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amayos -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/23/2006 8:13:09 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Vendaval

[:D](starts humming...)
"An erotic funeral, for which she's dressed..."


Oh yes. Sing it, baby.




LadiesBladewing -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/23/2006 4:19:55 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

Wouldn't this thread have been more appropriate and more comfortable on the Gor board?  Why borrow trouble? 


One very -good- reason that I can think of is that there are probably people who aren't interested in the dominant male/submissive female dynamic that is predominant on Gor, who -might- be interested in something that is as carefully structured but doesn't have the social boundaries on which the world of Gor is based.

I am a good example of this. SR and I had an outstanding experience during our time as a Gorean household. We had a male head-of-household who respected not only his Free Companion (SR), but who also respected the talents and evoked great dedication and loyalty from his kajira (female servants) and kajirus (male servants). Any one of the members of our household would have laid down our lives for him, or traded places and died in his place if we could have, when he was taken in an accident.

When he died, the House was left without a male head-of-household. Because I am an author myself, I profoundly respect the author's work, and tend to avoid trying to 'rearrange' an author's work to fit the places where I have diverged from his or her philosophies. SR has also seen the work that goes into authoring fiction, as well has having written no small number of peer-reviewed articles in non-fiction of her own, so she, too, was not comfortable with trying to continue in a framework of calling ourselves "Gorean", when we did not fit John Norman's profile of what Gor was.

Having the opportunity to explore a philosophy, expressed in story form, that would give a name to the way that we prefer to live, and yet is not bound by the philosophical divergence that keeps us from accurately portraying Gorean philosophy would be interesting to us -- and before people get all nit-picky about using a 'fantasy' to define philosophy, we are not asking people to do this against their will... only if they are called to it. In addition, if anyone practices religion of any sort, it is most likely that the founder, leader, or person being looked to, and the sacred books used in that religion, use fantasy stories (called fables, parables, etc.) to teach the philosophies and moral lessons advocated within that context. With that in mind, over 90% of the human race looks to fiction, fantasies and stories to define their philosophy and tell them how to live.

This being said, if Loki or any others wish to contact me on the other side, I would be interested in exploring a Gulf Coast Tower.

Zephyr




IronBear -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/23/2006 4:47:40 PM)

Personally I'm all for this.. It could just be what a few people who for wnat ever reasonare not drawn to the Goran Lifestyle can click with. Postingto the Gorean Forum would miss too many people and it would be somewhat pointless in that respect.... Good on you Loki mate go for it!!!!




Wulfchyld -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/23/2006 5:23:44 PM)

Thank you LadiesB and IB, I appreciate both of your posts very much.  

I would like to point out that thus far there are three Towers in the works, New York, Cali, and the Gulf Coast, all with Matrons founding them. There must be something worth the look for such support.




Vendaval -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/24/2006 5:41:30 PM)

Greetings A/all,
 
The West Coast/California Tower of the Bry Klashaan
is now open for membership.  E-mail Me on the other
side and take a look at the new Web-site, http://www.klashaan.org
 
Yours in Kink,
 
Vendaval Lazuli
 
 




Chaingang -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/24/2006 6:58:04 PM)

It seems to me that the Gorean Forums shoud be renamed "Fantasy Role Play Forums" and this thread should then go there. Maybe each should then have its own sub-forum.

Just a thought...




feastie -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/24/2006 7:16:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadiesBladewing


quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

Wouldn't this thread have been more appropriate and more comfortable on the Gor board?  Why borrow trouble? 


One very -good- reason that I can think of is that there are probably people who aren't interested in the dominant male/submissive female dynamic that is predominant on Gor, who -might- be interested in something that is as carefully structured but doesn't have the social boundaries on which the world of Gor is based.

I am a good example of this. SR and I had an outstanding experience during our time as a Gorean household. We had a male head-of-household who respected not only his Free Companion (SR), but who also respected the talents and evoked great dedication and loyalty from his kajira (female servants) and kajirus (male servants). Any one of the members of our household would have laid down our lives for him, or traded places and died in his place if we could have, when he was taken in an accident.

When he died, the House was left without a male head-of-household. Because I am an author myself, I profoundly respect the author's work, and tend to avoid trying to 'rearrange' an author's work to fit the places where I have diverged from his or her philosophies. SR has also seen the work that goes into authoring fiction, as well has having written no small number of peer-reviewed articles in non-fiction of her own, so she, too, was not comfortable with trying to continue in a framework of calling ourselves "Gorean", when we did not fit John Norman's profile of what Gor was.

Having the opportunity to explore a philosophy, expressed in story form, that would give a name to the way that we prefer to live, and yet is not bound by the philosophical divergence that keeps us from accurately portraying Gorean philosophy would be interesting to us -- and before people get all nit-picky about using a 'fantasy' to define philosophy, we are not asking people to do this against their will... only if they are called to it. In addition, if anyone practices religion of any sort, it is most likely that the founder, leader, or person being looked to, and the sacred books used in that religion, use fantasy stories (called fables, parables, etc.) to teach the philosophies and moral lessons advocated within that context. With that in mind, over 90% of the human race looks to fiction, fantasies and stories to define their philosophy and tell them how to live.

This being said, if Loki or any others wish to contact me on the other side, I would be interested in exploring a Gulf Coast Tower.

Zephyr


Except the headline of the thread ruined any chance of it appealing to those folks.  Once it's tied in with Gor...and I realize, that Klashaan is NOT Gor, don't misunderstand me...there are folks that are going to rip it to shreds just because Gor was mentioned.

It is something that can always be counted upon.  Always.




VvShadowspawnvV -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/24/2006 7:19:19 PM)

Gor is not a slave-based lifestyle.

=) 

becca




LadiesBladewing -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/24/2006 7:24:42 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

Except the headline of the thread ruined any chance of it appealing to those folks.  Once it's tied in with Gor...and I realize, that Klashaan is NOT Gor, don't misunderstand me...there are folks that are going to rip it to shreds just because Gor was mentioned.

It is something that can always be counted upon.  Always.


I think it's interesting that you should say that, considering that I and mine found it here and the fact that Gor was mentioned didn't put us off....

There will always be some who have to find a reason to bash others... so mote it be. I'll be damned if I'm going to let it rain on my parade.

ZWD




feastie -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/24/2006 7:28:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadiesBladewing


quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

Except the headline of the thread ruined any chance of it appealing to those folks.  Once it's tied in with Gor...and I realize, that Klashaan is NOT Gor, don't misunderstand me...there are folks that are going to rip it to shreds just because Gor was mentioned.

It is something that can always be counted upon.  Always.


I think it's interesting that you should say that, considering that I and mine found it here and the fact that Gor was mentioned didn't put us off....

There will always be some who have to find a reason to bash others... so mote it be. I'll be damned if I'm going to let it rain on my parade.

ZWD



No one asked you to.  My point is that this could have been done in such a way as to avoid the drama.  Nothing worse than a bunch of folks going around with knots in their drawers over stupid stuff, but they do it.  Sometimes, the high road is the best road to get to your destination.




Zensee -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/24/2006 9:00:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

Except the headline of the thread ruined any chance of it appealing to those folks.  Once it's tied in with Gor...and I realize, that Klashaan is NOT Gor, don't misunderstand me...there are folks that are going to rip it to shreds just because Gor was mentioned.

It is something that can always be counted upon.  Always.

[irony] I am always suspicious of assertions containing absolutes. [/irony]

But feastie, to hide the association with Gor could as easily be seen as a subterfuge and have caused even more ill will. For some though, the mere mention of the word is permission to make the blind leap into action, flamethrowers on full auto. No prisoners!

*************************************

MistressJude has shown considerable class and patience, despite the rudeness, trivializations and hijack attempts. This thread clearly belongs in this forum because it is providing general information to the general population, albeit Gor related. The “Reformed Goreans” I know love the ritual and formality but dislike the gender supremacy aspect. So they make the form their own.

As to basing your BDSM on fiction – since when was that wrong? Since when was any consenting play between adults wrong in this lifestyle?

For that matter, where does anyone on this board get the gall to judge the kink of someone else here? It’s absurd. There is no need to stick your nose in just for the pleasure of hearing your own voice telling everyone how stupid you think it is. “I’m just here to sneer, Dahling.” It gets so tiresome.

I thought the initial post was pretty clear that it was informing interested people about a new twist. It didn't pretend to be anything it wasn't or to say it was better than anything else, just a little different. It didn't put a gun to anyone's head, it didn’t advocate criminality or non-consensual acts – no kids or animals. If you didn't like it you were free to leave (preferably quietly so as not to disturb others in the room). Just because this is a public forum and you have the right to have an opinion doesn't mean it is always necessary or appropriate to trumpet it, especially in an abusive manner.

All the best in your endeavors, MistressJude.


Z.0




Kedikat -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/25/2006 12:59:39 AM)

I just don't get the point of patterning My life after some groups rules. Fitting into societies general concepts requires enough conformity for Me. After that, I just look for happiness on My terms and a few others of like mind. Other than a few get togethers, what is the point? It always seems to devolve into splinter groups, which of course are people trying to do what I previously noted about Myself.

I wonder if these narrow groups are just forums for some to attain star status. And if they can't, then make another group.

Sooner or later, you can be the big fish in the right sized pond.

Then again, I just may not get the joy of it. Everyone has their way.




agirl -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/25/2006 4:14:03 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadiesBladewing


quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

Except the headline of the thread ruined any chance of it appealing to those folks.  Once it's tied in with Gor...and I realize, that Klashaan is NOT Gor, don't misunderstand me...there are folks that are going to rip it to shreds just because Gor was mentioned.

It is something that can always be counted upon.  Always.


I think it's interesting that you should say that, considering that I and mine found it here and the fact that Gor was mentioned didn't put us off....

There will always be some who have to find a reason to bash others... so mote it be. I'll be damned if I'm going to let it rain on my parade.

ZWD



No one asked you to.  My point is that this could have been done in such a way as to avoid the drama.  Nothing worse than a bunch of folks going around with knots in their drawers over stupid stuff, but they do it.  Sometimes, the high road is the best road to get to your destination.


..and there's also a whole raft of people that WON'T dismiss an idea JUST because Gor is mentioned.

I haven't noticed any *drama* ....I HAVE noticed people stating their views and thoughts in no different a way to any other thread here.

agirl






LadiesBladewing -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/25/2006 5:00:31 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kedikat

After that, I just look for happiness on My terms and a few others of like mind.


This is what we're all looking for, in the end. Happiness. Some of us find it in creating worlds, some of us find it in living in the "real world"... some of us never find it at all.

May you find happiness and recognize it whenever it comes.

ZWD




MistressJude -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/25/2006 8:53:41 AM)

How can you state in such a sweeping notion that Klashaan is a 'narror group' when you have no understanding of the group itself? I'm all for people having opinions, but let them be informed.

And frankly, star status or whatever can take a fly-leap for all I care. I'm interested in living a style of kink that I feel is pleasuable to me and I would like to share that with others who feel the same. So - you can picture yourself living like that - then don't. I'm not asking you to or forcing you to. I'm asking those that DO want something like to please come forward - despite all the negativity on this thread.

Please cast your judgments once you have knowledge to base it on. If you want to bash it into the ground and shatter it with every ounce of ability you have AFTER you read about it - by all means, I'll be your biggest supporter for you voice your thoughts. Until then try to be a little open-minded or at least not as belittling.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kedikat

I wonder if these narrow groups are just forums for some to attain star status. And if they can't, then make another group.




Submotive -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/25/2006 10:08:14 AM)

It's a damn shame that people can't either accept and use information or ignore it. What is with this incessant need to express opinions about EVERYTHING whether asked or not?

Thank You Mistress Jude for sharing this information. i wish You much success.




Proprietrix -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/25/2006 4:16:55 PM)

I have to admit, even though I’ve been following this thread from day 1, I had to go back over and read it about 3 different times to figure out what the hell is going on. The first 2 times, I really saw it as a marketing campaign trying to sell a book. I still find myself at a place where I’m not quite sure, but at least have a somewhat better idea. I did however, feel it was important to let Jude see someone’s point of view from outside, so that she might understand why some people are put off by this whole thing.

I looked back at the OP before writing this. It starts out well "Here’s a new concept." It then slides into an extremely vague description "It is based upon a strict code of conduct, service, and rules for slaves - and yes, Dom/mes." (Aren’t a lot of D/s lifestyles based on that?) Then it goes into "I’m starting a local group, a yahoo group, mailing list, meet & greet, lessons, students. I need helpers, assistants, positions need filled." The End of post. That was it. That was the whole post.

I could have come on here and said "I’m starting a new trend. It’s based on protocol. I’m starting a local group, hope to go national soon. If you are serious about it and/or want a managerial position. Let me know."

Do you see how vague that is to those of us who aren’t in one’s personal social circle?

It took days and pages to figure out (although fuzzily) what you might be talking about.

To recap how us "outsiders" saw this thread progress once the OP was posted:
mistoferin kind of tipped us off that maybe this has something to do with a book loki wrote. Those of us who don’t know Loki or aren’t friends with Loki, or had no idea that Loki ever wrote a book, now know one thing. Loki wrote a book and Jude is starting a group. (Still, we have ZERO information about what the hell is going on.) So we skip over a bunch of arguments about Gor. Loki comes in and confirms we’re talking about a book (or books?) We skip some insults and arguments on truism and fiction. By the 30th post, Jude is asking if people have read the book… and some of us are still waiting to hear the damn title. Post 39 someone finally speaks up about the ignorance "Well that at least answers one question, who wrote it. I hadn't heard of this book or books so I tried Googling it of course and checking with B&N and came up with nothing. So I'm assuming you haven't published." (Which is similar to what other onlookers were thinking and doing.) Post 44 and Loki finally directs us to a website that has some exerpts from the book and we find out we can’t purchase the book because it hasn’t even been published. (But for some reason others have read the book and make comments on it. Confusing.) Post 48, someone mentions he still doesn’t understand what the lifestyle is about. (And I’m thinking "Yup. Me either.") He’s redirected to the website. Someone brings up some pirate group in England. More people comment on what a great book this was (that hasn’t been published yet, so I’m still wondering if their comments are based on the exerpts on the website or if they somehow got a "behind the scenes" look at it.) Skip some arguments about fiction. Skip some more arguments about Gor. FINALLY, on the third friggin page of this thread, Loki explains a little bit about the belief system of the lifestyle in question. (Information, that in my opinion, should have been in post #1.) and we FINALLY find out how these other people could speak about a book never published. Here we are, a good 70 or so posts into the thread, and it’s just now being cleared up that Loki wrote a book and a few ladies are forming a group about it. More arguing about Gor. That takes us through the end of page 5 of this thread.

My stance is this: How on earth are we supposed to be even slightly educated enough to join a "east/west coast tower of klashaanians" based on something we know remotely nothing about?
Here’s the problem. A very small group of people (about 6 I can gather from reading this thread) know about this book and have read it. They are now trying to recruit hundreds of people nation wide to join mailing lists, communities, and adhere to a lifestyle we know nothing about. We hear of "communities" being set up on both the east and west coast, and we’re invited to join, but we have no friggin clue what’s going on.

I’m not saying this isn’t "real" or "good" or anything like that. I’m just saying the whole thing comes across as a bit odd. I’m still not clear on many things. Is this a series of books? One book? When were these books written? Are they going to be published? Will I need to read them to understand the lifestyle and it’s principles? If so, can you see how some might see this as a marketing technique to sell the books?

I went to the klashaan link and there’s was no direct statement of what’s going on. It talks about these houses/towers that aren’t yet set up and groups that so far don’t have any members. It has events that aren’t scheduled and positions that need filled. It almost comes across as a few people trying to recruit helpers, but I have to say, why would I dedicate an unknown amount of time and energy to establishing a tower/house for Klashaan, when I don't know anything about the principles on which it's founded?

It doesn’t directly say this is a lifestyle based on a book. A stranger wandering to this website would have little if any clue what this is about. Many of those strangers are coming from here at CM. Like me. If I wander upon a website and it assumes I know the details, I assume that it's an exclusive and/or elite group and I was not meant to know the information. Most websites give a pretty sufficient general view of what they are about on the first/home page. I found myself wandering aimlessly among the pages, trying to find a direction and thinking "What the hell is this?"

This Klashaan might be a really nifty thing. I really don’t know, because I have nothing but disorganized confusion to base anything on. I can’t say "Hell yes! I buy into these ideals! I’m going to join!" Because I can’t figure out what the ideals are, what book I’m supposed to be buying, what membership I’m supposed to be joining, or really, what the heck is going on. All I’m hearing is "New lifestyle that might or might not work for you!! Join now! Sign up here! Buy the book once it’s published! Help us set up a community near you!"

It seems like the cart rolled WAY in front of the horse here. How can I possibly take this "new thing" seriously when I’ve never even heard of it before, but I get smothered in requests to join and marketing to buy and recruited to help?

Maybe a better technique would have been to say "Hi. I’m so and so. I thought up a new lifestyle. Here’s how it works." and then let people slowly learn about it. In time, if they found they were liking it, they probably would eventually buy the corresponding books and join the corresponding groups. But to come rushing in like a lion, seeking membership for towers and houses and books, with very little regard to even telling everyone what the heck is going on, really just caused a whole lot of confusion to many of us and kind of turned us off to the whole idea before we even knew what you were talking about.




feastie -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/25/2006 5:20:27 PM)

Drama occurred each time the OP felt she had to defend Klashaan and each time Loki felt the need to defend the OP, explain Klashaan or defend it.  I don't have an opinion one way or another about Klashaan.  I hope those to whom it appeals are very happy in it.  I just think it got off to a rocky start which could have been handled with a bit more aplomb.  Conversely, the thread could have started something like..."Klashaan Towers now forming..." IMHO




Wulfchyld -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/25/2006 5:29:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressJude

Those who are TRULY interested can email me here at CM and I will direct you to the mailing list. Those people interested in the following positions should contact me ASAP:



This is from post one.

There simply is no point in selling this on site. If you are interested, even a bit, you can mail Jude or myself. As you know Proprietrix, better than most on this site, I am pretty good at sharing information. So as opposed to putting pages of food out for a feeding frenzy we have left it to the judgment of each person to pursue more information from the sites, and Jude and myself if the interest for more knowledge presented itself. A search on the threads will show topics about my book from way before this, but the fact of the matter remains that Jude encouraged people who were interested to contact her directly. I have shared my book with experienced people in all aspects of BDSM and am not so arrogant to think it is a perfect work and ready for publication. The Jury is still out for some and I am still waiting for critique from a few others. What CM has allowed me to do is to meet people that I could get informed opinions from, and I think, most importantly a very wise and honorable Gorean Master is reviewing and critiquing the book for me. I would happily share the unfinished work with anyone that is taking a serious interest in Klashaan and looking to form community. Nevertheless I know that it isn’t for everyone, just like many other aspects of BDSM, so the links exist and the invitation to mail Jude in post #1 for more information stands for people to look what is out there and decide if they want more information. Would I like to sell my book? Of course I would. More importantly I would like to see this community grow.

Respectively

Damn goofy fonts....




Kedikat -> RE: Like Gor? Love Klashaan! (5/26/2006 12:26:03 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressJude

How can you state in such a sweeping notion that Klashaan is a 'narror group' when you have no understanding of the group itself? I'm all for people having opinions, but let them be informed.

And frankly, star status or whatever can take a fly-leap for all I care. I'm interested in living a style of kink that I feel is pleasuable to me and I would like to share that with others who feel the same. So - you can picture yourself living like that - then don't. I'm not asking you to or forcing you to. I'm asking those that DO want something like to please come forward - despite all the negativity on this thread.

Please cast your judgments once you have knowledge to base it on. If you want to bash it into the ground and shatter it with every ounce of ability you have AFTER you read about it - by all means, I'll be your biggest supporter for you voice your thoughts. Until then try to be a little open-minded or at least not as belittling.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kedikat

I wonder if these narrow groups are just forums for some to attain star status. And if they can't, then make another group.


You should have clarified that your original post was an announcement not open to discussion or opinions. Then I would not have opined.
The rigid structure implied by the post, and the other post that has gone up, does inspire a vision of rididity and narrowness, alleviated in only being non gender specific. There appears to be a built in structure of who is above who in every respect, so star status ( just a short term to state a more complex idea, inadequately ) A hierarchy of Towers etc...Who trains in what, who has what rights.
I actually do not state these opinions towards what you are doing in particular. More my opinion and experiences with these sort of things. You will face many pitfalls. Splinters, powerplays etc. It is a fact of trying to build and keep such a thing. And I did mention at the end of my post that maybe I just don't get the joy of the thing. And that is likely true. I hope some will, and that is a joy for you. Roll with the punches. Such an undertaking will have many, from without and within.
Good luck. And please don't be so angry about My opinion. Anger was not intended.




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