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seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Calling up an old flame (Domme) (9/24/2011 9:24:25 AM)
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ORIGINAL: ReachingOut7
My girlfriend from a couple years ago was my first Domme. We never had a breakup fight or anything, she just stopped taking my calls after spending summer abroad. I don't want to be "that guy" who can't help but call up an ex. Then again, as a Domme, she wanted me to openly "over-saturate" her with attention, so maybe this would be flattery? As a Domme, how do you feel about getting a call, text, email from an ex-submissive out of the blue?
Interesting question. As i was just pondering something similar myself! [:)]
And the answer is: i really don't know!
i find if i do not "over-saturate" a Lady with email, when meeting online, then i am doomed. Because email can be percieved as attention, and interest.
Likewise, even with intense and focused interest, She can, and does walk away.
Then, even worse, and typical, a year or two later, She come's back. And again, if you do not "over-saturate" ... whatever!
This is very consistent with my experience with real life realtionships, too! Call and/or text regularly, and on schedule as She is comfortable.
So giving lot's of attention; or at least what She percieves as genuine attention; is somehow critical.
But there has to be the right balance.
The only thing i can say here, is each Lady has a different manner and style with which She needs to be Romanced.
And you as a male, have to find Her style, and cater to it.
Sometimes you win, some times you lose.
Isn't that why it is called romance?
Good luck!
PS: If you find a sure-fire answer, please, let me know! [:)]
And PS: If you are male, and miss an old flame, ALWAYS TRY CALLING HER!
i have done this AT LEAST four times in my life. And it works HALF the time.
Plus, some ex's have called me, too! [:D]
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