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application - 9/16/2011 6:32:01 AM

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How does one make an application petition to serve a Mistress

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 6:34:30 AM

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If she asked for it, ask her what she wants. If she didn't ask for it, then for God's sake don't do it.

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 6:39:40 AM

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Ill second that notion.

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 7:20:45 AM

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Ditto that ditto.

If she did ask for it, you could make it like a little resume of skills you have, what you could offer her in service, and what you hope to get out of the exchange. Worthless worm syndrom aside, sometimes people just like to put fancy terms or a little roleplay demeanor on top of normal conversation, if she seems reasonable use it as a 'formal' way of letting her know more about you.

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 7:27:33 AM

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Did someone use the term "application" with you or are you just throwing that out there?

If a Domme used that term with you, see above answers. Also - don't just send her a list of all the kink things you've done/want to do....not a good way to introduce yourself.

If it's just a term you're throwing out there - don't :-). Seriously...I get emails asking "how to apply" as if what I'm looking for is some kind of job position - it's not. It's a RELATIONSHIP - maybe not a grand romance, but it's at the least a close friendship, depending on what you and the Domme are looking for. So treat it like a relationship. Get to know her as a person, not a fetish delivery service. Let her get to know you as a person, not just someone to stand there and take a beating.

Ultimately, you have to remember that you're looking to establish intimacy. That takes time, effort, mutual attraction.

Alternatively, if you don't want to put the time and effort into establishing a relationship, hire a prodomme.

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 8:25:03 AM

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Add another ditto to the two preceding dittos.

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 8:29:37 AM

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You might ask her out to dinner. Take her to a quiet restaurant where the two of you can talk and get to know each other.

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 9:32:07 AM

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EEEEEH. When I was a pro dominant, I had an application form on my website. Because I was screening CLIENTS.

If you want a pro dominant, just cruise on over to maxfisch.com, and fill out all the apps you like.

If you want to meet a WOMAN, well, you'll need the same set of social skills every other man needs. Good luck!

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 10:43:08 AM

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OP, everyone gave you good advice. Remember we are women first, dominants next.

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 11:20:23 AM

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How does one make an application petition to serve a Mistress

First and foremost, don't look at it as an "application petition". If you're booking sessions with pro Dommes, they often have application forms, but I don't know many lifestyle Dommes who are seeking "application petitions".

Instead of trying to "apply", why not just send her a nice note to tell her what you liked about her profile? After all, you're trying to start a conversation with a stranger. If you saw an attractive stranger in real life, would you walk up to her and make an "application petition"? Of course you wouldn't (unless you're a total loser).

My advice is for you to forget the fact that she's a Domme. Also, forget the fact that you're approaching her on-line. Act as though you're approaching an attractive woman at the grocery store. Would you tell a woman at the grocery store that you're a "worthless worm"? Would you pull out your cock and show it to her? Would you call her "Mistress"? If you wouldn't do it in real life, then don't do it on-line.

Good luck in your search.

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 11:37:15 AM

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I'll add my own ditto to all the others.

OP: these are women you're talking to. I'd wipe the fact that they're femdoms until you've got to know them. On the other hand, if a 'lifestyle domme' hits you with a demand for an 'application' at the outset, and comes across as 'heavily Dommey', it's highly likely you're dealing with a 'bait-and-switcher' - someone pretending to be a lifestyle domme but who is only interested in your wallet.

In my experience, it's very, very rare for a lifestyle domme to engage with any submale in more than slightly Dominant/submissive style right from the get-go. Quite the opposite: she'll usually try hard to avoid D/s tones the better for you both to get to know each other as people, first.

The bottom line is always the same: you have to be in control of your kink. Otherwise, the best that'll happen is that you won't find a domme; the worst is that you'll get ripped off, or otherwise abused, in ways that you won't like.

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 11:44:30 AM

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OP: watch and learn... http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/8325689/the-meeting

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 11:47:11 AM

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if a 'lifestyle domme' hits you with a demand for an 'application' at the outset, and comes across as 'heavily Dommey', it's highly likely you're dealing with a 'bait-and-switcher' - someone pretending to be a lifestyle domme but who is only interested in your wallet.

In my experience, it's very, very rare for a lifestyle domme to engage with any submale in more than slightly Dominant/submissive style right from the get-go.

I agree with Peon. If a woman immediately asks you to send her naked pictures, she's probably a man. And if she immediately tries to get you off of CollarMe and onto her website or Yahoo, then she's going to ask for money (either through "tribute", or by getting you to join her pay site).

OP, have you tried going to a munch? I've never heard of anyone asking for money at a munch, and it's much easier to meet people in a casual setting like most munches are intended to be. I guarantee you that you won't need to make any "application petitions" at a munch.

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 2:58:16 PM

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My advice is for you to forget the fact that she's a Domme. Also, forget the fact that you're approaching her on-line. Act as though you're approaching an attractive woman at the grocery store. Would you tell a woman at the grocery store that you're a "worthless worm"? Would you pull out your cock and show it to her? Would you call her "Mistress"? If you wouldn't do it in real life, then don't do it on-line.

I've had that happen once.

Talk about embarassing! Okay not in a grocery store, but in a restaurant. It was horrifying.

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 5:05:24 PM

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My advice is for you to forget the fact that she's a Domme. Also, forget the fact that you're approaching her on-line. Act as though you're approaching an attractive woman at the grocery store. Would you tell a woman at the grocery store that you're a "worthless worm"? Would you pull out your cock and show it to her? Would you call her "Mistress"? If you wouldn't do it in real life, then don't do it on-line.

I've had that happen once. Talk about embarassing! Okay not in a grocery store, but in a restaurant. It was horrifying.

Wow! I can't believe anyone would be creepy enough to actually do that. Hopefully, he showed you a picture of it, and not the real thing. Yikes!!!!!

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 7:26:41 PM

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Oh no it was the real thing, pure flasher moment. I vow if it ever happens again I will launch a strong kick instead of backing away in horror.

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RE: application - 9/16/2011 7:26:48 PM

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Remember we are women first, dominants next.

This. ^^^^ Get to know her as a woman first, she'll appreciate that. Whenever I've met a sub, I've met him as two regular people meeting for the first time and we've just talked and gotten to know each other as people first. If someone was calling me "Mistress" or "Ma'am" right off before we got to know each other, yeah, it would bother me.

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RE: application - 9/17/2011 8:47:20 AM

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These are some smart people with good advice. OP, you should take this to heart, and expand on the situation if this didn't answer your question.

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RE: application - 9/17/2011 11:40:46 PM

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I've never heard of anyone asking for money at a munch, and it's much easier to meet people in a casual setting like most munches are intended to be. I guarantee you that you won't need to make any "application petitions" at a munch.

I need to go to the munches you attend. The waitress seems to ask Me to pay My check every time I go.

OP, if the term "applicant" or "apply" haven't been in the communications that you've had with this woman, or listed in her profile, it's not the term that you want to be using. Some Dominants will use it if they are specifically seeking someone to fill a service position in the household or another situation where it's *not* a relationship based dynamic. (I'll echo the pro domme comments that have been said.)

When males write to Me and use that term, I generally think that they are more fantasy than reality based. It's a cue that they aren't coming from prior real life experience and are getting their information either from erotica or porn. A very quick way to know that I wouldn't be interested in them.

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RE: application - 9/18/2011 7:36:30 AM

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i have been with a Domme before but was fired, i have also talked to Dublin Dommes and posted messages to them online but they have never responded, im trying to make myself irresistible, life is about asking questions, i asked the last Domme what films She was interested in in a email , She has yet to respond
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