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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/16/2011 11:38:06 AM

Rochsub2009

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

I don't know if it is just a guy thing, a line of bull, or whatever, but every guy I've been with (granted that's a small #) has contacted me later and said some version of: "I didn't know what I had," "I miss you," "I wish I'd treated you better." Maybe guys are more prone toward nostalgia and reminiscing? Or just more prone to keep my number in their black book? I don't know, but I have wondered about it.

Well, let me clarify for you. Here are a few translations from the Official Male Dictionary:

"I didn't know what I had" = Can I come over for a booty call?

"I miss you" = Can I come over for a booty call?

"I wish I'd treated you better." = Can I come over for a booty call?

Any questions?

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/16/2011 11:41:05 AM

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Roch is so wise

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/16/2011 11:41:18 AM

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geez.. I must have gotten a glimpse of teh Guys Manual.. thats what I always thought the translations meant!! LOL

Or maybe that how *I* translated them on my own..

or how I WANTED them to translate...

I now haz a confuzzled....

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/16/2011 11:44:41 AM

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Well yeah, why else would a guy call an old girlfriend? I just had to have a guy say it first

Because HEY! There a times when a booty call is a very pleasant thing indeed.

At least that's what I recall. Because I am now revirginized and who knows.

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/16/2011 11:57:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

Well, let me clarify for you. Here are a few translations from the Official Male Dictionary:

"I didn't know what I had" = Can I come over for a booty call?

"I miss you" = Can I come over for a booty call?

"I wish I'd treated you better." = Can I come over for a booty call?

Any questions?

, I always keep that reality in mind, when attempting to translate guyspeak. I've no doubt at all that they really do miss the hot, kinky sex.

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/16/2011 12:01:19 PM

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gS35hISn7x0&feature=fvwrel

One special guy comes to mind with this one! hehe

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/16/2011 12:10:42 PM

GreedyTop

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omg, I LOVE Lee Ann!! I've been so outta touch with new music.. for like about 10 yrs.. *sigh*

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/16/2011 11:22:10 PM

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The reason I worry about doing it is I don't want to look pathetic and irritating, like SadisticMs2 alluded to. I still want her to respect me at the end of the day.
I know the typical woman finds this terribly annoying. I just wondered if, as a Domme who enjoyed higher than average levels of affection/attention, you think she would react differently?

If you want information, then communication is the way to fulfill that need.

If you want respect, then you will leave it where it is.

You have multiple desires for a singular situation. You will not get what you desire.

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/17/2011 3:35:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Well yeah, why else would a guy call an old girlfriend? I just had to have a guy say it first Because HEY! There a times when a booty call is a very pleasant thing indeed.

At least that's what I recall. Because I am now revirginized and who knows.

LadyH,
Are you wanting a booty call????

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/17/2011 4:38:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: mummyman321

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

At least that's what I recall. Because I am now revirginized and who knows.

Are you wanting a booty call????

Get in line. I think we're going to have a race to see who can be first to de-revirginize her.

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/17/2011 6:03:01 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Why, Mummyman!! I didn't know you cared!

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/17/2011 8:06:47 PM

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You know me....just trying to help :)

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/17/2011 8:10:54 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Aww! Well it's nearly turkeyday!

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/17/2011 8:32:53 PM

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Gooble gooble......I am looking forward to that week :)

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/17/2011 9:03:23 PM

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I just got a phone call this week from an ex from over 10 years ago. It was nice to catch up with him and hear what is going on in his life. I liked hearing what the past decade has brought to him.

Had he contacted me seeking to rekindle any part of what we had, I probably would have a different opinion about the phone call.

Before you try to make contact with her, make sure you know what you are seeking in contacting her. If you want to catch up, that is probably ok. If you want her to be your Domme again or anything other than friend, its probably a bad idea to reach out to her.

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/18/2011 7:32:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: oneluckysub

Before you try to make contact with her, make sure you know what you are seeking in contacting her. If you want to catch up, that is probably ok. If you want her to be your Domme again or anything other than friend, its probably a bad idea to reach out to her.

Unless she's horny and would be interested in a booty call.

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/18/2011 11:47:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

quote:

ORIGINAL: oneluckysub

Before you try to make contact with her, make sure you know what you are seeking in contacting her. If you want to catch up, that is probably ok. If you want her to be your Domme again or anything other than friend, its probably a bad idea to reach out to her.

Unless she's horny and would be interested in a booty call.

The circle of life. Hope springs eternal.

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/19/2011 1:15:07 PM

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ReachingOut7,

I've contacted ex partners after long periods of being apart. Sometimes the motivation was purely friendship and other times I was curious whether the additional life experience would allow things to work again as romantic partners. The reality is... almost universally people have moved on and didn't welcome the contact. There's only one instance I can think of where a friendship (but not a romantic relationship) resumed. If you decide to approach your ex, I suggest doing so politely and in a way that invites nothing more than chatting as friends. And, if you don't get a positive response (or any response), abandon the attempt without further comment.

Edited to add: it's true that sometimes communications (emails, voice messages, text messages, and the like) aren't received. However, when it comes to contacting an ex, you're better to stay on the safe side by assuming "no response = no interest". I'll repeat what a few others have said already... no response is a response.

< Message edited by ElanSubdued -- 9/19/2011 1:18:49 PM >

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/23/2011 8:06:17 PM

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It's been an interesting week; coincidentally, I've been contacted by not one, but TWO ex- subs, and I'm being stalked by a 'domme'!

For the former, since both of the breakups were relatively adult, it was actually very nice to hear from them.
For the latter, stay tuned, since s/he keeps changing her addy, ID and gender, four times in one week, and keeps telling me in the first msg line s/he's 'not cyber-stalking' when she totally is. Wot a freak! But at least that type burns out quickly.

Anyway, as above, no reply is 'no', so don't push it. Write a nice, short, personable, vanilla e-mail, and see what happens.

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RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) - 9/23/2011 10:19:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: ReachingOut7

My girlfriend from a couple years ago was my first Domme. We never had a breakup fight or anything, she just stopped taking my calls after spending summer abroad. I don't want to be "that guy" who can't help but call up an ex. Then again, as a Domme, she wanted me to openly "over-saturate" her with attention, so maybe this would be flattery? As a Domme, how do you feel about getting a call, text, email from an ex-submissive out of the blue?

Here's my thinking on the subject;

Women are crazy. (That's probably why we love them).

Can't live with them....can't put them in a Crown Victoria trunk with less than a ham sandwich and some bottled water and get away with it (for more than a few weeks at a time anyway).

If you love her...pursue her...if it takes 10 years...pursue her.

But...if it takes longer than 10 years....consider the Crown Vic.

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