xssve -> RE: Screw the Roses.... (9/9/2011 8:48:16 AM)
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ORIGINAL: crazyml quote:
ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth aaaaand this thread is completely fucked. I wish a Mod would come along and clean/lock it. Sigh. Does this site have Mods anymore? Gosh. I don't think so, honestly I'm fed up. I wish people would just start another thread referencing the comment that inspired it. Well, having skipped most of the thread and the usual diversions, I'd say the flip side is the whole "more extreme than thou" ethic, which often, in my mind, completely misses the point that people do this strictly for reasons of personal gratification, so do whatever it is you find gratifying. Anytime you get into the extreme stuff however, you do run the risk of encouraging the inexperienced - you don't want inexperienced people skydiving or mountain climbing or boxing, and any books on these subjects will usually advise you to start small and learn the ropes, rather than just jump out of the next airplane. In this case, the bar is pretty low, you don't need and airplane, you just need another person and a few hours of free time. Some people know where to draw the line and can jump right in, others may lack common sense or have other issues, and you don't want to encourage doing anything to anybody and calling it "BDSM", or every abusive child molester and rapist in the world is going to start using it as an blanket excuse for violent/antisocial/abusive behavior - that's what religion is for. It's really a bit of conundrum, the act of giving and taking abuse, without it actually devolving into something ugly, dysfunctional and abusive.
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