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RE: Inspired or something else - 9/13/2011 12:02:57 PM

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Geez just shut the fuck up do as your told or find someone else

Considering the number of douche bags available ^, I'm super happy with the man I have.

Really you are whining so much <I got a freaking earache> about how angry you get when your "beloved" tells you to do something. Boy that sure sound like someone I wanna be with. smirk Sure sounds like the making of a "super happy" relationship.

You sound like my kids when they were 10-12 years old. "Take out the trash" 10 year old gee dad do i have to and then they would stomp around. So here is a idea why dont you grow up???

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So for the s-types why do you obey? It is because it is expected, is it because you have decided to, or does it just happen---you obey even when your mind is telling you not to? Or is there another reason?

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I don't ALWAYS obey *rules*, I'll get that out of the way immediately.

Obeying *overall* is part of the being owned by him. He's not THAT bothered if I don't obey a *rule*, though he WOULD be, if I didn't accept the consequences of not doing so. Rules are there for MY benefit, not his. I've never been set a rule that was to do with HIM.

Obeying HIM is different. I can range from fervently happy to do so, to teeth-grindingly- grudging, depending on what it is but I have always obeyed, eventually.

He expects me to be me. That means that sometimes he has to force me. He expects that and I expect and accept that too.

Basically, we are smiling, we know what we are about.

My mind never tells me *not to obey*...if anything it tells me that I must. The manner in which I do so isn't as consistant.

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RE: Inspired or something else - 9/13/2011 6:19:09 PM

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okay SailingBum obviously you are not able to read or comprehend---first I was not whining. Secondly I never said I was angry at him I said I was angry at myself. And personally I am glad you would not want to be with me, in the first place you are the wrong color. Secondly, my 'beloved' as you called him has never ever even used the 'f' word in front of me let alone told me to shut the fuck up. I would want someone with more respect and a whole lot less arrogance because honestly arrogance to me is a huge turn off.

There is only one thing I agree on---I should grow up because I am stooping to a childish level by even responding to your boring bullshit.

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RE: Inspired or something else - 9/13/2011 10:38:12 PM

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okay SailingBum obviously you are not able to read or comprehend---first I was not whining. Secondly I never said I was angry at him I said I was angry at myself. And personally I am glad you would not want to be with me, in the first place you are the wrong color. Secondly, my 'beloved' as you called him has never ever even used the 'f' word in front of me let alone told me to shut the fuck up. I would want someone with more respect and a whole lot less arrogance because honestly arrogance to me is a huge turn off.

There is only one thing I agree on---I should grow up because I am stooping to a childish level by even responding to your boring bullshit.

And I quote "how angry you get"

Your words

"I can't say I am following orders, because quite honestly if anyone else were to ask me to do something and expect me to obey it--I'd probably say, "Go fuck yourself."

More of your BS

"When the dreaded topic was brought up, I knew what I was up against---I already knew if I were forced to quit---I'd be lying my ass off in between smokes. "

I could go on but maybe you can understand your own writing.

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RE: Inspired or something else - 9/14/2011 3:31:51 AM

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If the topic bothers you so much why bother reading it. I didn't ask you to. And you never answered the question posed to the Dominants. Is that because you have yet to experience real time and are unsure how to answer the question? You know it might happen for you. A tad of zoloft might bring that anger and bitterness you show in most of your posts down enough that someone might show interest.

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RE: Inspired or something else - 9/14/2011 5:18:43 AM

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*shrug* You've stumbled on the reality that so many are ignorant of. Submission is inspired. It's not taken, it's not demanded, it's not forced, it's definitely not 'given'. It's inspired. Unconscious, without volition, a pure response to the man you're interacting with

So true , so true.

From my experience, there is no need to order and punish. Requests, at the right time , are the thing for me. Kinda she is "ready to do it" but doesn't know it yet. Psychology 101 or "guess 101", the line is fine and blurry. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't , and I believe (and hope) that it works more then fails.

But I think it is very subtle process and I believe he is doing the right thing. I mean, he wants you to be better (healthier for that matter). Things take time to develop and I think that, in the long run, you will become "more submissive" (if there is such a thing), or more like , you will "feel" your submission for him more, if that makes sense.

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RE: Inspired or something else - 9/14/2011 5:42:42 AM

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*shrug* You've stumbled on the reality that so many are ignorant of. Submission is inspired. It's not taken, it's not demanded, it's not forced, it's definitely not 'given'. It's inspired. Unconscious, without volition, a pure response to the man you're interacting with

So true , so true.

From my experience, there is no need to order and punish. Requests, at the right time , are the thing for me. Kinda she is "ready to do it" but doesn't know it yet. Psychology 101 or "guess 101", the line is fine and blurry. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't , and I believe (and hope) that it works more then fails.

But I think it is very subtle process and I believe he is doing the right thing. I mean, he wants you to be better (healthier for that matter). Things take time to develop and I think that, in the long run, you will become "more submissive" (if there is such a thing), or more like , you will "feel" your submission for him more, if that makes sense.

Dude. You just crushed so many wanker fantasies.
Now, about letting the masses see what's really behind the curtain....

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RE: Inspired or something else - 9/14/2011 12:16:00 PM

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If the topic bothers you so much why bother reading it. I didn't ask you to. And you never answered the question posed to the Dominants. Is that because you have yet to experience real time and are unsure how to answer the question? You know it might happen for you. A tad of zoloft might bring that anger and bitterness you show in most of your posts down enough that someone might show interest.

Oh hell ya!!! If you can't dazzle them with brilliance, baffle them with bull shit. Look I dont have a dog in this fight. Hike up your panties and take the constructive criticism like a big girl.

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RE: Inspired or something else - 9/14/2011 12:44:51 PM

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Go away and play by yourself now SailingBum.

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RE: Inspired or something else - 9/14/2011 6:45:46 PM

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Thanks for posing this question, i have found the posts quite enlightening.

i would like to add, that there is a huge difference to me depending upon the person i am serving. i was in service to one person, where many requests engendered that inner response of why the "h***" would i want to do that for you, needless to say, in that case i totally chose the wrong person to serve.

when it is a person that i completely respect, it is so much easier to comply with their requests and expectations; i tend to find that with these Dominants/Masters rarely are the requests made as orders or demands, usually requests which carry the expectation that they will be completed.

i'm not sure if that answered your question?

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