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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 12:57:02 PM   
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Oh, yes, but - OP - don't be discouraged if she doesn't want to talk on the phone. First, I almost never give my number out to men, even if we've been on a date. My own family barely have my phone number. I hate talking on the phone, unless you're my mother or my sister and I'm required by blood to do so, and talking on the phone is not a good representation of who I am. And even if I did give a man my number, and he did call, I almost never pick it up - and I almost always have the ringer off. So..though it's certainly a logical step, don't be discouraged if she wants to skip that step. And finally, refraining from giving out your phone number is part of the unofficial girl's guide to internet safety. Using a first name, a phone number, and a town, one can find out a lot about a person on the internet. It's just not something I'm willing to give out so easily, these days.

yeah, many times the guy would ask if i wanted to talk on the phone first and i said no, lets just meet. Even on the phone you can miss so much, since you cant see facial expressions and all.. and people can sound different on the phone, both in their manner and also how their voice sounds.

But i had a spare disposable cell just for this purpose (never gave out my real number, just this cell number), just the cheapest one and pay as you go for like $10/m. I would give that number out when we set a meeting so if the guy was running behind or something came up and he couldnt make it, he could still get a hold of me.. and i did appreciate if he gave me his too, just in case i needed to call him (but i didnt insist on having his).


True..if I didn't get emails and internet on my phone, I would probably do the same thing for that purpose only.

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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 12:57:08 PM   
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However she said that she just moved and her internet will be on next week and "would make exchanging messages easier."

She just moved, huh?.. once she gets a little settled in, maybe she needs a good guide that can show her the sights...

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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 1:04:57 PM   
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Thats what i was thinking http://www.skieskc.com/  Favorite date spot.


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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 1:18:04 PM   
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Thats what i was thinking http://www.skieskc.com/  Favorite date spot.


oh my, yes, a fantastic night view in the revolving restaurant, interesting menu, I am sure you know just the right wine too... of course you do, you drink cognac, after all.
Yes, you do know how to court a woman..

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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 1:38:12 PM   
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Well wine depends on what you order. Must compliment the food.

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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 4:21:13 PM   
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Thats what i was thinking http://www.skieskc.com/  Favorite date spot.


oh my, yes, a fantastic night view in the revolving restaurant, interesting menu, I am sure you know just the right wine too... of course you do, you drink cognac, after all.
Yes, you do know how to court a woman..



LOL - I would be happy slugging wine from the bottle by a campfire in the backyard. But that's nice, too. :)

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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 4:23:17 PM   
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Well wine depends on what you order. Must compliment the food.
  Dude, it's complement.  If my wine was passing judgment on the food, I'd know someone had spiked it.


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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 4:38:41 PM   
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If you don't mind a subs point of view, I think you will do fine once the nerves settle down. For now enjoy the nerves.
Treat it the same as you would any other girl, ask her what she likes, her dislikes- from a subs view its nice when a guy can grab hold of and control a conversation, so long as the girl can still talk and contribute.

Your cute with a slightly evil smile, and a great viewpoint on things- just don't send any penis pics and the lucky girl won't be able to resist you.


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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 5:01:23 PM   
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Well wine depends on what you order. Must compliment the food.
  Dude, it's complement.  If my wine was passing judgment on the food, I'd know someone had spiked it.


LOL, I think this is the first funny post of yours ive ever seen. You strike me as someone with a interesting dry humor that takes a bit of time to figure out.
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If you don't mind a subs point of view, I think you will do fine once the nerves settle down. For now enjoy the nerves.
Treat it the same as you would any other girl, ask her what she likes, her dislikes- from a subs view its nice when a guy can grab hold of and control a conversation, so long as the girl can still talk and contribute.

Your cute with a slightly evil smile, and a great viewpoint on things- just don't send any penis pics and the lucky girl won't be able to resist you.


She payed me my first compliment. Thanked me for not talking to her like she was a 900 sex line.
And thank your for the compliment, i can assure you ive never posted "The Hammer" online or in a email. I have a lot of homemade porn, but im a very private person. I keep things like that to myself.


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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 6:06:15 PM   
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i can assure you ive never posted "The Hammer" online or in a email.






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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 8:24:43 PM   
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When it comes to online, just cruise at a casual pace until she's actually ready to meet you in any 'real' context. I can't count the number of times local folks have gone silent or just not shown when the time comes to actually be a real person instead of an internet persona.

When it does come to her feeling comfortable meeting, do the safety dance, it'll probably make her way more ready to meet.

A) public place
B) never late at night
C) She needs her own transportation (or even to bring a friend to hang out with if she's genuinely scared of meeting you alone).

There are a lot of crazy creeps on the internet! You could be one of them! If it's one of her concerns, bend over backwards to assure her she can be as cautious as she wants and you won't think she's nuts for it.

Other than that, definitely encourage you to meet her, the sooner the better. I've found talking online too long builds up anxiety that the other party may have created false images or hopes for what you are like and you may not live up to them face to face, and can sometimes hinder the possibility of meeting at all.

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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 10:35:15 PM   
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LOL, I think this is the first funny post of yours ive ever seen. You strike me as someone with a interesting dry humor that takes a bit of time to figure out.
  Don't believe the hype.  This forum is quick to demonise anyone who won't acknowledge their little hierarchy.  The reality is somewhat different.


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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/10/2011 11:22:13 PM   
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(drunk) I used to think i was kind of a demon when i was younger. Personally I hope someone does. I like to fight, argue, fuck, drink, talk shit, jerk the hammer. Sadly, i have outgrown some of this. 

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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/11/2011 3:42:43 AM   
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KC is full of kinsters.    

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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/11/2011 8:22:41 AM   
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I used to think ... Sadly, i have outgrown some of this.


Mkay ..

I suppose that fits the "thor theme"

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RE: The Dynamics of Online relationship finding. - 9/11/2011 12:09:49 PM   
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Really? you posted for that. If you going to talk shit at least be creative. Wtf. Talking about me not able to think, and yet you post that? Really? Fail. If you cant come up something actually intellectually insulting don't even post.

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