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A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/13/2011 9:19:48 PM   
littlekitten1


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Okee, I have a question. It seems that there are many recurring themes that run in the femdom thingy. Now this is probably all just porn stuff just like how rl sex isn't like the stuff portrayed in straight porn movies. But I dunno... I want people's insight on this.

Stuff like queening for example, seems quite exclusive to femdom. I've never seen a male dom talk about how he'd like to sit on his sub's face.
Also, female dommes seem to be way more into humiliation than male doms. Perhaps also more cruel :p

Now, I know that most dommes are most likely just normal like any male dom. I've come across the refreshing domme profile that was... omg... actually respectful to the reader.

Well that's besides the point >_<

I guess Im just really curious as to why dommes, at least in my mind, are portrayed as really cruel and bitchy and why some things seem exclusive to them like queening, when that can actually be a uni-sex activity.
Also cuckolding seems to be very popular amongst Femdom/malesub relationships but not so much maledom. OR perhaps in the maledom relationships they simply aren't called cuckolding but more like: I'm the dom so I get to sleep with others.


I don't know. I probably am not making any sense ._. But yea. If anyone has an idea, any input would be appreciated :p

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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/13/2011 9:29:49 PM   
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The key word is "portrayed". In real life, female dominants know that humilation play is a tricky dance. We VALUE or sumissives. Queening? Well yeah, best breath play ever. Not an obsession for the majority of us.

The issues of dominance are the same, regardless of gender. The issues of fantasy...another thing entirely.

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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/13/2011 10:00:46 PM   
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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/13/2011 10:04:26 PM   
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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/13/2011 10:12:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yeap. have to agree....its porn and hollywood driven.

I wonder if it will be true though 10 to 20 years from now. Since the industrial revolution, males have been the majority bread winner, and thus they are the one with the money and paying. Do not get met wrong, woman work and make gppd money I am just talking sheer numbers and men still out number women in who is working and who is bring home the majority of the money.

I am curious as the woman work for rises and the income thing reaches a 50/50 split on a more global basis, will this drive the sex industry to portray what those working women are willing to pay for? Food for thought!

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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/13/2011 10:16:25 PM   
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I guess Im just really curious as to why dommes, at least in my mind, are portrayed as really cruel and bitchy




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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 1:25:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's because femdom is an unforgivable sin against God and the proper order, while maledom is wonderful and right and beautiful. Pornographers, being the sensitive souls that they are, cannot help but feel that dissonance in human society and attempt to express it through the medium of erotica. Unfortunately mostly people just wank over it and bitch.


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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 2:30:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Epytropos

It's because femdom is an unforgivable sin against God and the proper order, while maledom is wonderful and right and beautiful.





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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 2:31:51 AM   
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Stuff like queening for example, seems quite exclusive to femdom. I've never seen a male dom talk about how he'd like to sit on his sub's face.


This have a bit to do with anatomy my dear, first of all if a woman sit on someone's face then the person that face belong to will be pretty well situated to reach certain areas, it is not so effective when the woman is the giver of the oral sex. In addition, unless there is overweight involved men tend to be bigger and heavier than men, so for a 60 kilos woman to sit on a man's face is something else than a 90 kilos man sitting on a woman's face.

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Also, female dommes seem to be way more into humiliation than male doms. Perhaps also more cruel :p


Some Dom's are more into humiliation, some are less, this do not really depend on sex but on personal preferences.

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Also cuckolding seems to be very popular amongst Femdom/malesub relationships but not so much maledom. OR perhaps in the maledom relationships they simply aren't called cuckolding but more like: I'm the dom so I get to sleep with others.


This is a bit more historical, it is still seen as very humiliating for a man to be a cuckold, while it is not the same for a woman who's man sleep with more women, therefore it can be worked into humiliation play that much more effective. It is that same that slut like it or not is more a female term as in society a woman who sleeps around is a slut, and is dirty and it is humiliating while a man that sleeps around is seen as a stud and it is seen as a show of strength. I think that is silly, but that is how society work so people work that into their play.

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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 3:24:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		Not to be too graphic, but I guess queening could also be used in terms of male doms who like to be rimmed, but I'm glad someone explained the anatomical difference that may make it more sexually appealing for a F than a M. Does make me wonder what the equivalent name would be...Kinging? Sounds all wronged up.

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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 3:53:10 AM   
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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 3:58:29 AM   
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tea bagging?


Hmm, this is true, though keeping with the regal theme, it should probably be high tea bagging.

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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 4:04:43 AM   
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now that shit's funny, i don't care who you are.


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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 4:08:31 AM   
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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 5:28:51 AM   
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but I guess queening could also be used in terms of male doms who like to be rimmed,


or cock sucking though it would be awkward.

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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 5:32:54 AM   
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Silly...silly...humans......the real difference is one has a penis...the other a vagina......see....easy!

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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 5:40:24 AM   
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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 6:40:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		queening is kinda similar to face fucking isn't it? =p it's just a difference of anatomy. you can bet that there are plenty of guys who REALLY like putting their dicks in other people's mouths.
i've met lots of male doms into humiliation; i wouldn't say FemDoms cornered the market on that, at all.

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OR perhaps in the maledom relationships they simply aren't called cuckolding but more like: I'm the dom so I get to sleep with others.


and you've basically answered your own question there. =p men are more likely to claim an outright right to sleep with whoever they want. i think women are less likely to just say it, socially, plus there are a lot of msubs into cuckolding anyway. i will say, i haven't met many women at all into cuckqueaning.

many of the motivations are exactly the same, they're just expressed differently; physically, verbally, emotionally, whatever.

this is basically just a long-winded, less elegant way to say "i agree with the others." =p
also, if you're basing your findings off the population of CM, well... there are a lot of FemDom profiles set up to attract a specific type of porn-fed clientele who will pay them to insult them. =p those profiles really can't be said to reflect the everyday reality of FDom/msub relationships.


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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 6:45:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: littlekitten1

Stuff like queening for example, seems quite exclusive to femdom. I've never seen a male dom talk about how he'd like to sit on his sub's face.



The male equivalent is choking his sub with his cock till she's gagging.


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RE: A question about Femdom compared to Maledom - 8/14/2011 6:56:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: littlekitten1

Stuff like queening for example, seems quite exclusive to femdom. I've never seen a male dom talk about how he'd like to sit on his sub's face.



The male equivalent is choking his sub with his cock till she's gagging.



Really? I would think it would be actually sitting on her face, resulting in rimming.


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