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captiveprincess -> RE: What do you do when a "slave" does not care? (10/30/2006 1:03:56 PM)
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I know there have been many responses and since I haven't read them all yet I may be repeating some of what others have said. First of all, I agree that this girl is no slave. She doesn't even sound very submissive, actually. It sounds to me like she would do better in a kinky but vanilla relationship where she can still do what she wants but have some kink on the side. And yes, she probably is young and immature, but don't blame it all on that. This girl does not want to SUBMIT to you, or to anyone it sounds like. She wants to have her cake and eat it too, so to speak. For many, the lifestyle is a romantic and almost storylike fantasy but when they try to make it a reality, they realize just how much work it actually is. A true D/s relationship is much more intimate and takes more work than a regular vanilla relationship, in my opinion.
And also, let me state that if You enter a poly relationship with thoughts of trying to "fix" what is wrong now, it will NOT work. Poly is even harder than a regular D/s relationship because not only does the Dom have to take care of one sub and her feelings of importance and being loved, but has to do that with more than one and still keep them all feeling equally important. And let me tell you coming from a female perspective (and also from a poly household), females are usually more jealous than me, and the two women had best be really good friends (or at least have the potential to be) before trying to love and comfort and dominate both of them.
My suggestion to You, BBVD, is to sit down and explain to her that You feel the relationship isn't working. That she has violated the agreement she made to You at the beginning, and that if she doesn't make an effort to change then You're going to have to cut Your losses and find someone who can give You the service You need.
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