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AAkasha -> Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 7:44:38 AM)



As a dominant woman, do you feel that flirtacious sexual advances from your partner (someone you are already intimate with) that are physical in nature are crude and inappropriate - or do you find them flattering, or simply part of a man showing affection?

For example, "groping," or things like squeezing your ass cheeks without provocation - done with the intent of affection, or to show sexual interest, or to just get a reaction out of you -- how do you feel about these kinds of advances?

And what about lesser things - like a hand on the knee, or initiating a soft kiss? Appropriate or not?

Akasha



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 7:58:35 AM)

I sincerely hope that the person I am intimate with knows that they can display affection or initiate sex whenever appropriate! (inappropriate---dont try to fuck me when I am on my way out the door for work...)



LadyConstanze -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 7:59:07 AM)

I'm fine with it, I wouldn't be fine if he'd fondle me in public, but coming up and giving me a hug and cupping my butt - yeah, nice. If it would feel like groping, I wouldn't be with the person.



LaTigresse -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 8:20:37 AM)

I actually dislike it. I have never liked having anyone, relationship partner or not, coming up and grabbing my breasts or ass.

A hug, a kiss on the neck from behind, a loving caress..........all good. But to have someone just go for a sexual grope, that is a total turn off.



Daddysredhead -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 8:29:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I sincerely hope that the person I am intimate with knows that they can display affection or initiate sex whenever appropriate! (inappropriate---dont try to fuck me when I am on my way out the door for work...)


This.

And I am fine with intimate or flirty gestures by my partner because I'm very touchy-feely and I'm also very amourous. Having someone else be that way with me would just feel sympatico.



bighappygoth39 -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 8:31:29 AM)

I love it when my partner shows me affection in the way of a caress, kiss or touch in public, but as for full on groping, I'd be a bit taken aback with, as he's really not that sort of man.  I do love it when he grabs my bum in private, though. [;)]



LadyPact -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 9:26:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I actually dislike it. I have never liked having anyone, relationship partner or not, coming up and grabbing my breasts or ass.

A hug, a kiss on the neck from behind, a loving caress..........all good. But to have someone just go for a sexual grope, that is a total turn off.

This. 

I don't even pin this particularly on being a Dominant woman.  I think it's just personal preference in My case.  There is no D/s in My marriage, but My husband grabbing Me in public wouldn't go over well.  I wouldn't see it as a sexual advance to grope Me in front of others. 

Signs of affection.  Different story.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 9:27:37 AM)

I guess I wasnt clear, or not reading clearly---grabbing me in PUBLIC? Think not.



Daddysredhead -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 9:37:21 AM)

I did not read anything in the OP that stated it was an activity done in public. In private, I'm fine with it, and I don't think I would be with someone who thought a full-on gropefest was ok outside of the confines of our home, etc. That would just be tacky.



littlewonder -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 9:51:55 AM)

inside our homes....I'm great with it. We are touchy-feely with one another so it's perfectly normal for both of us. In public, depends on the context, who we're around, where, etc...neither of us are big on pda but if we were at a bdsm club or around really really good friends then I have no problems with it. If we're at the store or walking around town maybe not so great but again it depends on who's around. We've been known to sneak into little corner nooks and such or when there's no one around to catch a grope or two.




LadyHibiscus -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 10:11:49 AM)

Did you know that people can see INTO your car windows? Just sharing. [8D]



LaTigresse -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 11:03:59 AM)

For me there is a HUGE difference between showing affection and groping. I adore affection and abhor being groped. I don't care if there is no one else around and I am standing at my own kitchen sink. If anyone comes up and thinks it is hot to reach around and grope me, they are in for a surprise. I also hate having them grind against me. It reminds me of a nasty little dog I once kicked across a yard........much to his owners dismay.



wittynamehere -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 11:08:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
little dog I once kicked across a yard......

Prepare to be kicked around a yard somewhere. I'm sure you'll enjoy it as much as the dog did.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 11:19:30 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: wittynamehere

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
little dog I once kicked across a yard......

Prepare to be kicked around a yard somewhere. I'm sure you'll enjoy it as much as the dog did.



Oh right, I kicked a nasty dog into the canal and hit the owner repeatedly with my handbag, I didn't enjoy it very much (well hitting the owner I did), the little dog (a Jack Russell) attacked my dogs, went underneath them and ripped the belly open of the boy - he almost died, should I feel guilty? I will try if you send me the £1500 for the vet bill (emergency surgeries aren't cheap) and I forget about the bites I got, won't even mention them...

LaT loves dogs as much as I do, if she kicked the dog, I'm sure she didn't do it out of malice or because she enjoys hurting animals, I'm willing to bet there was a good reason.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 11:19:49 AM)

Oh yeah that grindy stuff EW. But again, I am figuring that those I am intimate with will KNOW what I do not like.



Lockit -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 11:34:28 AM)

Groping... no. I am not a sexual object and will not be treated as such. Touching me... my neck... gently kissing me there and moving elsewhere, yes. If he comes at me in any other manner.. he won't be coming at me in any manner. There was a husband long ago that thought it okay to treat me disrespectfully when I wouldn't do what he wanted. That didn't work out so well for him. He was the first in a personal relationship and the last, that ever touched me like that.

I love a man that shows his desire... as long as the desire is based in respect, love and then desire. A man that is disrespectful may just get hit with a club... drug into a cave and buried in a sense. He's done, he's buried... he may walk the streets, but he will always remember what I did to him.

At one job, I was the first wait staff to smack a customer when he reached out and touched me.. and not by phone. Caused quite the ruckus, but I stood my ground and the other wait staff saw me get away with it and had the courage to protect themselves as well.

Proper place, proper time and in the right manner... all good. Any other way and someone is getting hurt. No one has the right to touch me in any manner I do not want. It really is that simple.



LaTigresse -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 11:38:42 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze


quote:

ORIGINAL: wittynamehere

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
little dog I once kicked across a yard......

Prepare to be kicked around a yard somewhere. I'm sure you'll enjoy it as much as the dog did.



Oh right, I kicked a nasty dog into the canal and hit the owner repeatedly with my handbag, I didn't enjoy it very much (well hitting the owner I did), the little dog (a Jack Russell) attacked my dogs, went underneath them and ripped the belly open of the boy - he almost died, should I feel guilty? I will try if you send me the £1500 for the vet bill (emergency surgeries aren't cheap) and I forget about the bites I got, won't even mention them...

LaT loves dogs as much as I do, if she kicked the dog, I'm sure she didn't do it out of malice or because she enjoys hurting animals, I'm willing to bet there was a good reason.


Absolutely. The dog was as crazy and uncontrolled as it's owner. I still have the scars on my knee from it.



GloriousMorning -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/10/2011 12:50:36 PM)

I don`t mind sexual advances, but as a (dominant) woman, I don`t enjoy being groped and grabbed as a sexual advance, this approach would likely fail with me.

Once while saying goodbye and kissing my lover, he grabbed at my breast and I was shocked. To me it felt as though he was being crude, like he was grabbing a feel for the spank-bank later. ick.  Even though looking back I dont think it was his intent, it made me feel objectified and cheap. Again, an approach that is likely to fail with me.



MissImmortalPain -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/12/2011 2:12:57 PM)

I am not a great fan of pda. In private I do find it ever so cute when he trys to be flirty and affectionate. It might just be how silly he looks when he does it though.



LadyAngelika -> RE: Groping, ass grabbing (8/12/2011 6:31:03 PM)

I don't like public displays of affection beyond holding hands walking or a quick peck to say hello or goodbye.

In private, I'm absolutely open to affectionate touches. Not crude ones, affectionate ones. That said, it's always a plus if he's intuitive and knows when I'm receptive and when I'm not in the mood.



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