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Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 5:43:45 AM   
wanabmrscuck


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Status: offline 		I am meeting a new slave this weekend. I have advised a 30 day orientation period to make sure it is working for Me. I then would like a contract before ever owning or collaring on a 24/7 time frame. I am open to hearing thoughts on this - this is an uncollared slave moved here from out of state about 6mos ago - no other Dommes to speak with nor a previous owner as the slave was let go due to his profession and moving.
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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 5:59:12 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		You're meeting him for the first time, and you have a 30 day orientation period? What does the orientation consist of?

If it's live-in, I think that's moving WAY too soon for a first meeting.

A contract is a good way to get basic rules in writing, but it's legally unenforceable.

Good luck!


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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 7:37:08 AM   
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Cart. Horse. One goes in front.

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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 8:02:13 AM   
wanabmrscuck


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Status: offline 		Meeting and then if it goes well - moving into orientation. I will not consider 24/7 unless I believe it to be in My best interest. The dynmic has to be there. I am a firm believer that you will know within the first 2-3 months if the slave is cut out for only serving or if they are ready for more. This slave has years of training and is not new to it in any way shape or form. I understand a contract is not legal, but is for his understanding and mine as where it stands.

Any other thoughts? ideas on orientation?

Regards,

S

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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 8:05:13 AM   
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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 9:05:11 AM   
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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 9:19:46 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: wanabmrscuck

Meeting and then if it goes well - moving into orientation. I will not consider 24/7 unless I believe it to be in My best interest. The dynmic has to be there. I am a firm believer that you will know within the first 2-3 months if the slave is cut out for only serving or if they are ready for more. This slave has years of training and is not new to it in any way shape or form. I understand a contract is not legal, but is for his understanding and mine as where it stands.

Any other thoughts? ideas on orientation?

Regards,

S


Hello S -

My thoughts.... There are a whole lot of "MY" type of words in there.  You seem to have forgotten you are talking of forging a relationship with a person.

My second thought - What's "more than serving" mean?

good luck,
sunshine


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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 10:02:16 AM   
wanabmrscuck


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Status: offline 		The slave in question - and by the way, contract after orientation, not before hand. It is My decision - and yes a relationship of sorts, therefore the statement on dynamics. In regard to more than serving, this would be considered an outside "vanilla" relationship as well, he is in a position of authority in a branch of service and I am a business owner and active in community. I am not so daft as to believe that even in D's relationships with slaves - that ONLY MY thoughts on it count. We are grown ups and functioning in the vanilla world as well.

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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 10:04:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm thinking you are going to be very popular with those that don't want more than kink... and believe me... service is the last thing on their mind unless you are tending to their kink.

So far your picture and name promise all sorts of goodies and I don't think either leave anything left in the minds of most men around here.. other than... I get to see that ass doing another man and all for the price of one month good behavior and a promissory note that means nothing in the big picture. DEAL!

It's a bit hard to take you seriously when looking at your ass, taking in your nick and reading about a game of... how should I work this in my own chosen setting? Now... what was the real question?

< Message edited by Lockit -- 8/18/2011 10:09:30 AM >

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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 10:09:00 AM   
wanabmrscuck


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Status: offline 		Wow...I am so disappointed as to the responses of people in general. I thought this was an open forum for advice. I am feeling condescended to and from people that do not even know me. Not liking that at all in an open forum. My pic is no differnt than many on this site and being a business person, a face picture is out of the question. Really disappointed in all the responses and condescending nature of it all.

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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 10:09:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hibbie and LP summed up my thoughts quite well.  Thanks, ladies. 

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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 10:15:42 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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quote:

ORIGINAL: wanabmrscuck

Wow...I am so disappointed as to the responses of people in general. I thought this was an open forum for advice. I am feeling condescended to and from people that do not even know me. Not liking that at all in an open forum. My pic is no differnt than many on this site and being a business person, a face picture is out of the question. Really disappointed in all the responses and condescending nature of it all.



You asked for our opinions on a very sketchy question, and you got them

I am also a business owner, and my face is not on the net anymore. Neither are my other parts. It's possible to present a dignified image without a sexual display. (no, I am not implying that sexuality is undomly)



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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 10:17:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hey, honey....You want a contract after a period of tryouts, go for it. No big deal.

Not enforceable, but just like gettin a blowjob, if it feels good, do it.

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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 10:26:22 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Who comes in with a question and dictates the answers? I know I am being rather rude... but it came with the damn (painful) eye roll of... she has already made her mind up and is asking us what? Permission? Good idea?... because after your responses, you clearly don't want to hear what we think unless it is kudo's on the bright and artistic work of a dominant.

First of all you have never met the man and are considering far too much based on... some online rules of the game? You bought the story of a release because of a profession.. he most likely had when she accepted him... so then it was the move. Okay... I may be jaded... but why mention someone you would give up for a career move? Oh.. yeah... to prove you had a dominant before and know what you're doing.

Which feeds right into that.. okay, I never met you, but I like your butt and your name and I really, really want a new dominant... this new town is getting rather boring. I will be good.. I will agree to most anything.. because I had a dominant before and I know what I am doing.

You two want to play that way... go for it and I hope you have fun and enjoy one another. But if you are asking a bunch of strangers what they think of your kink or dominance... be prepared for the answers.


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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 10:48:48 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Wellllllllll, her profile comes up 'Not Found' now so I assume her fragile ego got all butt hurt and she ran. Poor thing.

You big meanies!


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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 10:50:45 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I read her profile maybe fifteen minutes ago... she is indeed looking for a cuck. And a houseboy. And.



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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 10:55:18 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Good help is so hard to find! Seeking and finding in the manner the OP is doing... will guarantee, the roll over rate is high.

You get what you put into it.


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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 1:15:24 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: wanabmrscuck

Wow...I am so disappointed as to the responses of people in general. I thought this was an open forum for advice. I am feeling condescended to and from people that do not even know me. Not liking that at all in an open forum. My pic is no differnt than many on this site and being a business person, a face picture is out of the question. Really disappointed in all the responses and condescending nature of it all.


Duh, what do you expect? What would you tell a guy who is already thinking about a prenupt, engagement and what not before he actually met the girl?

So you didn't like the answers you got and of course it has nothing to do with your question, it's all the mean people...

To be honest, I am really disappointed with people who ask very stupid questions but hey, I'll live, I guess you will manage to overcome your disappointment as well...

Quite a few of us are business people, doesn't mean that we have to show our arses, my take is that if a guy shows a dick picture, he's just telling me he's a dick, what did you say your picture was?

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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 3:34:12 PM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		good luck.. how old are you? how much experience do you have?

why don't you just sit back, stop deciding what the answers should be and how the relationship should go and just meet the guy.. just meet another person..not a slave.. just a guy...

sheesh...

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RE: Thoughts on orientation time and contract - 8/18/2011 4:21:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally I would question the things he has told you, but I question everyone(rank that up to trust no one if you want) You said you can't speak to anyone that was there before. That is actually ok in my opinion because I don't base what I do on what someone did with someone else. But as far as the job, why he is moving, what he says he knows....are you sure? If you were asking is it a good idea to have a test period where you get to know him first in the real world than the answer is yes. Find out all the information that you can before you let someone into your world. As for contracts and protocol and all that....those are just bells and whistles. Like the lace on the bottom of a wedding dress. It may be pretty but it doesn't guarantee the marriage will stand the test of time.

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