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GreedyTop -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 12:47:11 PM)

LaT.. have I mentioned lately that I love you?

*grins*



BitaTruble -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 12:47:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: JWriter
A "Domme" is a woman who sexually dominates you for money. That is the actual definition.




It's not in the OED, so which dictionary has that exact definition?



GreedyTop -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 12:50:19 PM)

she's a 'writer', so I would guess its in her personal dictionary...



SuzeCheri -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 12:56:53 PM)

Which dictionary? Why the one she wrote of course, the Jictionary.

Jictionary?

Yes, Jictionary. JWriter, Jictionary...

Cheri babe, leave the punch lines to me.

Eat me!

Don't mind if I do. And it's not even my birthday!

(Drops pants and lays down...And you people all thought I was the dumb one.) [;)]



LadyConstanze -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 12:59:27 PM)


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

she's a 'writer', so I would guess its in her personal dictionary...


Writer is the latest incarnation, we've seen a few different ones and we will (regretfully) see even more, unfortunately a bit demented in all the incarnations...



VaguelyCurious -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 1:01:25 PM)


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ORIGINAL: JWriter

Uhm .. that's actually bullshite. A "Domme" is a woman who sexually dominates you for money. That is the actual definition. And, that makes her a whore with a whip, paddle, flogger, or, whatever. Whores do what you pay them to do. And, if you come to trust them and want it that way, then, whores may get paid to do what they want to do, as long as you are enjoying it.

Clearly someone can't conceive of a pro-domme who is successful enough to turn down some business.

Your lack of understanding doesn't actually make anything else 'bullshite', it just makes you look...well. Not all that bright.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 1:06:08 PM)

I think the problem might be that she doesn't understand that some people have standards, declaring yourself dominant and expecting others to pony up for the bills without getting anything but the pleasure of housework out of it is of course much more superior, oddly enough that one didn't seem to work too well for her...



Damacis -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 1:12:08 PM)


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Personally, I wuold reverse
quote:

A) Last I checked the subs desires come second, and B) as you mentioned, few people want to be used as essentially a masturbation tool.
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the sub/bottom is just as much a human with desires and needs as I am as a top. I, personally, do not see the bottoms needs as secondary to mine, but as (hopefully) in harmony with mine.

I have FAR more issues with those that see me (as a top) as a "life support system" for floggers/canes/whips/etc

I don't see how putting your wants/desires second to your partner makes you any less human. It's a choice. Obviously (both subs/doms) have a different philosophy on this matter though so that's fine.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 1:30:25 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Damacis


quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Personally, I wuold reverse
quote:

A) Last I checked the subs desires come second, and B) as you mentioned, few people want to be used as essentially a masturbation tool.
.

the sub/bottom is just as much a human with desires and needs as I am as a top. I, personally, do not see the bottoms needs as secondary to mine, but as (hopefully) in harmony with mine.

I have FAR more issues with those that see me (as a top) as a "life support system" for floggers/canes/whips/etc

I don't see how putting your wants/desires second to your partner makes you any less human. It's a choice. Obviously (both subs/doms) have a different philosophy on this matter though so that's fine.


Not all subs/doms have a different philosophy on the matter, do you really think a relationship would work if the sub would not get what s/he wants out of it? If for you part of the turn on is putting your own desires 2nd, that's a valid thing *for you* but for a masochist not getting pain might be a deal breaker.



Damacis -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 1:49:16 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze
Not all subs/doms have a different philosophy on the matter, do you really think a relationship would work if the sub would not get what s/he wants out of it? If for you part of the turn on is putting your own desires 2nd, that's a valid thing *for you* but for a masochist not getting pain might be a deal breaker.

Could very well be, but my point was if the masochist is a submissive as well, and is meeting a brand new domme for the first time, a la the thread starter, he might want to think about pleasing the domme first, receiving pain second.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 1:52:40 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Damacis


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze
Not all subs/doms have a different philosophy on the matter, do you really think a relationship would work if the sub would not get what s/he wants out of it? If for you part of the turn on is putting your own desires 2nd, that's a valid thing *for you* but for a masochist not getting pain might be a deal breaker.

Could very well be, but my point was if the masochist is a submissive as well, and is meeting a brand new domme for the first time, a la the thread starter, he might want to think about pleasing the domme first, receiving pain second.


Which is a completely different thing than putting your own desires 2nd, which would indicate that when requested the person would forgo them as "less important" - in a relationship things have to mesh, a BDSM relationship is the same as any other relationship, if both are not happy with it, chances are it's not going to last.



Damacis -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 2:22:33 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze
Which is a completely different thing than putting your own desires 2nd, which would indicate that when requested the person would forgo them as "less important" - in a relationship things have to mesh, a BDSM relationship is the same as any other relationship, if both are not happy with it, chances are it's not going to last.

I don't see how I've indicated otherwise -- I never suggested anyone shouldn't be happy or fulfilled within the confines of a bdsm relationship or any other relationship for that matter. The context of my message was referring specifically to the thread starter -- that of meeting a dominant for the first time and not expecting just to get your rocks off but understanding that you are on the dominants terms -- not yours. I even mentioned that if the relationship progresses then of course the sub is going to want to mix in the things that he or she personally enjoys -- but he shouldn't be expecting the dominant to just go right out and fulfill them out of the gate unless he's seeing a professional.



LadyPact -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 2:34:34 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: JWriter

Uhm .. that's actually bullshite. A "Domme" is a woman who sexually dominates you for money. That is the actual definition. And, that makes her a whore with a whip, paddle, flogger, or, whatever. Whores do what you pay them to do. And, if you come to trust them and want it that way, then, whores may get paid to do what they want to do, as long as you are enjoying it.

I have to give credit where it's due.  Every time I think you have come up with the most ridiculous trash that you've come up with, I am amazed that you can conjure up something just a little more moronic.  It's going to be a challenge to come up with something dumber than this one, but I'll bet that if you apply yourself really hard, you might be able to surpass it. 



0ldhen -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 7:40:04 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Awareness

  Dude.  Don't be a fucking sap.  She's a pro-Domme attempting to manipulate you for financial gain.

Dominant my fucking ass.  You're either dominant or you're not.  There is no "sub option" unless you've been living a lie all this time.



Hmmm...nope!

He is dominant and is thinking about being a bottom. There are dominants who bottom, just another kink of many.



0ldhen -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 7:58:13 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: JWriter

Uhm .. that's actually bullshite. A "Domme" is a woman who sexually dominates you for money. That is the actual definition. And, that makes her a whore with a whip, paddle, flogger, or, whatever. Whores do what you pay them to do. And, if you come to trust them and want it that way, then, whores may get paid to do what they want to do, as long as you are enjoying it.


I found two definitions for Domme...funny....nether of them meant whore.

Domme;

A female dominant in a BDSM relationship.

Pronunciation varies; usually it is pronounced 'Dom', but sometimes may be pronounced 'Dom-may' to stress the difference between the female and male Dom(inant).

'Domme' usually refers to a non-professional female dominant.

A professional female dominant is usually referred to as a 'Dominatrix', or a 'Pro-Domme', but may simply be called 'Domme' by her close associates or clients.

Or....

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domme

Hmmm...ok...Where did you find your definitions?

Both of them actually please......





subbingforyou -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 10:31:53 PM)

It's a big wide world out there. You might find a play partner who will do the scene just the way you want it. However, it will probably take a lot of work and hours to find such a person.

Most dommes I think would be turned off with your pitch -- do it my way first and then later I will do it your way.



DarkSteven -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 10:46:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: JWriter

Uhm .. that's actually bullshite. A "Domme" is a woman who sexually dominates you for money. That is the actual definition. 


No, it's not. That's a Pro Domme.  A Domme is a woman that dominates.  It is not for money if she's a lifestyle Domme,.  If she in fact IS a pro, then she'd be dumb as a brick to include sex because she'd be breaking the law. 
quote:



And, that makes her a whore with a whip, paddle, flogger, or, whatever. Whores do what you pay them to do.


So do lawyers, dentists, doctors, waiters, etc.  Anyone with a job.  That's one of the fundamentals of capitalism. 
quote:



And, if you come to trust them and want it that way, then, whores may get paid to do what they want to do, as long as you are enjoying it.



I'm sorry, but I cannot decipher this sentence.





Awareness -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 11:41:40 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: 0ldhen
He is dominant and is thinking about being a bottom. There are dominants who bottom, just another kink of many.
  Yeah, I tend to regard that as something of a myth.



Arpig -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/8/2011 11:58:43 PM)

quote:

I'm sorry, but I cannot decipher this sentence.
Let's see what I can do with it.

quote:

And, if you come to trust them and want it that way, then, whores may get paid to do what they want to do, as long as you are enjoying it.
I think she means, that if you really trust a whore/Domme then you might pay her to dominate you in the way she wants, rather than simply fulfill your kinks, if that's what you want and you enjoy the way the whore/Domme is dominating you.

What do you think guys, did I get it?




ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Finding The Perfect Domme (8/9/2011 4:05:55 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Awareness

Dude.  Don't be a fucking sap.  She's a pro-Domme attempting to manipulate you for financial gain.

Dominant my fucking ass.  You're either dominant or you're not.  There is no "sub option" unless you've been living a lie all this time.



Now how did I just know you are of the "I don't believe in switches" ilk?

Tell me then, you had some time to observe me on these fora, what am *I*? Dom or sub?

And why do I have a sneaky suspicion you don't believe dom females exist either, they are merely "playing a role."


As for the OP's premise, there are pro dommes willing to act out a script for the right amount of cash. Not all of them will do this, even if you are paying the freight, it depends on what your script entails.

I don't know a non pro who would even consider it.

I do know at least one fem domme (me) who has asked her male sub to write down his fav fantasy in detail. Not b/c I'm going to script it out for him, but b/c all intimate knowledge is helpful to our relationship.



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