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RE: Hide function - 8/10/2011 9:56:54 PM

Termyn8or

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"I love the hide function. Much easier to skim on past the few people whose posts I want to ignore."

Yup. You are priveledged to be able to author articles and whatever in the world's largest online BDSM forum and you let assholes that you don't agree with stomp all over something to say shit even if you are right because it is easier for you. That's the fucking truth. Let the rest of us do it. Let's not let any responsibility for the true education and emancipation of our kind, or the world in general enter you mind. It is someone else's problem. They refute what you said, you ignore, they show up again maybe not drunk that time and throw a total screwdriver down your left tit. And you ain't there to stop it. Makes sense, ignore the perimeter when you are doing defense. Don't even look at the perimeter when you are responsible for defense. Try that fucking shit in the military. (in other countries)

And you ARE responsible for the defense because you are priveledged to post. If you don't see it that way, take a fucking walk. If you don't agree, you might as well block me now.

Sorry to hit you that hard but you had it coming.

"I don't hide anyone...but I do like to provoke a response from someone I don’t respect…then ignore their posts…I know it pisses them off and that is the point. "

The point is to ignore them AFTER you have read them.

If you want to. There are some posts that really need to be rebutted. Hey, how about this, YOU DECIDE ! better you just throw that job on someonw else.

I supose if your neighbors gave you the cold shoulder because you got outed, you would find someone on which to lay blame. I'll bet you two planets at least. Would you the stand up for your rights ? Or our's ?

Ignore me, ignore everyone, go right ahead and see where it gets you on your fucking island.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 1:58:39 AM

Kaliko

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ORIGINAL: Termyn8or

UFR

"I love the hide function. Much easier to skim on past the few people whose posts I want to ignore."

Yup. You are priveledged to be able to author articles and whatever in the world's largest online BDSM forum and you let assholes that you don't agree with stomp all over something to say shit even if you are right because it is easier for you. That's the fucking truth. Let the rest of us do it. Let's not let any responsibility for the true education and emancipation of our kind, or the world in general enter you mind. It is someone else's problem. They refute what you said, you ignore, they show up again maybe not drunk that time and throw a total screwdriver down your left tit. And you ain't there to stop it. Makes sense, ignore the perimeter when you are doing defense. Don't even look at the perimeter when you are responsible for defense. Try that fucking shit in the military. (in other countries)

And you ARE responsible for the defense because you are priveledged to post. If you don't see it that way, take a fucking walk. If you don't agree, you might as well block me now.

Sorry to hit you that hard but you had it coming.

Not everyone has to argue with someone whose posts they don't agree with. And not everyone lives their lives as if they are defending an outpost against the enemy. It's a discussion board. Relax.

I see plenty of things on these boards that I think need...um...correction. If I responded to every person who I disagreed with, not only here but in all areas of my life, I wouldn't have time to do anything else. (And I do assume that your argument extends past internet discussion forums.) I pick my battles. I have my causes. There are a few threads here and there on CM forums that I've taken a stand on, and there are a few causes outside of CM that I've taken a stand on. How can one possibly respond to everybody who has a different opinion than us throughout our lives? Impossible.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 2:14:40 AM

Kaliko

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

Over the years, I've noticed a few things about the way people use the Hide function, and thought I'd put down my ideas on it, and see what others think.

1. Hide in general.
Personally, I have nobody on Hide (or if I do I've forgotten about it and they are no longer posting). I find the whole idea of Hiding somebody's posts distasteful, I do not avoid ideas and opinions I disagree with. It seems cowardly to me.

In real life, if I come across a person whose language, tone, etc. is distasteful to me, I don't engage with that person. I have only a limited amount of time in this world. I choose how I spend that time, and with whom. If someone wants to have a real conversation with me, great. I love a debate and will be happy to be proven wrong. But if someone wants to force-feed me their opinion through verbal brutality and bullying, I'm not interested. Just as in real life I have the option of walking away from a person like that so I don't fill my world with their brand of hatred, same here.

That being said, I don't currently have anyone on hide. But I appreciate the option to do so.

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2. Announcing it.
This is silliness in the extreme. "I'm putting you on hide!", or "I have so-and-so on hide". As if it is some sort of punishment. Why do some people feel the need to announce to everybody that they are Hiding someone? Myself, I think it's an attempt to shame the person, to let everybody know that you find them so distasteful that you can't bear to see their posts. To me, it makes the announcer look childish and petty.

Eh. I can think of many more things said on the forums that make people look way more childish and petty. I think, if I were on hide, I might want to know. I usually try to keep my posts more on the neutral side, and I try to be open to admitting when I'm wrong or don't know something. If someone were to hide me, I would be genuinely interested in knowing why. Perhaps I'm acting that same way outside of CM, too, and perhaps it would benefit me to know how I may come across. Granted, internet forums allow one to be a bit more brave, but anonymous courage aside, this is still my personality, and though it may not be everyone's cup of tea, if I were actually offensive enough that someone were to hide me? Yeah, I would be interested to know that.

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3. Unhide/Rehide
This is related to #2. I have noticed some people saying "I have you on hide, but decided to unhide you to see what you said" Then they respond (usually quite negatively), and then announce that they are re-hiding the person. The intent is obviously to let everybody know you think the person isn't worth reading, yet for some reason you feel the need to read and reply. Then you follow it up by announcing that whatever reply they may make will be ignored. It is akin to sending a nasty cmail to somebody and then blocking them so they cannot reply, but doing so publicly in order to put down the hidden poster. This is simply cowardly.

Well, that seems like a lot of work. I hid someone once. I then found that I could still see that person's post in replies, so there really was no ignoring that person. That person is a frequent enough poster that I would sometimes miss half the thread if I kept that person hidden. I don't respond individually to that poster (I don't think I have, anyway), but I kind of have to read the posts to stay in the loop sometimes of where the thread is going. That was why I decided to unhide after hiding someone. It happens.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 2:33:08 AM

Termyn8or

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"If I responded to every person who I disagreed with, not only here but in all areas of my life, I wouldn't have time to do anything else. "

Zzactly.

But when you don't ignore you can pick and choose those things with which you strongly disagree. Those things that in your mind are REALLY off, and not insane and therefore possible to decrease your share, you get less people to agree with you and more to disagree. You respond to that, and defeat the enemy. Gain it back.

Don't fucking deny it. You will be shot down from every window in the place.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 3:06:32 AM

Kaliko

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ORIGINAL: Termyn8or

"If I responded to every person who I disagreed with, not only here but in all areas of my life, I wouldn't have time to do anything else. "

Zzactly.

But when you don't ignore you can pick and choose those things with which you strongly disagree. Those things that in your mind are REALLY off, and not insane and therefore possible to decrease your share, you get less people to agree with you and more to disagree. You respond to that, and defeat the enemy. Gain it back.

Don't fucking deny it. You will be shot down from every window in the place.

T^T

But they're not the enemy. Again, I'm not in combat, here. I'm....having a conversation.

In the post reply to Arpig, I said that if I don't engage in conversation with someone, it's not because of their opinion, but because of their manners or good sport. (Lack of, I mean.) If I am so far gone with someone that I want to hide them (or walk away from them, if in person), I don't really care what they have to say. They could be quoting Gandhi to me and somehow they would make it offensive.

I don't always feel the need to correct someone or prove my point. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. But there are people (okay, one person) on these boards whose opinion I don't really care about one bit. That person could be talking about my very favorite topic in the world, and I will not engage directly. I may talk with others on the thread (hence the need to unblock, so I can see why others respond a certain way), but I won't argue with that person.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 3:16:47 AM

Arswine

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I have all of you bastards on hide except for Arpig. It's kind of hard to hide somebody when they have their hand crammed so far up your ass you can feel it in your mouth!

Oh and Greedy, I don't hide my Greedy-babe. She's my girl, so I don't want to miss anything she says.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 3:47:51 AM

Termyn8or

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"I have all of you bastards on hide except for Arpig."

Then you ain't worth a shit here. Nothing wrong with Arpig understand, YOU ain't worth a shit.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 7:05:33 AM

NuevaVida

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

I see plenty of things on these boards that I think need...um...correction. If I responded to every person who I disagreed with, not only here but in all areas of my life, I wouldn't have time to do anything else. (And I do assume that your argument extends past internet discussion forums.) I pick my battles. I have my causes. There are a few threads here and there on CM forums that I've taken a stand on, and there are a few causes outside of CM that I've taken a stand on. How can one possibly respond to everybody who has a different opinion than us throughout our lives? Impossible.

Exactly. Sometimes I just have to tell myself that this person simply lives a different life than I do, and leave it at that. I accept that not everything thinks and feels as I do (thankfully) and not everyone conducts themselves in the way I would. And then I move on.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 11:21:40 AM

DavidLee44UK

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ORIGINAL: flcouple2009

That about sums it all up.

Nothing but drama and BS

now wheres that kettle and yup has to be black lol

i hide people cause tired the games, and i unhide them when they rspond to a thread i read

so bloody what

mores to the question

a why are people hiding them
b what the f ** does it matter
c dont people have anything better to do than critise people about creating drama by doing the very same

on my forums people can do whatever they like its a PUBLIC forum

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 11:56:30 AM

Marc2b

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For a long time I never put anyone on hide as a matter of principle. “Understanding is not possible without communication,” I would tell myself. I was quite proud of this open-mindedness on my part.

Then one day there came an exchange when I realized that mere self flattery was too high a price to pay for putting up with some assholes.

I’m still pretty restrictive in who I put on hide. Not counting obvious scammers (a whole ‘nother category), I’ve only six people on hide right now (two of who haven’t been active on the boards for a while anyway). One for being a Holocaust denier (useless nazi fuck), one for overweening arrogance that I just couldn’t stomach anymore, and the rest for character attacks that they refused to back down from even after I called them on it (I can take a rib poking as well as the next guy but character attacks are another matter entirely).

As for informing people, I agree that some people make a big drama about it (which is really just a way of letting people know that they are offended) but some notice I think is justified. I’ve usually done it with a simple statement like: “that’s enough out of you… goodbye.” I leave it up to them to figure it out.

I do not peek, since that goes against the whole idea of hiding. You do sometimes catch glimpses of a hidden poster’s writings when they are quoted by other people. Not much you can do about that.

The timing of this thread is interesting because I have been actually considering taking the people I’ve put on hide off of hide… a sort a blanket amnesty, a second chance for all those who have offended me. Isn’t that generous on my part? My own nobility surprises me sometimes (oh shit, there I go with the self flattery again). The only exceptions would be the scammers and the Holocaust denier (useless nazi fuck). I dunno… I’m still thinking about it.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 12:28:23 PM

Arpig

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on my forums people can do whatever they like its a PUBLIC forum

Which forums are those again? I seem to have misplaced the link.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 12:51:57 PM

LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

Over the years, I've noticed a few things about the way people use the Hide function, and thought I'd put down my ideas on it, and see what others think.

1. Hide in general.
Personally, I have nobody on Hide (or if I do I've forgotten about it and they are no longer posting). I find the whole idea of Hiding somebody's posts distasteful, I do not avoid ideas and opinions I disagree with. It seems cowardly to me.

There isn't anybody who can get to Me so much on the forums that I feel the need to hide their posts. On a very rare occasion, I'll block a forum poster on the other side because I have absolutely no interest in speaking to them personally.

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2. Announcing it.
This is silliness in the extreme. "I'm putting you on hide!", or "I have so-and-so on hide". As if it is some sort of punishment. Why do some people feel the need to announce to everybody that they are Hiding someone? Myself, I think it's an attempt to shame the person, to let everybody know that you find them so distasteful that you can't bear to see their posts. To me, it makes the announcer look childish and petty.

I knew I'd need it again! My thanks to poise for sending this link to Me a couple of weeks back when I mentioned it on another thread. The announcing it part always reminds Me of this.
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1172711/mpage_2/key_block/tm.htm#1172926

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3. Unhide/Rehide
This is related to #2. I have noticed some people saying "I have you on hide, but decided to unhide you to see what you said" Then they respond (usually quite negatively), and then announce that they are re-hiding the person. The intent is obviously to let everybody know you think the person isn't worth reading, yet for some reason you feel the need to read and reply. Then you follow it up by announcing that whatever reply they may make will be ignored. It is akin to sending a nasty cmail to somebody and then blocking them so they cannot reply, but doing so publicly in order to put down the hidden poster. This is simply cowardly.

Thoughts?

This one, I don't get at all. If you feel the need to hide someone, forget about them entirely. If what they have to say is enough to peak your curiosity, what's the point?

Don't get Me wrong. There absolutely are a few posters here that I skip past their comments darn near entirely. I answered a question from one last week that I scroll past what she has to say on a regular basis for at least the last year.

Out and out troll-goblins? I actually enjoy playing with those.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 1:03:08 PM

Arpig

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Out and out troll-goblins? I actually enjoy playing with those.

Me too, they are just too much fun to poke.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 1:28:07 PM

DavidLee44UK

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ORIGINAL: gungadin09

i'm wondering how a thread about hiding people can possibly end well.

pam

lol pam

its not about the post its to have there fun

instead doing something productive on a long summers day

these bored drama queens post this bait

on a blog its called link bait

so basically there not interested in the answers

its to show us peons how smart and clever they are

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 1:50:41 PM

Arpig

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Actually, Dave I was interested in the answers, particularly yours, since it was your drama-filled reply on another thread that sparked it. You know the one, it went like this

quote:

i have u hided

blah-blah
put down put down
snark snide snark

re-hide

Unfortunately, but not unexpectedly, rather than actually giving answers, you got all frothily defensive and boastful about these mythic PUBLIC forums of yours that nobody has ever seen.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 1:53:57 PM

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you expected different from him? Why do you think I have him hidden

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 2:03:31 PM

mnottertail

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What did she say? I have her hidden, and I hope you can see my post, because I have myself hidden as well.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 2:04:04 PM

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I may have up to a half dozen people on hide. Because of avatars, because they are obvious trolls who enjoy posting things in order to get others upset. I've noted that the smarter trolls here wait until after the first few words to say their objectionable statements to prevent anyone who hovers over the title from deciding immediately not to read it.

And there are people who I just plain dislike. Just like I wouldn't go to a party where there would be someone I dislike, I don't want to see them here.

I've never announced I'm hiding them, but a couple who do frequently cause much consternation I have expressed surprise that there are any posters who don't have them on hide.

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 2:15:30 PM

LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

Actually, Dave I was interested in the answers, particularly yours, since it was your drama-filled reply on another thread that sparked it. You know the one, it went like this

quote:

i have u hided

blah-blah
put down put down
snark snide snark

re-hide

Unfortunately, but not unexpectedly, rather than actually giving answers, you got all frothily defensive and boastful about these mythic PUBLIC forums of yours that nobody has ever seen.

Bob, Bob, Bob........

If you go about starting threads based upon the delusions that some habitual liars would like to pass as truth, you are just attempting to add validity to their imaginary world. Next thing you know, said persons will blame you for their next attempted suicide. They can't handle pixels on the screen, don't cha know?

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RE: Hide function - 8/11/2011 2:18:21 PM

LaTigresse

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I have only ever hid one person and that was when I first joined.

Overall, I find the concept ridiculous. Most especially the dramatic announcement of it. Then again......as a mother, grandmother, and older sister to 5 siblings.......I learned early in life to ignore stupid chatter. Much like LadyP, I refuse to allow the morons to get to me. Also like LadyP, I really really REALLY enjoy poking sharp sticks at them when I get the opportunity.

Seriously there are quite a few posters I almost never read. Many don't even show up on my radar. No sense in bothering to hide them, they are already effectively 'hidden' in plain sight.

On the other side there are many profiles I've hidden because of gross photos.

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