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Mercnbeth -> RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? (10/18/2004 10:02:41 AM)
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poolman,
Like every other prop or implement used in a lifestyle relationship, a cage serves it's purpose. Before appreciating what purpose it has, you have to understand the goal of the person who lists it in their profile. The problem with Collarme profiles is that unless the poster goes into more detail in their narrative they are basically just clicking from a list concepts, sensations, or ideas that interest them. There is no way of telling whether it is a true desire, a passion, or a "hey, I'd like to try that". The particular menu item for caging only has the option of 'being kept in a cage at all times'. So anyone with any level of interest in that activity has no choice but to pick that one option.
The easy part of your question; any confining space will do. I have seen anything from the space under the bed, a closet, storage space under steps (our house has this), to wood or even iron and/or steel custom cages (VERY EXPENSIVE). And yes, the large animal transport cages also work.
The "why", as with most "whys" is more complex an answer. I'll address it from my pet theory about a distinction between lifestyle activities; sensation or the physical, versus mental. Think of these two positions as the vertical and horizontal points on a graph. An example of purely physical would be a person who craves a spanking or craves giving a spanking or some other physical sensation purely for the physical sensation of it. They don't involve any role play or costume, they don't need or want anything but the sensation. I image an exclusively on-line relationship as purely mental, excluding for reference purposes self abusers at one end of the keyboard of the other. But I've also witnessed many deep real life D/s relationships that involved little or no physical sensation, involving nothing more then the mind play.
Plotting where a cage falls on the curve, I'd say it's about 1/3 up the line for sensation and 2/3 or higher in the mental. It provides the physical sensations of hearing the door close and lock and knowing you can not control when you'll be let out. It restricts movement which depending on the size and duration can be painful. Long term confinement may also involve eating from bowls or even denied toilet facilities, both on the border between the physical and mental.
How the cage is used in the relationship dictates whether it is punishment or something else. And the same cage can function as both. For example, when beth and I attend our favorite club, I've often but her into a cage as part of the 'aftercare' subsequent to a long involved physical sensation. After holding and comforting her for a while, I may want to socialize. she is often drained and finds safety and peacefulness within the cage, wrapped in a blanket. It's one of the reasons we want one for our home dungeon.
As far as 24/7 goes, no slave, even those such as beth and I who consider ourselves living 24/7, is really USED 24/7. The practical is we exist by rules in force 24/7. The concept is she CAN be used anytime / place I desire. Having a cage always physically present reminds you that it always CAN be used. I would guess that is what people have in mind when they list "being caged at all times".
Mentally and physically the cage can be used in variety of ways, punishment, forced isolation, humiliation, part of pet play, to name a few. Like a flogger in the hands of someone who knows how to use it, it can be painful or soothing.
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And what kind of pleasure is it supposed to give me?
As strange as this may sound to you, not every lifestyle activity is geared for exclusive dom/master pleasure. Successful relationships, vanilla or flavored, never work one sided. There is great power and trust needed to cage somebody. But if you derive no pleasure from that mental concept, don't venture down that path. But I'd challenge it by asking, what direct pleasure do you anticipate getting from using a flogger, clips, whip, paddle or any other prop?
Merc
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