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CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Hello (9/16/2011 10:49:21 AM)
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Getting this computer of my sub's to let me change over to myself on both sides of CollarMe was a... I didn't sign out on this CollarChat side and only on the CollarMe side. Just to post this, I had to completely leave both sides of CM to come back in, the CM side was still logged in under my username, and then I followed the suggestion a mod made about a year ago to someone else here, to use the bar to the left and click on Message Boards to balance both sides out so they were on the same page. Yaay!
Thank you, DarkSteven.
Mr4sg, I was sleeping when my sub posted. I am a night owl, and he is awake before I am (and is uber quiet while he does things like cleaning up and laundry [;)] ) We had a little problem with making both sides of CM match. He signed in to the CM side of CollarMe and the scroll for this thread caught his eye and he wanted to post. If there is any doubt in your mind that we are both real, contact your Munch leader and have them contact ours. My boy is known at KATS, though I made him miss 2 or 3 meetings while we were getting used to each other, and MasterFireMaam here at CM has met him. I joined over a year ago but the distance was far and I was having car troubles, so this Friday will be my first time attending KATS. My sub has spent several of his visits fixing my minivan, and KATS meets up closer to where he lives...this is convenient. edible_freud over at Fet is our Munch organizer for KATS. We joined a new MAsT group and will be there this Saturday. We will also be at the Halloween party in Huntington...so if there are others in the message boards that go to KATS, TAPE, and another group that slips my mind at the moment, we will be meeting them. [;)]
I have not allowed him to post in the message boards either, until recently. Before being in "public" together, I wanted some time in private. His typing sucks but I find it endearing...and each time I read his sometimes awful spelling and typos, I am reminded to be grateful he is alive...and I will not be torturing him to do better. My sub was a coal miner, and survived a cave in that injured his brain and his body. He is a tough little cookie, and I love him even if I am not "in love" with him yet, so if anyone makes fun of his writing style in the future...we will both likely ignore them. I might help him get a sig line that would explain that he has trouble with reading sometimes, and with writing/typing.
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End of derailment. To the OP...
This takes time. Anyone can find someone to have a no strings topping or bottoming session or two, finding subs or Dommes is an entirely different kettle of fish. I have been here off and on for seven or eight years looking for just the right sub, and I became burnt out and went off on hiatus many times. It is not just the men who have trouble with looking. As for meetups with people from CollarMe...I stopped counting after the first four dozen. Meeting for coffee or for lunch with no expectations of playtime can be as easy as...following suggestions posted in the sticky at the top of the Mistress forum.
Take advantage of information here. Hang out and read what makes women wary or disgusted and simply don't do those things. Women here have also posted what catches their interest about men. BE PATIENT. I found my boy because he read my complete profile and journal entries and sent me good letters without kink, so we could get to know each other as people and see if we were compatible. We were compatible in so many ways that after all these years it amazed me. He had almost left the lifestyle, and I had stopped looking for subs and was lining up bottoms to top for the fun and exercize of it (flogging and stuff is more fun than situps)...and then we found each other because he wrote to me like I was a real person and not some kink delivery system.
Be patient.
Be out there, seen by others. (Chatroom, letters, message boards posts, and Munch groups.)
Read the Ask a Mistress FAQ and learn from it to better your chances.
Good luck.
Edit to add that my first paragraph was as clear as mud. Sorry about that. When I tried to post this the first time, I had noticed that on this side of CollarMe, I was somehow logged in as wonderfulbo1, that the sign out and log in on the other side did not change the login on this side. I lost my old response because my sub's computer tries to use copy and paste to some annoying clipboard I cannot figure out how to use, and I had to start all over again after seeing that I was logged in under my own username on both sides. His computer is left on 24/7 and maybe that had something to do with his not having been logged out on the CollarChat side. On my own computer, I could have done a copy from the reply I made under his name, to making one of my own by pasting. Instead I lost it all and had to start over...and I know I am rambling but he is such a distraction. Especially when he is giving me a neck and shoulders rub...
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