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feastie -> RE: Quantity of play (5/22/2006 8:06:05 PM)
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I think it is much more important for my children to see a loving, nuturing relationship between adults than it is to involve them in the intimacies of that relationship. People touch (or should) all the time. Vanilla husbands slaps their vanilla wives bottoms as they pass...or they sneak up and pinch them. Mine was fond of snapping me with a towel. All things, that in a BDSM light, could pass for "play" and it is indeed, play. It is playful and fun, and just because there might be a slightly different motivation behind it than just a playful slap or pinch, the little ones don't need to know. I don't feel Thing One and Thing Two should be privy to all aspects of my relationships, it's none of their business. It's my business and that of my partner. I'm selfish and I don't want to share that with anyone but him. I think they need to see Mom happy and see that Mom is loved.
One of the many reasons I divorced my ex is because I didn't want Thing One and Thing Two to think that is how marriage should be. You know things have crossed a line when a little lisping voice tells Daddy to kiss Mommy goodbye as he leaves for work and Mommy gets an air kiss worthy of Hollywood fame.
I know this seems like a ramble, but I'm getting there! There are so many things that can be communicated by that playful slap, something whispered in an ear, the tightening of a hand about a wrist until such time as play can be enjoyed that truly, play is the culmination of the all the rest. It all counts, in my book.
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