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RE: Hurts so good? - 8/14/2011 8:16:31 AM

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I played around with a flog at my old Domme's birthday party. Then she stood me up and gave me my first flogging in front of everyone... while she was wearing a bath towel with a plastic tipped rope flog.

I couldn't bend over enough to hide myself lol

I could never emulate it myself.

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RE: Hurts so good? - 8/14/2011 9:11:53 AM

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I think I can say with a certain amount of confidence that M could get off watching sado porn, but it won't be ANYTHING like getting his hands on me.

With all porn, you're dictated to. When you have a live, naked girl in front of you, you make your own.

Likely the same in reverse. I like porn (usually male on male) but it's got NOTHING in comparison to M even just LOOKING like he's going to do *something*.

Pain wise, well, I'm not a fan of pain at all.......I like male on male porn, no pain administered. My life involves a fair degree of pain of varying types, but it's got to be M.

It's not got a lot of appeal otherwise. No hook.

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For a start, it's not predictable and you can't dictate how you're going to react. Porn is far safer and far tamer.

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RE: Hurts so good? - 8/14/2011 10:18:08 AM

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I can orgasm from watching bdsm porn, but it has to be the real thing - if someone gets caned, they have to have cane marks left... none of this screaming trashing without marks stuff. (big waste of time really)

As for self inflicted? - well, i loved pushing against bruises left by my late Sir - that gave me an erotic and sensual buzz, but deliberately running into something, or hitting myself? - nah, doesn't do a thing except hurt, and not in a good way.

It would seem that my masochism is fuelled by my submission. Take one of those elements out and the whole is nul and void. But i suspect that many things are like this - like sex and love, or education and money.

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RE: Hurts so good? - 8/14/2011 10:23:48 AM

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ideally speaking it would be better to have someone inflict the control, pain or treatment than to inflict it yourself. but if no one is available you make do with what you have.

certain types of pain in conjuction with self inflicted cbt creates a rush and the longer prolonged, the greater the release is. one can self impose chastity to extend the periods between orgasms thus creating a pent up desire to engage in appropriate activities.

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RE: Hurts so good? - 8/21/2011 7:51:29 PM

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Hands on, hands down.

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RE: Hurts so good? - 8/23/2011 3:24:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: AlwaysLisa
Same for masochists, does it matter who (if anyone) creates the pain for it be pleasurable, or can you self inflict and get just as stimulated?

Do either require the right "mind set", or is it the act itself of giving/receiving of pain?

I find it matters who by a long shot, whilst I can get stimulated by self infliction it does require an active imagination, and pictures/vidoes certainly help there :-P

Buttons can be pushed like anyone, but the wrong person (or even perceiving the wrong person) can end up just feeling wrong. Perhaps it varies if you were playing casually or are poly, in my own experience having someone else inflict pain on you instead of your partner is odd and can feel like betrayal, even if the partner encourages it. Just the way I'm wired I think.

I find the very act of receiving pain is intense, both in the knowledge that they want to do this to you and know exactly what it will do to you (badly written but I'm naff at explaining lol). Looking up and seeing the mutual pleasure in your partner's face is fantastic.

As for the mindset, I think it helps to intensify the experience, building up to that moment the clamps attach or the crop strikes, anticipated and the whole body primed to feel that jolt.
The wrong mindset and suffering for your partner's sake, or just not able to concentrate on the pain or your partner, whilst it's still enjoyable from a submissive state lacks that edge.

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