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Is it possible to find a true "mistress" - 8/19/2011 3:53:26 PM

Sublilfreak

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so I have been on here a while and it seems kind of artifical. I am just looking for a female who wants to control as much as I want to be controlled who is serious about meeting and not having endless emails back and forth

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RE: Is it possible to find a true "mistress" - 8/19/2011 4:25:02 PM

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Of course it's possible, but a lot depends on how you define "true." Most of us don't subscribe to the idea of "trueness" because it's too subjective. What is true for you might be fake for someone else.

You've only been here three months. Did you think the site would be like a fast food restaurant where you drive up to the window, place your order and have a "mistress" delivered to you in five minutes or less? Sorry, but it just doesn't work that way.

Most dominant women are interested in relationships based on compatible values and life goals. Kinky sex is fairly far down on the list of priorities. Since your profile states you're only willing to obey in the bedroom, you're going to have a much harder time finding someone who is interested. Your profile is all about what you want and there's nothing at all about what you're willing to offer. I love to be in control, but your profile makes you look like a self-centered brat who doesn't care about what *I* want or need and that's just not attractive. I wouldn't give you a second glance and I suspect a great many of the dominant women here would say the same.

If your submission is based on the content and frequency of your orgasms, that's not submission.

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RE: Is it possible to find a true "mistress" - 8/19/2011 11:26:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

Of course it's possible, but a lot depends on how you define "true." Most of us don't subscribe to the idea of "trueness" because it's too subjective. What is true for you might be fake for someone else.

You've only been here three months. Did you think the site would be like a fast food restaurant where you drive up to the window, place your order and have a "mistress" delivered to you in five minutes or less? Sorry, but it just doesn't work that way.

Most dominant women are interested in relationships based on compatible values and life goals. Kinky sex is fairly far down on the list of priorities. Since your profile states you're only willing to obey in the bedroom, you're going to have a much harder time finding someone who is interested. Your profile is all about what you want and there's nothing at all about what you're willing to offer. I love to be in control, but your profile makes you look like a self-centered brat who doesn't care about what *I* want or need and that's just not attractive. I wouldn't give you a second glance and I suspect a great many of the dominant women here would say the same.

If your submission is based on the content and frequency of your orgasms, that's not submission.

This. It's quite probable that your endlessly emailing 'dommes' are really HNGs posing as female dominants. With your profile as it stands, expect more of the same.

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RE: Is it possible to find a true "mistress" - 8/20/2011 4:13:23 AM

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The word 'true' sticks in my throat in reference to Mistresses, Masters and even subs. As it has been said already what's true for you might not be the case for anyone else.

I met my sub online in 2009, we chatted once in a while (months apart) I decided to meet up with him in 2010 and even now that I've been seeing him for a year I'm still not ready to collar the boy even though he is technically looked upon as the man in my life. And sure as heck, if he contacted me me all that time ago stating he was only interested in bedroom activities he'd never have gotten a reply.

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RE: Is it possible to find a true "mistress" - 8/20/2011 4:22:37 AM

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Per the OP's profile:

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I have total control of my life but I want to be under someone elses control when it comes to sex only. I am not looking for any live in situation just a couple times a month meething where you have complete control over me.

Sounds to me as though you would be better off finding a pro.

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RE: Is it possible to find a true "mistress" - 8/20/2011 5:34:34 AM

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It would seem to me that a true Mistress deserves a true slave/submissive Ask yourself if a true slave/submssive would limit a Mistress to twice a month bedroom only games.

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RE: Is it possible to find a true "mistress" - 8/20/2011 7:30:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD

Per the OP's profile:

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I have total control of my life but I want to be under someone elses control when it comes to sex only. I am not looking for any live in situation just a couple times a month meething where you have complete control over me.

Sounds to me as though you would be better off finding a pro.

I think I agree with this. But even then I believe that pro's offering sex are just escorts playing dress up. "Want a spanky botty with your bj? Fifty dollars more for anal on mistwezz"

*sicks in mouth*

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RE: Is it possible to find a true "mistress" - 8/20/2011 7:53:54 AM

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you're awfully fucking full of yourself aren't you ana? playing dress up? look in a fucking mirror - what's with the stupid fucking hat?

oh noes! da scaree watexmiztwizz iz going to awests widdle old me!

sweet mary's tits!

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RE: Is it possible to find a true "mistress" - 8/20/2011 8:26:40 AM

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Welcome to the boards OP. Know that what you're looking for isn't going to interest many women Dominants. A few times a month for your gratification isn't what most are looking for. It's about pleasing them, and also what you have to offer, which has already been stated. This comment

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and as punishment I will please her until she is done

just goes against the grain. It's not supposed to be "punishment' to please her, quite the opposite.

Hang around the boards, read older and newer threads, go to the "Ask a Mistress" Forum and read the FAQs and section guidelines. This was put together by Dommes with experience who know what they want and what and who they're looking for. Take it to heart, what you're looking for is someone to satisfy your kink in the bedroom. Won't attract a Mistress/Domme who wants a real connection with someone.

Juuuuuuuuuuuuust sayin'............

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RE: Is it possible to find a true "mistress" - 8/20/2011 8:40:05 AM

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Ok I am be the only one that says this but....there is nothing wrong with being a bedroom sub. That is as long as you are honest about it. Makes sure that one of the first thing people see on your profile is why you are willing to do this. What it is that you really want out of it. And yes I am suggesting that you put you are pretty much only in it for the sex. A lot people do just get into bdsm for the kink. Thats ok. Just don't make promises to anyone that you can't keep. Welcome to the forums, and I wish you good luck finding what turns you on. Cheers.

p.s. Thank you Hanna.

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RE: Is it possible to find a true "mistress" - 8/20/2011 9:57:19 AM

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Yeah, there's a site called "True Mistresses," go there! Oh, that's not what you meant!

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RE: Is it possible to find a true "mistress" - 8/20/2011 10:53:22 AM

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what on earth.....
Lovely eyes you have

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