slaveluci
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Joined: 3/2/2007 From: Little Rock, AR Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: imperatrixx I'm really starting to become prejudiced. Not against all Christians, but against the really devout ones. I wouldn't consider the super strict, fundamentalist, over-the-edge types more devout at all. More seemingly outrageous, more easily focused upon by the media, more noticable, more unlike "mainstream" folks...yes...but more "devout?' Not at all. quote:
...is what I'm feeling prejudice? I don't like having an automatic disdainful reaction to a group of people, no matter who they are. Sure sounds like it is. You are pre-judging all people you feel fall into a certain category without regard to his/her individual merits or behaviors. That's most definitely a prejudice. I think it's pretty enlightened of you to realize that it's not OK to have that "automatic disdainful reaction" to an entire group of people, no matter who they are. Now, I might make an exception for a group of say convicted chainsaw murdering pedophiles or something but, in general, entire groups of folks labeled by their race, religion, etc. shouldn't be judged as one. I sound like a broken record around here, I know, because I'm always pointing out people's bigotry when they throw around words like "hillbillies," "trailer trash," etc. but would never dream of saying the dreaded "N" word. Hell, you can't even type the "N" word on these boards without it automatically being censored. They same cannot be said of bigoted terms directed toward poor white folks. Some of the same people who would swallow their own tongues before saying a "racist" term will gigglesnort and teehee all over themselves about rednicks, hicks and white trash. It's bigoted. It's disgusting. And, most of all, it's totally hypocrital. With their behaviors and words, they're saying it's OK to be bigoted and ignornant toward CERTAIN folks as long as they're white. It's a huge prejudice and area of bigotry that is not only accepted but encouraged here and in society in general. I personally think most of it comes from those who are a hair's breadth away from their own "hillbilly" upbringing and full of self-loathing. Pitiable indeed. quote:
So the question is - how do you stop prejudice? I always see people talk about stopping prejudice in society, or in other people, but how do you stop it when you feel it growing inside yourself? Because I will be honest - I hate these people. I really do. And that kind of scares me about myself. Noticing and admitting it are the first steps, of course. As someone else mentioned, if at all possible, try to see the people in the group you hate as individuals and realize they are not all exactly alike. See them as individuals, not a faceless mob of people with ideas you hate. Because...after all....it's not the people you hate, I'm assuming, it's the ideas they propose and endorse. I don't hate fundamentalist Christians though I do despise lots of ideas they endorse. I try to see them as sincere people and try to understand WHY they feel and believe the way they do. If you can understand where someone is coming from, it often helps to hate them less. I think it oftentimes seems hopeless to think about changing the mindset of large groups in general, esp. where politics and religion are involved. Therefore, what I do in my own little sphere of influence, is try to reach individuals who vehemently disagree with me and have a peaceful dialogue that can sometimes open both of our minds a bit. The thing you rarely, if ever, see in the media is that normal, everyday people whose opinions are diametrically opposed CAN sit down and have a civil debate without diminishing each other or raging at each other full of hate. All the media ever shows is hateful face-offs and reality has shown me that is not the case. I enjoy sharing my views and hearing views that are totally different from mine as long as I'm not diminished and demeaned for not agreeing. I think they key is to realize you're never going to change the opinions of "fundamentalist Christians in America" as a whole. However, you may have influence on individuals you meet who tend to believe those views. Expecting anything more is setting yourself up for failure. Keeping in mind that it's the epitome of ignorance to ever say/believe that ALL members of ANY group are totally alike is a good start. And refusing to say hateful things about any entire group in general is a good second step. Third, having a sense of empathy can never hurt. Imagine you are a fundamentalist Christian. Someone raised up in a home that taught you to believe (the opposite of everything you now do). Imagine how they feel when faced with the very issues they were taught one thing about but society in general believes something else about. It would be a fearful thing to live with that every day. To me, it all boils down to seeing EVERYONE as not a fundamentalist, a radical, a black person, a white person but just a person with the right to believe as he/she chooses. As much as I may disagree, they disagree with me the same amount. The key is just not to blindly hate but to learn how to interact and rise above the easy route to take which is just to dismiss them........luci
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