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ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Big difference between master and mistresses looking for slaves (9/7/2011 3:05:51 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ummmmNo
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ORIGINAL: Zonie63
I agree with most of the comments in this thread. FWIW, I'm not a freeloader, and in previous live-in situations, I've paid my own way, as well as doing most of the housework and yardwork. In any case, if I was with someone I loved and cared about, the last thing I'd want to be is a financial burden (or a burden of any kind).
However, I can sort of understand the frustration in the context of a personals site where the participants are ostensibly looking for like-minded companions and friends for social contacts and possibly to pursue a relationship. (This is no reflection on the message board participants, as I realize the message board is different from the profile side. Right now, my profile says "under construction" because I'm not actually looking at the moment. But I still like the boards and like to lurk and post on occasion.)
But I can partially understand the OP's complaint, at least in noticing the same familiar pattern when one browses through the profiles. Obviously, money is a practical concern, and it's certainly going to come up at some point after one makes initial contact. But when it's brought up right off the bat in a personal ad, it might be considered analogous to a man posting an ad with pictures of his member. It seems unnecessarily crass.
One possible solution to the problem might be to separate (or eliminate) any ads which indicate that they're strictly here for commercial purposes.
In my mind, what is personal should be separated from what is business, and it seems to me that allowing business ads in a free personals site kind of defeats the whole purpose. Especially since these business owners are getting free advertising. I would never judge what people do for a living or how they earn their daily bread, but business is business.
You I like.
You aren't whining, you are just pointing out an issue with the fact that many proDommes are using this site, instead of Dommes who are looking for relationships. I can see how that is frustrating.
You get the big boy chair and a hug. [sm=banana.gif]
I agree. It's true, there are many scammers pretending to be prodommes. (I have no issue with professional dommes, they earn their money), to the point where now I think on this site, a prodomme is assumed to be a scammer. (Well, see above.)
But (no, I do not have a big butt), there are also many many porn addled male subs who think all fem dommes should be little more than fetish delivery devices. Weeding them out from the male subs who have managed to pull their heads out of their asses is not all that easy, either.
If you are looking for a male dom or a female sub or, whatever, having to weed out the wheat from the chaff is a struggle. You can whine about it, or realize, like I do, how wonderful it is that there are so many newbies w/o a clue. It means BDSM is moving more and more into the mainstream. Since I remember back in the day when you had to know the secret handshake to even talk about BDSM, I have to think it's an improvement.
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