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RE: Mental vs physical - 8/8/2011 11:56:18 AM

LadyPact

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In My opinion, if you have a safeword at all, it should cover all areas of play. If anything, the mental and/or emotional aspects have more potential for damage than the physical.

No offense, but that bit about not needing one after playing 10-15 times seemed rather silly to Me. If you're going to do the same, exact type of play, with the same intensity, no changes at all, ever....... Maybe. Personally, I like variation far too much to think that I'm ever going to do it all in such a limited number of scenes.

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RE: Mental vs physical - 8/8/2011 12:01:52 PM

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No offense, but that bit about not needing one after playing 10-15 times seemed rather silly to Me. If you're going to do the same, exact type of play, with the same intensity, no changes at all, ever....... Maybe. Personally, I like variation far too much to think that I'm ever going to do it all in such a limited number of scenes.

That's not how I see it. It's more like, after fifteen scenes I'd expect you to have a pretty good feel for your partner and for their body language/facial expressions when something is up.

So it's not that you know 'oh, scene x will be fine', it's that you know what 'not fine' looks like.

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RE: Mental vs physical - 8/8/2011 12:08:16 PM

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So you've had the day from hell at work, a parent/close friend is seriously ill & you walk in to get an instant verbal assault & you aren't capable of dealing with it on any level.
A true Dom/Top would appreciate that you need safewords for all play. IMO.#

Good point. There is always a remote possibility somewhere that the Dom is not omnipotent and doesn't know every single extenuating circumstance at each and every moment of the day. This of course is more probable in casual or long distance relationships.

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RE: Mental vs physical - 8/8/2011 2:14:24 PM

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I like Yellow to back off and Red to stop during impact play, during which I can become pretty non-verbal. Otherwise, I'd just tell him where my head's at.

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When it came up about wanting to safeword on a particular mental/humiliation play; he is of the mind set that no there is no safe word with humiliation.

If this means what I think it means - you don't have the right to negotiate around humiliation - then pfft, see ya later bye.

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RE: Mental vs physical - 8/8/2011 11:34:08 PM

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Thank you all for your responses. I have read all the post and do have some questions for my Dom that yaw brought to my attention. I enjoy both physical and mental pain, so humiliation is a big part of are dynamic . I enjoy seeing the wide variety of opinions and will take the suggestions that will best meet my views and needs.

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