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Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 6:05:23 AM

Dreaddom

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I have noticed something with increasing frequency over the past six months on my account - many submissives and switches are viewing my profile without actually contacting me (that is, sending a message).

How do other Dominants handle this? Or is not important? I realise I'm probably going to get a bunch of different replies, but personally, I find it curious that subs will look without introducing themselves - especially when they continually look at your profile. Any ideas? Will other Dominants take the first step to ask why a submissive keeps looking? I'm happy with where I am now, so I feel no need to start a conversation...

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 6:18:29 AM

BonesFromAsh

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Do you expect everyone who checks you out while walking down the street to stop and strike up a conversation? If you don't want people viewing your profile, hide it.

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 6:18:54 AM

littlewonder

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just because they view your profile doesn't mean they're interested in you. Could be they're just viewing it because they are fapping off to something in your profile or they find something funny in it or just because they're simply bored and clicking on a bunch of profiles all the time and yours is always next in line or if you use the forums they do it to find out something about what you posted that might be in your profile....lots of reasons.

Or it could be they are interested but too afraid to approach. I know for one when I used to view profiles I would never ever make first contact just because I'm simply old fashioned but that's me. I know it's not the way many people are now.

If you like the person contact them. There is no rule that says a dom or a sub or anyone else has to contact first. If you like, email. If not then pass them by. If you don't like them viewing you then you're SOL

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 6:20:46 AM

DeviantlyD

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It is not worth spending one iota of thought on. When I used to peruse various profiles, I would, from time to time, end up clicking on a profile more than once by mistake. It happens. People just like to perv profiles, that's all there is to it. If they were interested, they would have messaged you.

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 6:26:07 AM

poise

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Maybe they were looking for Jerry Seinfeld, or really like
looking at the photos you have on your profile.
I personally love photo number 4, and may peek at it often.

If you don't mind, of course.

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 6:26:59 AM

thishereboi

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Personally, I will look at a profile for several reasons. I just looked at yours because I read this post and like to see who I am responding to occasionally. I look at several of the fem dommes when I log on because I see something interesting or funny and want to check out the whole thing. If I were looking I would go through a lot more of them. Then, if and only if I thought we might be compatible, I would contact them. If there wasn't anything to spark my interest I wouldn't.

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 6:28:35 AM

StrangerThan

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Well, I suppose there are a couple of things you can take away from it.

They look and don't want to contact you.

They were just browsing and you were browsed.

They're curious as to why you should be dreaded, and find a reason to dread.

Or as I have noticed lately, there's a lot of fake accounts. I mean, I've seen like 5 views all at the same moment in time, all by young and nubile types in various stages of undress, with names that are 20 characters long and crap like beatmysubbyassraw99f0 - you know? All of which point to spammers or some such thing.

So, ignore unless someone views you that seems real and you want to contact. If that happens, say hello and don't be an asshole or be demanding or generally be a shithead.

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 6:29:52 AM

LadyPact

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People view My profile all of the time. If I recognize someone's name from the forums, I'll probably notice. From the other side? Probably not. View it today and your name will be pushed off of the page by tomorrow. Heck, two or three will view My profile just because I responded to this thread. <shrug>

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 6:45:57 AM

Dreaddom

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Haha! I have taken a lot away from these replies already. First is I should probably change my username - I made the profile called 'Dread-Dom' because I used to have dreadlocks. But not anymore. I didn't even think of it being taken that way!

And I probably didn't make my point clear - it's not an occasional viewing - I don't have a problem with that - it's when people consistently view it. The fact they will look at my page every week or with more frequency. Has any other Dominant just come out and asked if there is something they can do for a submissive - I'm at that point now, but I wondered if this was common. If people want to fap to my profile, that's up to them. But if I ask someone who keeps looking at my profile 'Is there something I can do for you?' and that isn't the reason why they are looking, I come across as abrupt or rude, and that is definitely not how I want it taken.

Probably a storm-in-a-teacup, but I thought I'd ask if it is common or not first...

Just a bit of feedback too, if you are interested, but the first two replies I found really abrupt (to the point of being rude) - although, like I said, I perhaps didn't explain my point as well as I could have. People looking at my profile doesnt bother me at all. But when they do it over and over without contacting, I want to ask if they are OK, or if there is something I can do for them. That's all.

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 6:48:35 AM

FantasyKisses

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While I haven't really paroosed the profiles here yet, I also love the art work that some people use for their pictures. I'm a criminal justice student, so because of the touch and go nature and legalities of BDSM, I choose to use my own art work. (I will also start volunteering with the local PDs here as an administrative assistant, so ... uhm ... *cough*). But I have clicked on the profiles of several people just to see the personality that chose an exquisite piece of art or a lovely picture that moved me.

...It's the artist in me...

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 6:49:09 AM

sexyred1

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Here is a novel idea:

Why don't you write to the frequent viewers and ask them?

That would cut down on all the surmising you are doing.

Or, you could just be ok with being viewed.

I am never concerned if someone views my profile, no matter how often.

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 6:57:01 AM

DarkSteven

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If someone looks at my profile, I usually assume they read one of my posts and wanted to see the man behind the posting. If they view me and don't write, I assume they decided not to after reading my profile. No harm, no foul.

That said, there have been a rash over the past two weeks of 18-22 year old women viewing me and not contacting me, who have usernames that are obviously fake and designed to appeal to wankers. I can't give any specific ones, but the fictional UseMeHardDaddy kinda encapsulates the essence. Maybe it's the end of the fiscal quarter in Nigeria and the scammers are trying for an End of Quarter boost in revenues.

< Message edited by DarkSteven -- 8/20/2011 7:04:32 AM >

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 7:01:43 AM

LadyPact

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dreaddom

Has any other Dominant just come out and asked if there is something they can do for a submissive - I'm at that point now, but I wondered if this was common. If people want to fap to my profile, that's up to them. But if I ask someone who keeps looking at my profile 'Is there something I can do for you?'
Probably a storm-in-a-teacup, but I thought I'd ask if it is common or not first...

Well, sure I have. I've been known to drop a note or two saying "I noticed you dropped by" or "was there something you wanted to ask?" Doesn't bother Me a bit and at least half of the time, the person on the other end was glad I said hello.

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 7:07:03 AM

DesFIP

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And some people occasionally just want to see who there is in their area. They don't remember who they looked at and who they didn't, so they just view them all.

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 7:18:04 AM

tj444

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I am a sub not a Dominant, i see who looks at my profile, many times its someone from the forums and i understand that, i look too when someone posts, sometimes its just to see where they are located so i can understand their post better or whatever.

I see doms look but not contact me which is fine, i sorta feel some are doing that to be noticed and get me to read their profile and that i should contact them.. that doesnt work, i rarely email someone that only viewed my profile.

It is the man that picks the girl, the girl does not pick the man, so i leave it to guys to email me if they are interested (although at present i am not really looking)..

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 7:23:08 AM

HannahLynHeather

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quote:

I'm happy with where I am now, so I feel no need to start a conversation...

don't you just love it when some fucker answers their own question and is just too fucking dumb to realize it?

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 7:25:46 AM

rulemylife

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dreaddom

I have noticed something with increasing frequency over the past six months on my account - many submissives and switches are viewing my profile without actually contacting me (that is, sending a message).

How do other Dominants handle this? Or is not important? I realise I'm probably going to get a bunch of different replies, but personally, I find it curious that subs will look without introducing themselves - especially when they continually look at your profile. Any ideas? Will other Dominants take the first step to ask why a submissive keeps looking? I'm happy with where I am now, so I feel no need to start a conversation...

Then why do you have a profile if you don't want people to look at it?

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 7:30:41 AM

rulemylife

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Here is a novel idea:

Why don't you write to the frequent viewers and ask them?

That would cut down on all the surmising you are doing.

Or, you could just be ok with being viewed.

I am never concerned if someone views my profile, no matter how often.

Uh oh.....I just viewed yours.

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 7:33:03 AM

HannahLynHeather

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quote:

It is the man that picks the girl, the girl does not pick the man

you're so full of shit, how many times have you written that you do just the fucking opposite.
come on, a woman gets at least 10 offers every day, i got 4 doing the groceries yesterday. and guess what, while all 4 of them "picked" me - i didn't pick any of them, so they went home and jerked off.

men are like a shotgun, make enough passes at enough women, and one will say yes.

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RE: Random viewings - what to do? - 8/20/2011 7:34:31 AM

sexyred1

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I see. Should I be concerned?

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