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AcademyForSlaves -> Best Kink Sex Partners (9/3/2011 3:14:53 PM)

Hello,

After being in the bdsm scene for so many years I have come to realize which partners are best for Me and why. This obviously is helpful in not wasting anyone's time, including My own. For example, I love a partner who is more giving and loves to serve and please.

What do you look for most in a partner and why?



Endivius -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/3/2011 3:25:40 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

Hello,

After being in the bdsm scene for so many years I have come to realize which partners are best for Me and why. This obviously is helpful in not wasting anyone's time, including My own. For example, I love a partner who is more giving and loves to serve and please.

What do you look for most in a partner and why?



Well she has to be female, breathing, within 15 years of my age, and speak a language I know. and the why is obvious, I suck at pantomime.



Termyn8or -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/3/2011 3:27:46 PM)

Picky picky picky. LOL

T^T



Kaliko -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/3/2011 5:40:18 PM)

Clean-shaven balls.



Yep. That's about it.




littlewonder -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/3/2011 6:27:50 PM)

One who physically and mentally attracted me and wanted the same things as me in life....love, a long term relationship, simliar morals, values, etc...kink came in dead last for me.





agirl -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/3/2011 7:00:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

Hello,

After being in the bdsm scene for so many years I have come to realize which partners are best for Me and why. This obviously is helpful in not wasting anyone's time, including My own. For example, I love a partner who is more giving and loves to serve and please.

What do you look for most in a partner and why?


I've never looked for one so couldn't really say.

agirl

eta. That wasn't helpful so......... The few partners I've had have had one thing in common.....some kind of integrity and were very loyal men. So, despite never having looked, perhaps I ended up with them because of that.



StrongSpirit -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/3/2011 7:15:50 PM)

With these lists, I always make two version.
Must haves and Nice to Have.

As I get older, Must gets shorter and Nice gets longer.

I expect that before I die, Must will become "live female"



Epytropos -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/3/2011 7:54:49 PM)

If it's just sex? All I 'require' is someone I'm attracted to. Varying proclivities and quirks make for an interesting experience, which is all I ask from sex - it definitely tends to be better with someone who shares my kinks (or at least is willing to suffer them with grace) and is either utterly submissive or violently combative. Anything in between becomes irritating for some reason - if we both walk away bleeding and sore that's exhilarating, and if she does everything I say without question that's satisfying, but a moderate amount of resistance just irritates me. It doesn't ruin the experience necessarily, but it certainly takes away from it.

In terms of physical, tits big enough to play with, hair long enough to pull, and sufficient flexibility to get into interesting positions are all a plus. Expressive eyes are very important.

In the end, though, much of it comes down to a compatibility of spirit. Thinking back on the best I've had, they weren't the best because they fit all my tidy qualifications, but because there was chemistry, trust, and compatibility between us. Even between strangers, sex is as much expression as anything. Even if what you're expressing is hatred, the ability to express things between the two of you if quite important.



myotherself -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/3/2011 11:05:57 PM)

my "must haves" list has actually grown in length since my 20s and 30s.

There needs to be compatible morals, intellect and interests. There should also be mutual attraction and the desire for a monogamous love-based relationship.

But he MUST also be an alpha male with an enjoyment of things sadistic. This last bit is what was missing from my relationships in my 20s and early 30s, and the reason I was celibate for so many years before discovering the wonderful world of pain, pleasure and control.

Without bdsm, I will not have a relationship. It would not be fair on my partner.



HannahLynHeather -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/4/2011 12:28:12 AM)

love. if we don't love each other then i am not interested. fuck play, we don't play, we don't do scenes. we make love - it's just a nasty fucking kind of love.



sunshinemiss -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/4/2011 5:42:38 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

Hello,

After being in the bdsm scene for so many years I have come to realize which partners are best for Me and why. This obviously is helpful in not wasting anyone's time, including My own. For example, I love a partner who is more giving and loves to serve and please.

What do you look for most in a partner and why?


Hey Rochsub - it would seem we have an answer!  We were oh so wrong evidently.  Ah well, it happens.  At least we are each in good company.

/end hijack.



AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/10/2011 8:52:39 PM)

I agree, My list of must haves has increased since My early 20's. I now have a much better idea of what I prefer and require in a kinky partner, slave, etc. However, I do notice it comes down to one main requirement; that my sub must be willing and wanting to serve and please Me. I love a subservient sub who likes to please.



ProlificNeeds -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/10/2011 9:00:36 PM)

Per the handle I use, I'm extreamly picky. I just date movie stars and fictional characters in my own mind, it works out great, I win every fight, and reality is never an issue!

If I had to narrow down the 'must have' from the 'nice to haves' it would probably be humor. If our sweaty flesh makes some crazy fart noise on impact in a weird position in the middle of screwing, I have to have someone who won't be upset if I break out into hysterical laughter. It's happened.



NocturnalStalker -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/10/2011 9:11:06 PM)

I mostly seek the bare minimum expectancies a relationship brings (loyalty to one another, openness, etc.) but with the addition that on Thursdays I am allowed to make her into my sexual mannequin. 

Then I get greedy and request it nightly and get dumped for being too sexual.  The bad guy never wins! 



IrishMist -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/11/2011 9:06:34 AM)

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What do you look for most in a partner and why?

Surpressed violence. It's the violence that I crave more than anything,



sexyred1 -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/11/2011 9:16:41 AM)

I could have great kinky sex with someone I am attracted to who likes the same kind of kinky sex. That would be the simplistic answer.

However, for me now and moving forward, kink is dead last in what I am seeking.

Connecting on all the other important levels comes first; I need the mental, emotional and trust connection before anything else.

It is easy to have kinky sex; it is far more difficult to find a person who is compatible as a human being and partner.



Tantriqu -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/11/2011 9:45:58 AM)

He must be straight, sngle and available, and please me intellectually and emotionally before I'll be interested in him in any other way. I have to laugh and chat with him at a coffee shop on Friday night and he has to be polite but firm with the waitstaff and help a little old couple carry their beverages before bedsports on Saturday morning are going to be any fun.
Sexually he must love to be touched, and must love to please orally in every sense. Kneeling naked and blindfolded and begging are highly desirable in a good man, as are a cute ass dancing on a strapon and a breast fixation, specifically on mine.



Kana -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/12/2011 7:04:06 AM)

 
quote:

ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

Hello,

After being in the bdsm scene for so many years I have come to realize which partners are best for Me and why. This obviously is helpful in not wasting anyone's time, including My own. For example, I love a partner who is more giving and loves to serve and please.

What do you look for most in a partner and why?


Hummers.
Cripes. As if there could be any other #1 answer.
And oh yes. She has to have a nice part in her hair. I'm gonna be planning on spending a lot of time examining it while she's on her knees sucking.



xssve -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/12/2011 8:53:26 AM)

Playful, adventurous, someone who can listen as well as talk, but that's pretty much what I look for in any interpersonal relationship, if you can't communicate - and that's a Two way street - you'll end up butting heads, invariably.



HypnotistDom -> RE: Best Kink Sex Partners (9/12/2011 9:21:52 AM)


This thread is entitled: The Best Kink Sex Partners.
Then goes on to ask: What do you look for most in a partner and why?

And my answer reflects that title.  Sex partners are different than other kinds partners and the sex partner aspect of someone may be quite different than other of their aspects.
I have found such a wide range of attributes to potential sex partners, but the very best kink sex partners are those who can open up to who they really are, whose basic drive for sex is jacked into their kinky desires.  Some have only become aware of this while we were in the throes of  having sex, though, lol.

"Know Thyself" 
Inscription over the entrance of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi.



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