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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 3:40:20 PM

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 3:47:53 PM

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I do say "lol" a lot. But you can insult me all you like, I will not return that back to you. If it pleases you to do so, have at it. It does not anger me or have any adverse effect.

Since LaTigresse had nothing else to add to the conversation except calling me stupid, then there is nothing else for me to say more to her in the essence of this discussion.
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VaguelyCurious: How can you say it isn't? When i considered limits I pictured them as simple boundaries that I've set (like what tools to beat me with, or how many needles I'll accept). When I think of HARD limits that's a completely different story. Hard limits are not loosely based. Those are what I consider to be the extremes that are only to be looked at with careful precision. Those are what I would consider to be safety concerns depending on certain health issues, or psychological boundaries. Nothing about the word "limits" (in my opinion, everybody is entitled to their own on this point), is anything but loosely based. BUT, again that is simply how I view things. That is not necessarily how others will view them. As I must continually repeat, this is all conjecture; everybody here is merely a person spreading their opinions.

I'm about as open as anybody, I have very few "limits" as far as play goes beyond extreme physical damage or causing permanent harm so when I hear the word "limits" I instantly go to a lets push that in my brain. So maybe that's why I view limits differently then you. But, that doesn't mean I have a complete lack of understanding of the meaning of the word, only that I view it differently then you. I might add, this process of opinion acceptance I am entitled to : ).

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 3:50:17 PM

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Usually when people use 'limits' without a qualifier like 'soft' or 'hard' thy mean hard limits. Hence the uproar you've created by treating those as if they were mostly a suggestion. You're using limits to mean soft limits whereas the rest are using them to mean hard limits, which is why there's a disconnect occurring.

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 3:51:32 PM

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Then for that, I apologize. I do not mean to insult anybody by saying their limits are unnecessary

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 4:11:49 PM

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wow.. I thought both the original post and stoni23's subsequent posts made a lot of sense. so perhaps stoni23 didn't put in front of limits the word "soft". Are people not capable of reading a little into it without going off simply because it wasn't worded absolutely perfectly?

And as to the original poster, I think that person was also saying that we should be who we are and not expect others to conform to our ideas of what a dominant or submissive is.. and that there tend to be some people here that people classify as "fake" when they aren't necessarily scammers but aren't really that person's version of what a dominant or submissive is. I mean.. I myself find it hard to believe the numerous men who identify as dominant but seem only concerned about getting themselves a blowjob. But.. perhaps in their mind thats what a dominant is. My version is just different.

Not sure why everyone jumped all over those posts so negatively, definitely reads like people picked out the pieces that they found offensive instead of taking it as a whole and being slightly more objective..

But then.. who the hell am I to tell other people how to read a post.. just seems like people wanted to argue for the sake of arguing..

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 4:20:10 PM

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countrychick: I do kind of get that feeling a bit. Lots of people like to argue around here. Which, in itself can be effective at relieving stress.

As far as what you have to say... I TOTALLY DISAGREE!!!

Just kidding. lol.

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 4:39:33 PM

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We could all benefit from introspection; including the OP. I am put off by many profiles but there is a simple solution---I ignore them.

If I have a gazillion ~~musts~~ and it doesn't match the other person's gazillion ~~you WILL's~~ I move on, no great loss to either of us. I could list a gazillion things I won't do or I can concentrate on describing myself in a positive light

Bottom line: It isn't what you say, it is how you say it..

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 5:37:28 PM

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quote:

Bottom line: It isn't what you say, it is how you say it..

oh fuck. spare me the care bear crap will you.

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 5:42:46 PM

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So fuckin' sue me!!!!

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 5:49:36 PM

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Gawd you're clueless.

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 5:52:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: catize

So fuckin' sue me!!!!

Okay but remember you told me to. ~shrugs~

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 5:56:09 PM

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...while he grabs her by the hair and drags them off to their cave.

They have to grab by the hair when dragging... if they dragged while holding the feet, they'd fill up with sand!!!

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 8:23:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

...while he grabs her by the hair and drags them off to their cave.

They have to grab by the hair when dragging... if they dragged while holding the feet, they'd fill up with sand!!!

its only etiquette when obtaining a suitable mate. so easy a caveman could do it.

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/11/2011 11:21:40 PM

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Ive been on the net more years than I care to remember. Ive spoken with literally thousands of ppl via IRC, GETS, email, phone. And never ONCE have I met a fake. Rather I suspect the person using the term "fake" was somehow jilted and rather than blame themselves they call the other person a "fake"

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/12/2011 5:29:57 AM

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i consider a fake person to be one that is lying about who they really are. If they say they're living one place and planning on meeting you, but in fact are living somewhere else completely and are just dragging you along on webcam, then they are fake

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RE: An off-putting time. - 8/12/2011 12:37:42 PM

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I had a pretty good idea of what you meant by fake or wannabes and your def is pretty close to mine. Ive heard hundreds of horror stories from ppl that have been burnt on the net by wannabes. If I had to guess those ppl would /are burnt by ppl in RL as well. Kinda like stupid is as stupid does.

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