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Is this the site for me? - 9/1/2011 1:51:51 PM

newuksub

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Hello fellow members I'm totally new to the scene and looking to explore my submissive side with a dominant women. I'm pretty shy and overwhelmed on where to start trying to work out if I really would enjoy being under the control of another person. Any advice or guidance would be gratefully accepted I'm not sure if this is the site a newbie should be on but everyones gotta start somewhere right?

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RE: Is this the site for me? - 9/1/2011 1:52:58 PM

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go down to ask a mistress forum, read the FAQ, and believe the shit outta it.

Run silent run deep until you memorize it and abide by it.

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RE: Is this the site for me? - 9/1/2011 1:57:53 PM

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And if you don't mind me adding something. Get rid of the picture that is at the moment your avatar. Your post says you aren't even sure if this is right for me but your picture says own me.You need to make sure as you go further with this that you make what you want as clear to others as you can so that no one misunderstands things. Good luck.

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RE: Is this the site for me? - 9/1/2011 2:01:39 PM

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Welcome to the forums.

I'd like to echo what both Ron and MIP said. If you're currently dealing with a Dominant woman, unless she knows that you are looking for another Dominant, she may not be very happy that you are looking for someone to own you.

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RE: Is this the site for me? - 9/1/2011 2:11:17 PM

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Thanks for the advice ask a mistress was my next port of call as seems like the logical place to learn a bit more.

You're right about the avatar too it seemed like a good idea to show a bit of willing and fit in with this site but I suppose it just shows my naivete I shall change it to something a bit less over the top.

Ladypact I think one dominant at a time at this point I don't want to run before I can walk

it would be a pretty faithless move to go behind the back of a mistress no matter at what stage I'm at.

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RE: Is this the site for me? - 9/1/2011 2:40:19 PM

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Welcome To CM

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RE: Is this the site for me? - 9/1/2011 3:47:04 PM

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Welcome to CM. Lots to take in.

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RE: Is this the site for me? - 9/2/2011 8:23:40 AM

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Welcome!

Once you've had a chance to look around cm and think a little more, the next step would be to go to a munch. This is a vanilla meeting of like-minded folk which would help you to make friends, ask questions and maybe explore a little more. You will not be expected to 'act submissive' or do anything other than chat to people.

Then head on over to fetlife.com and search for munches in your area.

Good luck!

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RE: Is this the site for me? - 9/2/2011 8:42:51 AM

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Hi there, welcome.

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RE: Is this the site for me? - 9/2/2011 1:17:11 PM

newuksub

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Thanks for the welcome guys and the advice I've seen people mention munches but didn't really know what they were. I guess at some point soon I should check to see if there is a local one for plymouth and pluck up the courage to attend.

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RE: Is this the site for me? - 9/2/2011 2:11:36 PM

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Welcome to CM and the boards.

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the next step would be to go to a munch. This is a vanilla meeting of like-minded folk which would help you to make friends, ask questions and maybe explore a little more. You will not be expected to 'act submissive' or do anything other than chat to people.

As quoted by da Bunny in a post up above. That's what a munch is. Usually in a restaurant or bar, no fetish wear, just casual and comfortable where you can meet like-minded people and possibly make friends and connections. Good luck.

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