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RE: Publicly discussing relationship with others before... - 9/1/2011 6:50:02 AM

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I have this cousin and she joined this website and she likes this guy but he doesnt give her attention so she wants to know what she should do? She tried talking to him but he ignored her so she started fretting and doesnt want to stalk him. Can anyone help out my cousin ;P

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RE: Publicly discussing relationship with others before... - 9/1/2011 8:34:20 AM

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How would you feel if someone you were involved with, publicly discussed a relationship issue with others before they discussed it with you or even let you know there was an issue?

that i had failed to make myself sufficiently approachable to make my partner feel they could come to me with any issue at all.

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What do you think would motivate someone talking about your relationship with others before you and what effect do you think it would have on you, your relationship and your view of one another?

stupid fucking question. why? they want to talk about it but not with you. duh!

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Would you have a problem with this?

yes, see the first answer.

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RE: Publicly discussing relationship with others before... - 9/1/2011 9:28:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: heartcream

I have this cousin and she joined this website and she likes this guy but he doesnt give her attention so she wants to know what she should do? She tried talking to him but he ignored her so she started fretting and doesnt want to stalk him. Can anyone help out my cousin ;P

Tell your "cousin" to stop getting so invested in an online relationship and go outside to meet some people. Best way to get over someone is to meet someone else.

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RE: Publicly discussing relationship with others before... - 9/1/2011 10:01:16 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lockit with added A) B) and C)

A) How would you feel if someone you were involved with, publicly discussed a relationship issue with others before they discussed it with you or even let you know there was an issue?

B) What do you think would motivate someone talking about your relationship with others before you and what effect do you think it would have on you, your relationship and your view of one another?

C) Would you have a problem with this?

A) I'd probably feel like Hannah...... * that I hadn't been sufficiently approachable*. Or, to put that in context of M and I, that I was causing quite a significant problem that he didn't feel able to talk to me about.

B) Similarly to Hannah's response, that *he clearly wanted to talk, but not to me.*
I can only make a guess on how I'd feel, as I've no experience of it with M. Probably disappointment in myself, maybe a tinge of hurt from lack of respect and loyalty regarding my feelings on this type of thing (I'm very anal about what I share about ME)

C) Very much so. But I'm not sure what the problem would be.

Having never been in the position I'm only speculating, and I know very well from experience, that how I THINK I'll feel, most often, is not how I DO feel, if imagined circumstances occur.

Pigs would have wings before M discussed me, or *us*, with anyone, in any way. I however DO, with ONE person. I can moan and groan to my heart's content to her about all manner of dross.This works perfectly well as I'm the emotional one and M is pure logic.

Publically, there's not a chance that either of us would. The loyalty aspect would be kicked to fuck if either of us did so. We are both in absolute accord here.

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RE: Publicly discussing relationship with others before... - 9/1/2011 11:24:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: Endivius

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ORIGINAL: heartcream

I have this cousin and she joined this website and she likes this guy but he doesnt give her attention so she wants to know what she should do? She tried talking to him but he ignored her so she started fretting and doesnt want to stalk him. Can anyone help out my cousin ;P

Tell your "cousin" to stop getting so invested in an online relationship and go outside to meet some people. Best way to get over someone is to meet someone else.

But her Master/Sir/Daddy/Dom promised to love her to the ends of the Earth and then He dumped her! She is so upset she wont stop eating donuts! I tried to talk to her but she is very stubborn. I am going to go over there and take her out of her vale of tears and take her to a park! Thank you for the advice you gave me, unm I mean my cousin, yeah my cousin! I will introduce her to people in the park!

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RE: Publicly discussing relationship with others before... - 9/1/2011 2:27:29 PM

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