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RE: Concent?!?! - 5/23/2006 3:06:56 PM

Wulfchyld

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*Do you ask or negotiate or talk about 'concent' before you play/meet someone if sex is going to be invovled or possibly invovled?

As most of you know I am a weirdo and sexual attraction works on many levels for me. It is night isolated to a fem with a pulse. For me to become intimate with someone I have to have many connections with that person. She has to be someone I find intellectually stimulating, emotionally secure, physically attractive and then there is the very important chemistry connection. For me the chemistry isn’t in a primal sense but in a spiritual sense. It is a hard thing to describe but the energy is there and it is electric!

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*Its just implied or an unspoken rule? Its a 'given' that concent is there since you are playing with that person?

I don’t play very often. I am very serious about only getting involved with people that I would seriously consider having a relationship with. I would make captive play exceptions during Lokiwood and consider some other play, but it would have to be negotiated very intensely.

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Do you negoiate 'concent' before you play or just 'go with the flow' and see how things work?

120% consensual.

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RE: Concent?!?! - 5/23/2006 3:45:30 PM

Wolf1020

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before I play with someone things are negotiated and I try to learn a few things-

What their hard limits are
What things they like
What things they dislike but are not hard limits
A set of two words one to be used as a flat out stop word and one as a slow it down word. I like to have both.
And if sex will be part of it, and if so if there is anything in regards off limits

First because I want to know before hand what she can't/wont allow to happen so that I can create a mutually satisfying fun and smooth flowing scene without needing to be stopped cause I am hitting one of her limits. And secondly because I don't want to be working a scene in a direction only to have it stopped because that direction is a hard limit or something not going to be happening in the scene. Scenes after that it would depend on just how often we played. Probably just a quick brush up or key points.

As for relationship the discussion would be more in depth and once entered consent would be implied 24/7 for anything not considered a hard limit until she either wants out of the relationship or until one of us decides to go over some things agian.

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