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Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/7/2011 7:47:03 PM

ummmmNo

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Cucking is something I really find interesting and fascinating, but the girl being the one "cheated" on seems pretty uncommon.

If any of you lovely ladies (you boys aren't barred from this, but I really want to hear from the girls) have experience in this, I am looking for more info.

Thanks in advance!

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/7/2011 7:53:01 PM

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but the girl being the one "cheated" on seems pretty uncommon.

Hm. My impression was that it was pretty common for Doms to require loyalty but not be monogamous themselves.

This should be an interesting thread to read.

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/7/2011 7:55:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather

quote:

but the girl being the one "cheated" on seems pretty uncommon.
Hm. My impression was that it was pretty common for Doms to require loyalty but not be monogamous themselves.

This should be an interesting thread to read.

I would have thought so, too. But, I have had plenty of Doms contact me and ask what it is. I think open relationships are more common or monogamy. These could all be assumptions though.

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/7/2011 8:15:51 PM

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I am not a "dominant" female. I am submissive to my husband/master and we've been in an M/s relationship for over 5 years. I am extremely into being the "one cheated on," as you say though, obviously, it's not "cheating." Not much turns me on more than being with Him and another female. Watching Him with others - and only being permitted to watch or participate at His whim - is soooooo hot to me. I love the idea of having to be pleasing to Him and her, watch them giving each other pleasure and PERHAPS being allowed to participate or have some small measure of pleasure myself if He/they feel like I should and only then. Being in the corner, watching, not allowed to touch anyone - not even myself - even being permitted to watch is a privilege....yeah, WOW!

I don't know what else to add. It's just a super hot thing for us. I wouldn't call myself a "cuckqueen." I'm just a horny slave who loves watching her Master enjoy Himself and being permitted to dive in herself most times

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/7/2011 8:16:41 PM

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I had a relationship with my (ex, sort of) Dominant in which, for part of it, I suppose I was a cuckquean of sorts, but Lord I hate that silly name.

Have you done that type of thing before? I would highly recommend taking it in small steps. We started out by him looking at pictures and talking about other women while I pleasured him, then we brought it into the real world where he would comment to me about how beautiful other women are and the things he would want to do with them, and eventually, how I compared to them. This was, actually, over the course of years, I would say. It wasn't intentional. We weren't "practicing." We just got there because that's where we were going naturally.

Anyway, it did finally get to the point where he was having sex with other woman, choosing to spend his time with them instead of me. And no, I was not seeing other men. He didn't always share whether he actually had sex with them or not, which I felt to be even more delicious than knowing he did. The not knowing is intriguing. The thought of them becoming emotionally close was a fabulous mind-trip for me, and I have to say, I was kind of jumping up and down with joy when I realized that I really could handle sharing his affections in a more intimate way than just sex.

During that time, I was not actually having sex with him. I serviced him in plenty of other ways, but we just didn't do that one thing, or a couple of other things, that are more risky when multiple partners are involved. That, I have to say, was fucking awesome as well, but...that's kind of my thing. If that's not for you, then you may have to come to a different arrangement.

I've read quite a bit about cuckqueans, and what I can't really relate to is the hurt that some of them go through. I'm not into it to cry and feel devalued. If I was all that sad about it, as some of these women seem to be, I wouldn't do it. I'm into it because I love, love, love the emotional challenges and hurdles my brain has to go through. The range of response is so interesting and sometimes so very surprising. I remember the first time he told me "She's prettier than you." Now, him loving me like he loves me, I'm positive that he, himself, probably struggled with whether he was even going to say that. But I loved it. I like to be reminded that I'm not all that, and that a man can find another woman attractive and I will just have to sit down and like it, and how wonderful for me to be able to say "Yes, she is...I can see why you like her." Toward the end, I was offering to paint wine glasses for them to sip wine in together.

So, I enjoy it because it is sexually appealing to me, but it's sexually appealing to me because it's my own little mind trip.

(And, if you're wondering, he is not an ex-sort of because of this. If we do wind up together again, I will happily jump right back into this dynamic. Well, maybe I will climb on top of him and fuck him a few times first, but then...yep...right back again. I love it.)

I suppose I should add that I guess not all cuckquean activities involve that humiliation aspect...but they do in my lovely world. :)

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/7/2011 8:19:03 PM

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quote:

I think open relationships are more common or monogamy. These could all be assumptions though.

I'm probably confusing a relationship that is open for the Dom but not the sub with what you mean by "cuckqueening". Could you clarify/elaborate a little, please?

Edit: Or maybe not, the previous two posts have pretty much explained it. Thanks both.

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/7/2011 8:19:29 PM

slaveluci

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kaliko

I'm into it because I love, love, love the emotional challenges and hurdles my brain has to go through. The range of response is so interesting and sometimes so very surprising. I remember the first time he told me "She's prettier than you." Now, him loving me like he loves me, I'm positive that he, himself, probably struggled with whether he was even going to say that. But I loved it. I like to be reminded that I'm not all that, and that a man can find another woman attractive and I will just have to sit down and like it, and how wonderful for me to be able to say "Yes, she is...I can see why you like her." Toward the end, I was offering to paint wine glasses for them to sip wine in together.

So, I enjoy it because it is sexually appealing to me, but it's sexually appealing to me because it's my own little mind trip.

Yeah. What she said

What a beautiful summation........luci

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/7/2011 8:37:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather

quote:

I think open relationships are more common or monogamy. These could all be assumptions though.

I'm probably confusing a relationship that is open for the Dom but not the sub with what you mean by "cuckqueening". Could you clarify/elaborate a little, please?

Edit: Or maybe not, the previous two posts have pretty much explained it. Thanks both.

I meant open for both. SORRY!

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/8/2011 12:06:44 AM

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Although not my thing, I have to say I'm intrigued by the responses so far. Very interesting and honest - I have learned something today

However I'm not sure I would say "most" Doms are looking for more than one sexual partner. I was looking for a partner for several years (yeah yeah - I'm the choosy kind) and the majority of guys I talked to or dated were looking for one partner. Maybe that's indicative of the age range I was looking at (40+) or the area I live in...or both...or something else completely ... but those who wanted poly or complete sexual freedom for the Dom were pretty rare.

But it's an interesting thought to ponder

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/8/2011 10:06:36 AM

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I would have thought that it was a silly male fantasy to have a woman who got off on the idea of her partner fucking other women till I met someone who really got off on the idea.

A while back, I wanted to make it clear to a casual partner that she was indeed a casual partner so I rested my laptop on her head while I watched porn made by a chick for me in order to make it clear where she stood in my "pecking order". I am one of the few who actually enjoys phone sex and I used the same chick while I had phone sex with probably the hottest woman I know, completely ignoring the one giving me head while I walked the other woman through fucking her partner.

I still want to use a woman to lube up another's ass with her tongue and have her lick my cum as it drips from her ass, completely objectifying one while lavishing attention on another. Of course the energy has to be right and while my partner is more than willing, its a sort of passive "anything for you" rather than a "oh my fucking god its hot" sort of energy and I will wait.

The problem for me is that I only like hot women and so there is a really cool and hot fantasy in my head of fucking one while making the other watch but the reality is that then one hot mouth is not being used and that really sucks.

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/8/2011 10:11:47 AM

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Very interesting views, thanks!

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/8/2011 10:36:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

Anyway, it did finally get to the point where he was having sex with other woman, choosing to spend his time with them instead of me. And no, I was not seeing other men. He didn't always share whether he actually had sex with them or not, which I felt to be even more delicious than knowing he did. The not knowing is intriguing. The thought of them becoming emotionally close was a fabulous mind-trip for me, and I have to say, I was kind of jumping up and down with joy when I realized that I really could handle sharing his affections in a more intimate way than just sex.

I've read quite a bit about cuckqueans, and what I can't really relate to is the hurt that some of them go through. I'm not into it to cry and feel devalued. If I was all that sad about it, as some of these women seem to be, I wouldn't do it.

I wish someone I know would post her thoughts here as they could add a lot of insight and really surprise people.

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

I've read quite a bit about cuckqueans, and what I can't really relate to is the hurt that some of them go through. I'm not into it to cry and feel devalued. If I was all that sad about it, as some of these women seem to be, I wouldn't do it.

I am, at my core, a one woman man even if I do like to dabble with other woman from time to time, I have never loved two women at the same time. For me, while I enjoy being a sadist, I have to know I am not fucking someone over and this sort of thing, especially the humiliation and depersonalization probably causes more long term damange than every other form of kink play combined.

A while back I was involved with two women, my partner and other woman who I was involved with casually before I met my partner. My sexual desire for my partner is intense but my sexual desire for the "other" woman was not overly high. It was always something that ate away at me in the back of my mind and thus ate away at the enjoyment of being with them both. So, many of the things I might have explored I couldn't because if I just "used" the casual woman I knew it would hurt her even if she would be willing. I could do it the other way and cuck my partner but that wouldn't work for me either because the only energy I would be getting fed would be the hotness of the "act". My desire for my secondary partner wasn't huge, my partner did not get off because I was cucking her and so it was kind of "flat"

When I met the casual partner in the above story, I was seeing a woman casually, the one I mentioned in my prior post that I had cucked before. I was at a play party and cucked both women and that was hot for me. She was kind of new to the scene, dressed as a domme, tall boots, corset etc. It was a small party and so I had played once with my casual partner and could tell there was a bit of attraction to the other woman and so I walked out, pointed at her and said "lets play" and she just got up and obeyed. I told her I was going to do to her what I was doing to my other woman and made her sit with her legs open and told her she wasn't allowed to touch herself. Always a good way of making them want to touch themselves and since they can't squeeze their thights together, they get hotter (usually) and then played with my other woman but ignoring her and talking to the woman sitting in the chair. Telling her how hot it was goingg to make her when I touched her "there" or caned her cunt, or whatever all while doing it to the woman I had bent over the spanking bench. Then I switched women and had them trade places and did the same thing in reverse. It was pretty hot but the energy was perfect.

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/8/2011 2:29:34 PM

Kaliko

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

A while back, I wanted to make it clear to a casual partner that she was indeed a casual partner so I rested my laptop on her head while I watched porn made by a chick for me in order to make it clear where she stood in my "pecking order". I am one of the few who actually enjoys phone sex and I used the same chick while I had phone sex with probably the hottest woman I know, completely ignoring the one giving me head while I walked the other woman through fucking her partner.

I'll say it again: Good Lord, I like you.

quote:

I wish someone I know would post her thoughts here as they could add a lot of insight and really surprise people.

Well, now I do too, whoever you are.

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this sort of thing, especially the humiliation and depersonalization probably causes more long term damange than every other form of kink play combined.

Great. I'm screwed.

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/8/2011 3:14:44 PM

slaveluci

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kaliko

quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

A while back, I wanted to make it clear to a casual partner that she was indeed a casual partner so I rested my laptop on her head while I watched porn made by a chick for me in order to make it clear where she stood in my "pecking order". I am one of the few who actually enjoys phone sex and I used the same chick while I had phone sex with probably the hottest woman I know, completely ignoring the one giving me head while I walked the other woman through fucking her partner.

I'll say it again: Good Lord, I like you.

He really is an evil genius, isn't he? How hot is that? Pant, pant......luci

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/8/2011 6:55:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

this sort of thing, especially the humiliation and depersonalization probably causes more long term damange than every other form of kink play combined.

Great. I'm screwed.

I meant to imply that this sort of stuff has the POTENTIAL to cause more harm, not that it always does. Humiliation and degredation are hot but in my opinion are far more risky and cause most of the hurt in BDSM because most people don't do it in a healthy way. Midori's book The Wild Side of Sex has one of the best explanations of how to do humiliation play in a constructive way.

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RE: Cuckqueans... How many of you are out there? - 9/8/2011 7:41:17 PM

Kaliko

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

this sort of thing, especially the humiliation and depersonalization probably causes more long term damange than every other form of kink play combined.

Great. I'm screwed.

I meant to imply that this sort of stuff has the POTENTIAL to cause more harm, not that it always does. Humiliation and degredation are hot but in my opinion are far more risky and cause most of the hurt in BDSM because most people don't do it in a healthy way. Midori's book The Wild Side of Sex has one of the best explanations of how to do humiliation play in a constructive way.

Thank you. I will check it out. If I'm not having any sex, I might as well be reading about it.

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