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Daddysredhead -> RE: Coping with Double Lives (6/5/2006 8:49:32 PM)
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ORIGINAL: puella
I think it is one thing to sit down with your 80 year old father and say... Yeah so dad... just for your own edification, I am a consensual slave and this guy you think is great in my life... he likes to occasionally take a whip to your daughter, we have wonderful sex afterwords and I am, on more than an occasional basis, chained, blindfolded and used as a slut.
Puella, I read this and almost fell out laughing, but probably not for the reasons you might think. My 81 year old father and I were having a discussion just this evening about BDSM. (OK, now you can pick your jaw up because I didn't use your verbage while talking to him, however, I just kind of mentioned what the triskellion stood for - in very vague D/s (not BD or SM) terms - as I've been considering getting a small tattoo of one.)
However, my dad knows that I am in a Dom/sub relationship (or "traditional" as my father would call it) with my Master (or as my dad calls Him, my "fella"), who is very much a man's man and with whom my father gets along famously. I have told my father that I see my relationship with my "fella" like the relationship that my parents had with each other. (In the way that Sabella describes in her post in this thread.) My father tells me often that he loved taking care of my mother and taking on the responsibility of being the head of the house, and in return, my mother took care of and adored my father and made sure that he knew he was loved and appreciated by her. My father tells me that he sees me at my happiest in this relationship and thinks that the pre-established roles Master and I have are probably the reason for that happiness as there's never a power-struggle.
Master and I have minor children, so we can't be as open as those without kids, but a lot of our friends know, including some of our vanilla friends. Some think it's interesting and others are just secretly curious about wiitwd. I joke a lot about spanking people who annoy me, so I have my own little "secret" - it's just funnier when Master is there to share the secret code with me.
Growing up in a sexually uptight family, I fancy myself the one who can just be a little "out there" and call a spade a spade (although respectfully). Before my mother passed away, I used to be able to tell her slightly risquee jokes and make her giggle. It was very sweet and just so funny to hear her say, "Awww! You're bad!" and giggle.
I don't think it's necessarily a double life, but not everyone I know needs to know all my business. And by the way, my father likes the triskellion symbol for my next tattoo! I hope I'm that cool when I'm 81!!! [:)]
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