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marieToo -> RE: A Most Curious Phenomenon (5/21/2006 6:34:01 PM)
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Puella:
I agree with the person who suggested that perhaps your own behaviors and attitude are what is causing the effect that you have noticed in your boss and other men in your life. I wanted to add to that, the fact that you were recently released may be what is driving you to draw it from others, as a way of securing a dose of what you most likely miss very much at this point. Just a thought, though I do not know your personal situation.
In my own experience I have found that some how, some way, our minds work in such a way that we manage to always get enough of what we need to sustain us. If we need or want to feel helpful, submissive, subservient (or whatever), and are not owned, sometimes we do so with those who are not necessarily lovers. It is at those times that we sometimes allow the submission to surface with those we never imagined sharing it with, and it sometimes takes a form that is new and unfamiliar to us.
I can remember about 20 years ago having a similar relationship with a boss. He was so kind and so easy going and I can recall feeling rather submissive to him, mostly because he was such a nice person and not at all demanding of me. The less demanding he was, the more I gave. And in time, he began to exude a certain dominance that just flowed so well with what was eminating from me. It was such a beautiful and subtle thing that it is almost impossible for me to describe. There was no sexual attraction between us. It was strictly professional, yet it worked so well for us. In fact, it was before I even knew there was a word for our "types", and I don't think he had a clue either. Its just odd how we manage to sniff out our opposite counterparts and draw from them what we need, while feeding back to them what fills them up. I would bask in it if I were you and enjoy the harmony that you're in with those around you. It is my belief that not all Ds relationships are sexual or even highly personal. Sometimes it just clicks in with certain people; I have found these relationships to be the most special and the most memorable of my life.
Regards,
marie (aka collarquest)
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