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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 12:37:56 PM   
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Ok I was just going to let it go at this point, but now I can't. I find it funny that so many seem to have missed Hanna's point but oh well. I take issue with the above now. The idea of a common mindset. Because....

I am not kinky. There are just a lot of other people on the planet that are boring.

Alternate way of life < accourding to who? If I live my life much as I was raised to live it does that mean it is not alternate to anything.

I don't share a general interest with anyone without knowing what it is. For all I know you could be into some sick sh*t. Or for all you know I could be into things that would make you cry (and I don't mean in the nice way)

I haven't been to a munch in five years and don't intend to go to one any time soon. And as many others pointed out, some never go to any and like it that way.

And as to needing a sense of belonging well I have quoted him before and I will do it again now.

"I refuse to be part of any group that would have someone like me as a member" - Groucho Marx

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It's not a case of me missing Hannah's point, it is me attempting to offer another concept that she may have not seen. I had hoped that after reading my post, that you would have understood that those example I gave were not the end all be all set in stone examples....just options in a general sense...NOT anything specific. Yes I do want to counteract what you posted in the above quotes but that would detract from Hannah's discussion. As I see it, it is rapidly getting too focused on semantics and moving away from the main topic. As I stated before...I am NOT absolutely defining anything for everyone, only offering an alternate view.

I give thanks to Hannah for offering up a damn good debate, I will not remove myself from this discussion as I don't feel I have anything else to contribute to the topic. Be well.


I didn't mean you personally. As I said so many missed her point. I just disagreed with what you said about the same mindset. Sorry if I wasn't clear about that. I do agree with you about maybe getting away from the point. Perhaps we all should have just said "I agree" or " I disagree"

*side note* I agree with the op....again.

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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 12:39:55 PM   
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And really....isn't this thread just a tad better than;

"dear mistress is anyone into watching me eat my shit?"

or

"why cant i find a domme to do what i want her to do to me?"

or
"fuck you"
"no fuck you!"
"ur stupid"
"no u r!"

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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 12:40:08 PM   
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Yes Hannah......my intent with placing the word we in exclamations was to convey that I wasn't saying it applies to every single person......only to indicate general and not a specific.
but it isn't fucking general wolf. the number of non-kinky d/s only people is quite large, the number of kink only people is also quite large, and so on. the munch one, i'm pretty sure the non-event people outnumber the event people by an order of several magnitudes.you have picked descriptions that apply to sections of those into bdsm, and used those as definitions as to why the whole is a community. it just doesn't wash. use a little logic here wolf, think it through.

you are saying
1. some people like "A"
2. some people like "B"
3. some people who like "A" also like "B"
4. therefore all people who like A and all people who like B are part of a community.

see where it falls apart? there is no logical justification for your conclusion. you're just pulling it out of your ass because it's the one you want to prove.

you know, when i started this thread i wasn't really completely certain i was right about the lack of The Community, but now after having you guys argue that there is for 9 pages, and considering your points, i'm absolutely 100% fucking certain that i was correct. you have all repeatedly proven my point over and over. thank you.


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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 12:44:40 PM   
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in response to a comment I made. Her comment reminded me of the Jack Rinella quote that Ron used to use in his sigline, but I couldn't remember its exact wording. He emailed me with it, and I thought I would post it because I thought it might be of interest to some people, if only for a millisecond.


Yep . . . that quote is *not* conducive to the average anarchist's view of what is and is not required for the existence of a community. As I think Hannah, as an anarchist herself, has implied. Standard line is: We don't need authority, still less government, for a community to exist. In fact government destroys communities.

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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 12:47:34 PM   
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I still can't see why you don't consider CM to be a community, Hannah. That seems very cold to me.
for fuck's sake peon, i have said at least a half a dozen times that cm is a community. but that isn't The Community, and The Community is the one i am talking about.

fucking mother of christ! what thread are you people reading?


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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 12:47:59 PM   
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Yes Hannah......my intent with placing the word we in exclamations was to convey that I wasn't saying it applies to every single person......only to indicate general and not a specific.
but it isn't fucking general wolf. the number of non-kinky d/s only people is quite large, the number of kink only people is also quite large, and so on. the munch one, i'm pretty sure the non-event people outnumber the event people by an order of several magnitudes.you have picked descriptions that apply to sections of those into bdsm, and used those as definitions as to why the whole is a community. it just doesn't wash. use a little logic here wolf, think it through.

you are saying
1. some people like "A"
2. some people like "B"
3. some people who like "A" also like "B"
4. therefore all people who like A and all people who like B are part of a community.

see where it falls apart? there is no logical justification for your conclusion. you're just pulling it out of your ass because it's the one you want to prove.

you know, when i started this thread i wasn't really completely certain i was right about the lack of The Community, but now after having you guys argue that there is for 9 pages, and considering your points, i'm absolutely 100% fucking certain that i was correct. you have all repeatedly proven my point over and over. thank you.



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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 12:48:53 PM   
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I still can't see why you don't consider CM to be a community, Hannah. That seems very cold to me.
for fuck's sake peon, i have said at least a half a dozen times that cm is a community. but that isn't The Community, and The Community is the one i am talking about.

fucking mother of christ! what thread are you people reading?




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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 12:59:33 PM   
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I still can't see why you don't consider CM to be a community, Hannah. That seems very cold to me.
for fuck's sake peon, i have said at least a half a dozen times that cm is a community. but that isn't The Community, and The Community is the one i am talking about.

fucking mother of christ! what thread are you people reading?



Hannah--sorry...but I'm reading your post--you didn't make that distinction in your OP:

"this isn't a community, there is no community, not online not offline, it's just a bunch of random people who like doing sick-ass shit to other people. all we have in common is the way we fuck. if that defines who you are so deeply, then fucked if your not in the wading pool of life. bdsm is just fancy fucking, and this "community" is no more a "community" than people who like knitting are."

You openly declared that there is no community, online or off, and that led to 9 pages of discussion on the topic of what defines a community, with a few tangential subjects in the mix. I wasn't out to change your mind on the subject (I was quite sure it was already made up!)  Your OP asked why people believe there is one....and you got a variety of opinions on the matter.

I don't believe there is "THE Community with a capital T and Capital C."  Wish there was--I miss the sense of community I once was a part of.

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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 1:03:21 PM   
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Hannah, by any chance are you related to Bill Clinton?
i really couldn't say, but anybody born after 1959 could be. we are talking about bill "i'd fuck that" clinton after all.

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The problem is that you want to debate the word "the" as in "the community". Hang with Me here, because there is a difference.
i would say that that's an adequately accurate rephrasing of my point. it is The Community with capital letters, to use vc's terminology, who's existence i am disputing.

even with the idea of your SELF meeting that includes participants from many differnent groups cannot be considered The Community, because the number of bdsmers who do not go to such events and meets outnumber those who do. it is the same with the cm boards, those of us who come here are indeed a community, like peon said, i know more about the private intimate details of most of your lives than i do my family, yet i don't even fucking know most of your names. but, those of us on the boards are only a small fraction of all the members on the other side, and that is only a small fraction of all the people into bdsm.

as soon as you can define a particular subset as a community, it becomes apparent that you are defining a minority. there are a ton and a half of little subgroups that qualify as communities, and there is a lot of overlap between them. but there isn't an over arching Community that includes them all.



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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 1:03:26 PM   
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I like Jeremy Bentham's utilitarian notion of community:
The interest of the community is one of the most general expressions that can occur in the phraseology of morals: no wonder that the meaning of it is often lost. When it has a meaning, it is this. The community is a fictitious body, composed of the individual persons who are considered as constituting as it were its members. The interest of the community then is, what?—the sum of the interests of the several members who compose it. ~Jeremy Bentham, Introduction to the Principles of Morals and Legislation.
Through Benedict Anderson we get the idea that nations themselves are "imagined communities", which makes sense to me. Personally, while I understand myself to be living working and playing in an imagined community within an imagined community, I usually feel uncomfortable at "community/social" type events and relate better with others on an individual basis.      

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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 1:07:56 PM   
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Note that word 'interest' in that excerpt. Bentham placed a lot of emphasis on 'interest'. He's defining 'the interest of the community' rather than just 'the community'.

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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 1:10:16 PM   
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Others may differentiate between BDSM folks and the leatherfolks--I do not. Mea culpa. I was contemplating starting a thread on that--and history, but given the lukewarm reception the topic has been given here, I'm not really sure anyone would be really interested
i sure as fuck would, and so would heather. we'd both love to learn more about the leather movement and its history and to see you and ladyp and lance and others debating the finer points of its philosophy. it would be fucking great!

but as you can see, ladyp, clearly a leather person of some repute, doesn't really consider it synonymous with bdsm. so while there can be no disputing by even vaguely rational people that the leather comunity is indeed a community, there, likewise can be no acceptance of the claim that the leather community is The Community.


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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 1:15:46 PM   
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I'm out! (Hannah--frightening as it may be, I agree with you on that point)

I'm off to go  food shopping to prepare appetizers for a ClubFEM party that's in a few hours.  I'm looking forward to spending time in what I now know is not a community, with people who are just random Dommes and subs, who have nothing at all in common with me... except for the one reason why we are all meeting at the dungeon tonight. 
oh bless the non-community.  pass the appetizers.

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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 1:16:35 PM   
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Or a 'debating community'.

Some time back I went to an academic conference, during which a bloke was giving a paper on the meaning of the word 'community'. It had become a buzzword by the time of Blair's government, and people were using it everywhere. The press pounced on it as well as academics (particularly in the social sciences). Blairites had come to love it because, in employing it, they could counter Thatcher's social atomism (cf 'There is no society . . .'), but without having to go all the way to talking about 'society' in any way that was redolent of the now hated word, 'socialism'. After many years following in the neoliberal hue, the Right came to love the word, too: it was sufficiently fluffy to articulate a kind of conservatism that was no longer Thatcherite, but didn't convey any idea of 'social engineering' (which has always been a horror to the right wing).

But then everyone went kind of masturbatory over it. 'Community' came to be applied to any group that had any identifiably common characteristic whatsoever. Private Eye began a regular thread for people to send in their silly examples for a tenner ('The boot-wearing community' and 'bus-travelling community' were two of the more inane that I recall offhand.)

Sociologists had traditionally spoken of the two types of human association, from Tonnies, of
Gemeinschaft and Gesellschaft. A 'community', the aforementioned bloke at the conference was arguing, once implied some sense of the former - that is a community in, roughly, the cosy, human-contact sense.

For me, it's pretty evident that we have at least some of that 'Gemeinschaft' sense here, on CM. But what muddies the picture, as so often, is the fact that we're now in the brave new world of the interwebs. I've hardly met anyone from here and don't even really know what they look like. In contrast, I know the first names of plenty of people at my local pub, but don't know the first thing about their deeper views of life - as I do here, regarding quite a few people.

Nonetheless, there's only a certain amount of mud I'm prepared to wade through. For me, the word 'community' has been hijacked too completely to be worth anything anymore. For 'community', you could now read 'group of people' or, re Tonnies, any 'association' of them. Too much of the debate is now just tiresome semantics.

So, this is a long-winded way of my saying: Who cares? ;)


The meaning of the word community is in flux. It used to mean a group of humans interacting in a common location, which was a fine definition in 1810.

Now we have so many ways to interact on virtual locations, that people are wanting to take the location component out of the definition. They are wrong, IMO.

You can't really call boot wearers a community unless / until they have the opportunity to interact at a common location. B/c it is that very interaction that sociologists wish to document in their attempts to (culturally) evaluate a community.

The question of "is there an umbrella community that oversees all other BDSM communities?" is nonsense. The overall BDSM community has never been globally organized and has limited structure.

(That we don't agree on things, even basic definitions, is a component of our social interaction, it doesn't in any way bar us from being a community.)

What I take issue with applies to the boot wearers as much to the BDSMers. Although both "communities" of people may have the option of connecting in a common location (i.e. the internet), unless all members of all communities actually interact online, from a sociological viewpoint, it is not a global community.

So you can call all boot wearers who interact, virtually or not, a community, just as you can call all BDSMers who interact, virtually or not, a community. 

It does leave out all those possible members who may have similar interests but who don't interact with others in the community.

Reasons why the definition of community is so very changeable these days.

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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 1:26:55 PM   
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@PeonForHer: Right, but he does define community as "a fictitious body" to get to the point of what communities are about practically.

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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 1:31:12 PM   
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true, but i think that idea comes closest to defining a fucking community that might apply. it's not that we have shared interests in the sense of the shit we are interested in, but we do have shared interests in the sense that there are things that are in our common interest, such as the repeal of outdated sodomy laws, a more general acceptance of wiitwd by the general public, recognition of poly households, recognition of gay marriage, those sorts of things are, in general, in the interest of each of us individually. so perhaps, on page 10, we come to an idea that just might fucking well apply.

so, let's rephrase the motherfucker, shall we?

do we share enough things that are individually "in my interest" to qualify as a community? is there enough shared self-interest to qualify?

of course this would make The Community more akin to a lobby group or pac, than a community in the sense it is most often used.

so what do you all say to this idea? is there something here or not?

personally i'm inclined to think there is.

thanks loads idioteq. <and of course j. bentham >

e2a: i left out an "n" ooops


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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 1:47:23 PM   
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well we're all here aren't we?

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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 1:51:05 PM   
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You can't really call boot wearers a community unless / until they have the opportunity to interact at a common location. B/c it is that very interaction that sociologists wish to document in their attempts to (culturally) evaluate a community.


Sociology is the study society - they can (and very often do, these days) take the widest possible definition of 'society' and of 'interaction'. That can be all people on the planet - hence the great new idea of 'global society'.

Definitions in sociology only ever get more complicated - they never get simpler!

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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 1:53:07 PM   
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a fucking community


Yes! Can we have one? I'm up for that!

None of this 'virtual fucking community', though. I want things to be RT and properly squelchy.

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RE: what fucking community? - 8/13/2011 1:57:34 PM   
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a fucking community


Yes! Can we have one? I'm up for that!

None of this 'virtual fucking community', though. I want things to be RT and properly squelchy.


I second this. Surely there's one out there already, it's just a matter of finding it.

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