with my Mistress in the dungon it took a few min to relax and get into the scene but it was so much fun once i relaxed and just enjoued the experince. some relaxation may help as well as breating from the diaphram or belly breating that helps calm the body

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/25/2011 4:23:12 PM   
stoni23


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Status: offline 		my first time:
I met a woman in california (cost me 500 buckaroos to get out there), she tied me up (which i absolutely loved), and then she beat the shit out of my ass so bad that I was crying like a bitch.

In short, my first experience SUCKED because I wasn't clear in what I could handle, and she wasn't experienced enough to realize that someone brand new probably can't take an intense beating.

HOWEVER, I have had many, many great experiences since then : ), and am hooked and love it.

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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/25/2011 4:57:45 PM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: stoni23
and then she beat the shit out of my ass so bad that I was crying like a bitch.


Ha! That to me is a perfect date.



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RE: sub/slave first physical experience - 8/26/2011 1:52:27 AM   
myotherself


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968


quote:

ORIGINAL: stoni23
and then she beat the shit out of my ass so bad that I was crying like a bitch.


Ha! That to me is a perfect date.





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