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ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ (8/25/2011 8:16:54 AM)
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First, welcome to the discussion side of CM.
Second, I find the highlighted statement below smacks of the kind of stereotypical outlook many of the regular posters here on CM are trying to dispel.
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ORIGINAL: TheRavenous
The MUNCH thinh huh.... *sighs* Yes well this is probably good advice except for the fact that I do not involve myself in BDSM Community affairs. I am not out there exploring things and people in the community. All of my relationships thus far are with submissive women who know nothing about BDSM, this lifestyle as defined here. They are merely loving, doting (AND submissive) moms, soccer moms whatever who live their fantasies privately. Thats the kind of woman I seek. Not someone who regularly attends munches or clubs or proudly shares her lifestyle. I seek a life relationship with one "good girl". Any ideas ? AND THANKS EVERYONE FOR RESPONDING.... I am much obliged.
Just so you know, plenty of people go to munches who are out of the BDSM closet so to speak in very few specific circumstances. Most groups are extremely sensitive to the fact that new members might worry about being outed. Which is why munches are (for the most part) held in public places, specifically state no fetish dress, and members tend to not bombard newbies with tons of questions about full names, personal info, etc, unless and until the person is ready for that. I'm sure, YMMV, but all the groups I have been have been like that.
Also, your second statement implies (1) there is something wrong with being proud of being part of this lifestyle and (2) that females who go to munches and /or are proud of their BDSM involvement are not "good" girls.
Is this really what you intended?
If you truly think that females who knowingly relate to the sub orientation are "bad" and should not be proud of who they are, then I wish you the best of luck in this forum. You're going to need it.
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