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Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 11:24:59 AM   
KeresByNight


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Status: offline 		I am married and currently submissive to my husband. This is the only person I will ever be submissive to. For many years I have fantasized about fucking a woman. But, when I think about a woman I look at myself in a dominant position. (I tell her what to do and she does it......no questions asked.) I constantly have reoccurring fantasies/dreams whatever you may call it of me fucking a woman with a strap-on and getting her to the point of orgasm, but with such a curiosity for eating pussy I want to make her squirt. I am not looking for something quick and easy because if I get my hands on another woman I am going to enjoy every minute of it and since I will be the one in control, one orgasm just isn't going to cut it. I want to make a girl cum as many times as it is possible.

Now it seems that from what I have stated, that I am more of a pleaser than receiver. This is true in some forms, but don't get me wrong I expect the same in return. I have always felt to be a more dominant person than submissive, but the opportunity has never been presented for me to express those feelings outward. Just as a reminder I have NEVER been with a woman. A majority of my life I have wanted to be with another woman. I have never wanted a relationship with another woman, as I love the dick I have. But that doesn't mean that there is not room for me to express my sexual and dominant feelings for a woman. I am currently on this site to look not only for submissive women to satisfy my fantasies online and in real-life, but also to learn from other dommes what it takes in owning the title of a dominant woman over a female.

I have read a few forums and seen many dommes state that it comes naturally and if this is the case I have it, but have not been able to express it. One piece of advice I am seeking from a domme is "Should I be searching and starting the conversation with a submissive woman or should I let them come to me?" I am ready and willing and want to get this started and I am getting impatient . But I want my sub to know that I am in control. So at this point any advice is welcome. Also would love to hear from people willing to share their first sexual experiences as domme. Very curious...
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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 11:32:07 AM   
Hillwilliam


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First and foremost. You are looking for the proverbial unicorn. I'm not saying they don't exist but it's not going to be easy. Hell, what is easy that's worthwhile anyway?

Secondly though. You're cute as hell so that will make things easier.

Don't be impatient. It will probably take a while. You need to approach people but be open to being approached yourself. You will almost definitely have to make the first move. There are bazillions of couples out there looking for a pretty fem sub to join them and not that many pretty fem subs.
Start by doing a search on the other side and look for single ladies nearby who are looking for Dom/Domme couples.
I'm not familiar with your area of TX but unless you're in east bumfuck, I bet there is a munch group nearby. Go and get to know folks.

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 11:45:53 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I'll skip the first sexual experience as a Domme part, thanks.

I do think that Hill's advice is rather good.  While I'm not seeing anything in your post that suggests that the submissive that you seek would be submissive to both of you, I think you are still looking for a very unique fit.  It's still poly by extension because whoever you get involved with will have to accept that you do have your relationship with your husband to consider.  Also, you will have to find someone who can wrap their head around the fact that, even though you are Dominant to her, you are still submissive to your husband, and not everyone out there can handle being with a switch.

I would recommend that you do the pursuing.  It's not a situation where you are going to be able to sit back and wait for contacts to come to you.  The category of women that you are seeking are in very high demand and get flooded with offers on a regular basis.  I'd also suggest crafting your profile with what it is exactly that you are looking for (meaning a fling, a poly household, a dynamic, etc) so that when you do contact people, they can see if it is what they are interested in as well.

As a poly person Myself, I'm a rather firm believer that you should skip contacting anyone who specifically mentions monogamy anywhere in their profile.  To Me, that's just being polite.

Best of luck to you in finding what you are looking for.


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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 11:51:35 AM   
Endivius


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Status: offline 		For starters, focus less on what you want, and more on what you bring to the table. There's nothing wrong with knowing what you want, but keep in mind that your unicorn is a woman too, she needs to know who you are before she'll even consider going further. Second, hit up the poly threads, there's good info there. Make use of the search tool to find all you can on Unicorns and Building a Poly Home. Even if you are simply looking for someone to sport fuck, you will get a lot of good information in these threads. Finally, if you do find a unicorn that suites you, make sure you are clear about boundaries, how you expect the relationship to progress, and listen to her and communicate with her. No matter what you expect to get out of it, she is a part of this puzzle and you cannot achieve what you want without her. Good Luck.

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 12:03:35 PM   
poise


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Status: offline 		It would also be beneficial to your search if your wants are reflected correctly on your husbands profile.
Currently, his states you wish to experience being submissive to women. Best of luck!


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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 12:05:40 PM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		Don't feed the trolls. Are you kidding me??? How do I find someone to have sex with!! fucking DUH You do it the way ppl have been doing it for thousands of years you pay for it. SHEESH

BadOne

< Message edited by SailingBum -- 9/1/2011 12:07:17 PM >

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 12:20:34 PM   
MissImmortalPain


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Don't feed the trolls. Are you kidding me??? How do I find someone to have sex with!! fucking DUH You do it the way ppl have been doing it for thousands of years you pay for it. SHEESH

BadOne


Thank you, SailingBum. I am so happy someone said this before I did. And I might get slapped by a mod for saying this but if anyone is up for a gamble I would be willing to bet that both those profiles were written by the same man.

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 12:31:05 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I confess I have never had a hard time finding sexual adventures, in the years that I want them. When I was young and hot? Simpler still.

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 1:21:40 PM   
Arpig


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Status: offline 		You're young, hot, and bi.  And you are having trouble getting sex????

Check out the Poly forum on here, there's a lot of advice on how to find a 2nd partner.


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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 3:52:38 PM   
SailingBum


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain


quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Don't feed the trolls. Are you kidding me??? How do I find someone to have sex with!! fucking DUH You do it the way ppl have been doing it for thousands of years you pay for it. SHEESH

BadOne


Thank you, SailingBum. I am so happy someone said this before I did. And I might get slapped by a mod for saying this but if anyone is up for a gamble I would be willing to bet that both those profiles were written by the same man.


Just doing my public service ..Tips my hat. I venture to say were this post written by a guy nobody would have taken him seriously. But you know what they say "there is one born every minute smirkle.

BadOne


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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 4:17:45 PM   
sunshinemiss


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Don't feed the trolls. Are you kidding me??? How do I find someone to have sex with!! fucking DUH You do it the way ppl have been doing it for thousands of years you pay for it. SHEESH

BadOne


Bring that wallet of yours over to Korea, hot stuff!  Heck forget the wallet, just bring your sexy self here and I'll show you a good time. 

You know you want to.  :)


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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 5:57:25 PM   
KeresByNight


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Status: offline 		@ Hillwilliam
I agree with your comment of finding something worthwhile is not going to be easy. I guess out here in Texas it just seems that way. I am originally from Illinois and people were NOT very open about their sexuality. When I moved here that was a different story. Me and my husband have been on this site before mainly so that I could learn more about this lifestyle, but I have not been on in awhile. It seems things have changed up a bit. Any ways....Thanks for the compliment. I think that a munch group would be pretty neat to experience, thanks for the advice and not bashing on me like a majority of the people on here.

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 6:05:58 PM   
KeresByNight


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Status: offline 		Hello LadyPact,
First off thank you for the response. The reasoning for me not suggesting that the person be submissive to me and my husband is because I am looking for me at this point in time. I am not ready to introduce another female into our relationship.... :/ That may not sound like it makes sense but to each their own right? Thank you for pointing out the fact that the person that I get involved with will have to accept that I already have a relationship with my husband and that this will be a big factor, I previously thought about this, and I guess that explains why Hill mentioned that I am looking for a "proverbial unicorn" as this may be harder for me to come by than I had originally thought. Thank you for the suggestion of polishing up my profile a bit to be more exact on what I am looking for, this will help me find someone with common interest or at the least explain my situation a bit more. Thanks for the last tip as I have made sure not to be rude to those who are not looking for the same thing that I am. Its a waste of time for me and that person.
Appreciate the feedback and for not being so judgmental as the other people on here. :/

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 6:10:56 PM   
KeresByNight


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Status: offline 		Hi Endivius,
Appreciate the help on what threads to read up on. Hopefully this will help clear up a bit for me. My husband has taught me a lot about communication. I have always been an open book about a lot of things and if and when I do find someone I will be just the same. Thank you for your response.

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 6:12:03 PM   
KeresByNight


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Status: offline 		@ Poise
Thank you for pointing this out I had noticed this earlier and we have changed this information. Thanks for the response.

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 6:18:54 PM   
KeresByNight


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Status: offline 		@ Sailingbum
I have more morals in life than to pay for sex. If that is your way of obtaining sex than so be it, but its not for me. Thank you. If trying to find someone who has common interest and is willing to share an experience with me is called "being a troll" than I am guilty as charged. But last time I heard that was not the case. I am not a troll believe it or not that is my pretty snatch after having two beautiful kids and pretty decent body i must say so don't be so hateful. I am new to this and it seems like no one understands that or does not have the patients for new people on this site, which is sad. Everyone had to start at one point in their life. Its people like you that knock them down to giving up. Thanks for being interested in what I have to say tho. You took the time out of your day to read this so obviously it was worth the time it took for me to write it.

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 6:21:43 PM   
KeresByNight


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Status: offline 		MissImmortalPain,
Gamble away if that is your thing, but I am more than willing to prove that I am not a troll. So lemme know when the bets get high because i could use some extra cash.

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 6:24:23 PM   
KeresByNight


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Status: offline 		Hi LadyHibiscus,
This is my first time finding a sexual adventure with another woman, I guess maybe i'm not doing enough. That's why I was asking for some advice. But so far I've gotten some good tips so I'm gunna fly with that. Appreciate the post. Hopefully I will be able to say the same soon.

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 6:27:23 PM   
KeresByNight


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Status: offline 		Arpig,
Thanks for the compliments! This is the first site that I have attempted to look on for another female. I guess I am mainly on here for advice n such and to learn more. From what I have been told its better to look around in my area rather than on the internet. Makes sense but just thought id give it a try. I will be checking out the poly forum on here thank you very much for the post!

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RE: Looking for a Submissive Woman to Fulfill my Fantasies - 9/1/2011 6:29:20 PM   
KeresByNight


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Status: offline 		Sunshinemiss,
First off thank you....you made me smile in which after the previous few posts I needed. Unfortunately I do not believe that I will ever be able to afford a trip to Korea but if I ever do ill make sure to look ya up!

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